Comments on: 12 Rules To Keep A Man

By: Missy

Missy — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 18:01:03 +0000

Love It !!!

By: Grace

Grace — Wed, 06 Mar 2013 01:32:46 +0000

I think he is point on for all of his rules. He’s funny but correct. Evan covers many of these same points.

By: TraciT

TraciT — Sun, 15 May 2011 18:35:46 +0000

I LOVED this and as a female was not offended AT ALL! The guy was sooo spot on and hilarious. I really enjoyed hearing his point of view. I haven’t read any of the other comments, but I think that it should be said that just almost all of the guy’s points can also apply to men, not just women. As a woman (yes, single…haha), when I was hearing the rundown, I have to say that I would want a guy to take heed to a lot of those things too. Shoot some of those points can apply to platonic relationships as well! The only question I had/have is that if you’re a female that already does at least most of those things in her relationship(s) and it still doesn’t work out, what then? Is the answer really as simple as “he wasn’t the right guy”? If that stuff is really all that it takes, then wouldn’t the relationship just keep going? I have a hard time understanding how decent women still get dumped by decent guys, haha. Maybe there isn’t a simple answer, haha.

By: Annie

Annie — Fri, 13 May 2011 11:07:20 +0000

@89

I tend to agree with you Star on that. It seems to have lost it’s connectivity component and is almost a false form of intimacy with the way some people approach it.

By: Margo

Margo — Wed, 11 May 2011 00:31:33 +0000

I’m with SS and Starthrower on this one. Sanctity and love in marriage should always come first.

By: SS

SS — Tue, 10 May 2011 13:06:31 +0000

No flack from me Starthrower68. I understand what you’re saying completely.

Guess I’m not popular either!

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Tue, 10 May 2011 01:56:30 +0000

I’m sure I will catch flack on this, but all of the libertinism out there has cheapened and depersonalized sex. Sex is a good and wonderful thing in its place but its not really an elevation of the human spirit in this day and age. My viewpoint is not popular, I know. It’s a good thing I don’t care about being popular. )

By: Jadafisk

Jadafisk — Mon, 09 May 2011 23:25:20 +0000

"By now you’re getting all the way into sexual fetishes. Based on what I’ve gathered talking to friends who have sexual fetishes, they’re not inclined quit engaging in them for the rest of their lives. In their view, it’s not far from asking one of us to voluntarily enter a sexless marriage." That being said, the fetishist has to consider their realistic options as well. There are some sexual desires that are unlikely to be satisfied for free by anyone the person is remotely attracted to and able to get along with, who resides within a reasonable location radius, who is as equally motivated to satisfy them and is about equally as incompatible with others who refuse to engage in the fetish. There are people who will spend the rest of their lives alone because if they have a partner, that partner *must* diaper them while they mewl and shake a rattle during at least one out of every four sexual encounters. If the significant other won't do it... someone else may not either, depending on what it is.

By: Margo

Margo — Sun, 08 May 2011 05:28:44 +0000

“But Karl is right, if someone KNOWS they will not be happy unless they have “X” in their life, and there is no way to find a compromise, then that person may leave. It could be you, it could be him, and that’s life.”

Gem, information on what both people need should be revealed to each other before a relationship is entered into. That way, both people can be confident they can have their sexual needs met and no one has to end the relationship over sexual preferences.

As long as both people love each other and are trying to please each other sexually, both parties should be able to get over when the other one vetos a sexual request.

By: Gem

Gem — Sat, 07 May 2011 13:18:50 +0000

“Negotiation IS about power and control. We negotiate for resources and goods, which are the means by which we have any measure of power and control in human society.”
Negotiation CAN come from a place of power and control in a relationship or in dealing with business, but it can also come from a place of love and respect where both partners want the best for each other and want to find a happy medium which will be mutually satisfying.

The latter is what I want from partner and I want to give. I think that’s the point Karl is making.

“If someone says “No” to someone, and the other person keeps pushing them to try to change their mind, that is HARASSMENT.”

If my partner and I could not find a happy medium on something, after I openly tried to negotiate, sexual or otherwise, and he kept badgering me to wear me down, Yes, that would be Harassment. And it would be disrespectful and would show that he didn’t have my best interests at heart.

No one is suggesting a woman do that. The point is to be open enough to have the discussion, maybe try something new, and if possible compromise and negotiate a solution where both partner’s needs are met. If that model doesn’t result in a solution, respecting the limitations of each other is in order.

But Karl is right, if someone KNOWS they will not be happy unless they have “X” in their life, and there is no way to find a compromise, then that person may leave. It could be you, it could be him, and that’s life.

Loving each other is about trying to prevent that, and find solutions when possible.