No, not me (although you can come to your own conclusions). This is just the title of a really nice feature about some of my happy E-Cyrano clients.

So for all the people who want to fall in love…and for all the dating sites that want to help others fall in love… What are you waiting for?!

This stuff works!

Dial 1-866-432-9726 and I’ll personally help you become our latest success story!

Sure, there’s my upcoming book, the E-Cyrano partnerships in development, a fancy new home page redesign, my amazing girlfriend, and the fact that Duke is still alive in the Tournament, but what’s really floating my boat these days is that my clients are pairing up like rabbits. These three emails have all arrived in the last week and I couldn’t be happier:

Evan,

I believe it works! I’ve met a great guy already…after about 6 dates…I’m in Colorado skiing this week and my new “friend’ is making reservations to great events for us!

DJ, Palo Alto

Hi Evan

You worked with me on my profile (11/04). Anyway, I met someone last March, ‘05 and we have been dating exclusively since then. When his divorce is final, I think we will be making a long term commitment formally….

LR, Boston

Hi Evan,

Just thought I’d send you a quick note to let you know that your stuff works. You reworked my profile back in March of 2004 and I have gotten lots of positive comments on it by women.

Anyway, there was a girl I wanted to write to. Since she had that blah profile of generalities that everyone else has, I started to write her the same email that everyone else would send: how I’m close to my family and love my career and it sounds like we have lots in common. But taking the advice of your of your recent newsletter, I sent her a short, silly, made-up email.

Frankly, I doubted your system since it didn’t convey any “actual” interest in the other person as much as just an odd comment. Apparently though, it works, because she immediately wrote back! We’ve already exchanged several emails, and while I don’t know that it is going to go anywhere, I was pleasantly surprised at how well that little humorous email worked. I’d never of thunk it .

Thanks again,

KR, Cleveland

Couple this with lavish customer praise for three different E-Cyrano writers (Josh, Michaela, and Christine), and well, my spirits couldn’t be much higher.

The moral of the story, as usual, is that online dating works.

Writing creatively works. Acting thoughfully works. Keeping at it works. And if you’re not yet convinced, here’s another story that validates this premise:

Actually, let’s make that one its own post. (read “Handsome, But Clueless” above)

I spend a decent amount of time thinking of ways to express universal sentiments in a unique fashion. It’s what I do for online dating profiles, it’s why I enjoy being a dating coach, and it was definitely the impetus for me to write my latest book, “Why You’re Still Single: Things Your Friends Would Tell You If You Promised Not To Get Mad”.

Yet the longer I do this, the more it occurs to me that there are few unique situations, and even fewer definite answers. True wisdom comes in the form of synthesizing past experiences in order to prepare for the present. If you don’t have past experiences in a particular realm, that’s when it becomes useful to seek advice from those who do.

To wit, I received a really great email today from a client who had an experience with a man who has some personal and emotional problems. It’s a shame, because my client liked him, was attracted to him, and was cautiously optimistic about their potential. But, unfortunately, this gentleman’s “issues” will most definitely prevent any potential future between them.

Anyway, my client emailed me to ask for my take on things. She also gave me four bullet points about what she got out of her two-date experience with this man.

1. I started to like the emails and phone calls (you’re right, if they don’t call very often, they’re probably not that interested.)
2. It was okay to tell him I liked him, thought he was cute, looked forward to seeing him again, etc.
3. Found that I can still be physically attracted to someone and don’t need to settle for just companionship and no sparks.
4. It’s okay to pick up the phone and call a guy if he likes me. Also okay to initiate plans for another date.

At the end of the email, she asked me for my “professional” take on this whole thing. Of course, I told her the truth – she’d already figured out my take on this whole thing, just by working with me for a few months. The only difference is that she finally had the experience for herself, which reinforced the theoretical stuff we’d discussed on the phone.

So what could I possibly say to this woman who already had it figured out? Simply this: “You’ve already done the best thing; gleaned the positive from it. Cute guys are rare. Cute smart guys, even rarer. Cute, smart guys with their heads on straight? That’s the holy grail. Keep looking for it. You’re doing great.”

As I said in my last E-Cyrano newsletter, part of being a dating expert is making lots of mistakes and attempting to learn from them. It also means knowing when not to speak and when to acknowledge that someone’s doing everything right. I’m thrilled when clients can put the pieces together, draw logical conclusions, and act accordingly, as this woman did.

We can probably all agree that dating ain’t easy, but, with enough practice, I do think that we can all become “experts” on human behavior.