I sat next to an attractive man last night at a political function that included a formal, sit-down, 14-course dinner. This man and I chatted during the time he was there. Another attendee asked for my business card (because of a mutual acquaintance.) At the same time, the attractive man had to sneak out early, and said his goodbyes to the table. He hesitated when it came to me, and eyed my business card. I thought about offering him one, but the keynote speaker began a presentation.

Because this man told me where he worked (I am familiar with the firm,) would it be appropriate for me to send him a short, business-like email saying that I enjoyed talking with him? Continue Reading »

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Before you click on this week’s best link on dating, relationships and sex, ask yourself: do you believe that men involved in romantic relationships would be more or less likely to rate a 21-year old woman at the peak stage of her fertility as attractive?

Be honest.

Now read the results of the experiment in this New York Times article. Are you surprised? And what did you think of Dr. Jon Maner’s advice at the end regarding “mate guarding?”  Does it change how you feel about the related post below? Let me know in the comments.

(If you have trouble accessing the article, due to NYT asking you to log in, you can Google the title: “The Threatening Scent of Fertile Women.”)

Related post: My Boyfriend Is Staring At And Flirting With Other Women

The one thing I know about you is that you’re smart.

I like smart women.

I’d like to think I’m a smart man and that, if we met in real life, we’d be friends.

The thing with smart people like you and me is that we’re highly analytical.

We don’t think just one step ahead. We think 5 steps ahead.

We can’t help it.

And in most arenas, this is a strength. If you’re in business development, or corporate training, or even if you’re a schoolteacher, the ability to think ahead and control your environment is paramount to your success. Continue Reading »

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Hi Evan, I stumbled across your blog while looking for advice. It’s been really helpful for me so far! I have read what you’ve written on passion and chemistry, and I know you get a lot of questions on this topic. I am 27 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He is the kindest, most compassionate guy I have ever known. He treats me like gold and is just the coolest, most gentle person who understands me completely and is always there for me. I feel safe and calm when I am with him. He makes me so happy and when we are together we have so much fun and I am always so happy I feel like I’m on cloud nine! He really does feel like my soulmate and I feel so lucky to have met someone like him. I love him very much and have a strong feeling that I always want to be there for him and make him happy. There is just one little problem… Continue Reading »

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This week’s best news links on dating, relationships and sex.

From cat lovers to salad toppings? 17 weirdly niche dating sites (MSNBC video) Would you use any of these sites?

Study: Double-dating Improves Romance Have you tried “dating” another couple? Did it work for you?

Study: One third of us have tried dating websites with middle-aged suitors using them most

Study: Playing Hard to Get May Get the Girl

Study: traditional and online dating are, in fact, very similar

Poll results: Dating Dilemma: Who Picks Up The Tab?

And don’t forget, my interview for the Ultimate Soulmate Summit airs today. If you enjoy this blog and want to learn more about relationships from some of the world’s greatest authorities (and yours truly!) for free, click here to register.

No one wants to be merely average.

And, if you ask around, few of us think we’re average. In fact, I’ll bet that you feel you are smarter than average, kinder than average and better looking than average.

But what you may not have considered is that having high self-worth can actually be detrimental to your chances to find love.

It certainly was for me, your humble dating coach. Continue Reading »

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Just wanted to tell you about a few big things going on now.

First of all, I want to thank you – for two things.

1) This blog, which is just under 4 years old, hit a milestone today. For the first time ever, we have received over 100,000 visits in the past month. For a site with no partners, sponsors, SEO or Google Adwords strategy, that’s absolutely remarkable. And it’s all because of you – your questions, your comments, and your enthusiasm for this material.

2) I’m thrilled to say that your voice has been heard loud and clear on the About.com Readers Choice Awards. However, I know the other candidates are mobilizing their friends and readers to vote for them as we speak. And since you can vote every single day until March 8th, I’d appreciate you winning this contest for all of us by clicking on these two links:

Vote for Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach for Best Dating Blog.

Vote for “Why He Disappeared” for Best Dating Book.

Finally, you may have seen the ad on the right sidebar about the Ultimate Soulmate Summit. If you haven’t clicked on it, you probably should. It’s pretty amazing stuff for both men and women, singles and couples. 21 of the worlds leading love experts are coming together online to guide you through a step-by-step program to magnetize the love of your life. Better yet, it’s absolutely FREE. Continue Reading »

Mulligan or not acceptable? I read your blog daily, have sent it to numerous of my friends and even bought your online book. I have read tons of self help books and since reading yours, my dating life has changed drastically. I now feel in control of my own happiness and not the needy, clingy, over analyzer I use to be.

I’ve been dating this guy for a month and “mirroring” him, which has worked out great. Everything has been amazing so far! He takes me on real dates, follows up right away and is always consistent. For the first time in my life I have been able to just relax and let things flow with out putting a timeline on when things should happen according to me. Continue Reading »

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According to these fascinating statistics over at Online Dating Insider:

32% of men earning over $300,000 a year cheat.

32% of men earning over $300,000 a year cheat.

Only 3% of them eventually marry the other woman.

And 75% of THOSE couples get divorced.

But the real news is that, in our post-feminist era, where men and women are given equal opportunity, we’ve pretty much turned into one big, confused, gender.

For years, it was assumed that men were the only ones with wandering eyes, high libidos, and the biological imperative to seek variety. Now, women cheat 60% as often as men do.

Keep pushing, ladies! I’m sure you can catch up!

You’re already making strides when 56% of all Hustler video sales are to women.

That’s equality!

Check out the entire graphic, then discuss.

I’m very proud to announce that because of YOUR nominations in About.com’s Readers’ Choice Awards for Best Dating-Related Blog and Best Dating-Related Book, I’m now one of five finalists in both categories.

Thank you for tapping into one of my most unattractive character traits: intense competitiveness.

And, as you know, the only cure for competitiveness is VICTORY!

Anyway, if you’re as proud of this community as I am, your next step is to vote. You can vote up to once a day in each category until March 8, with winners announced March 15.

As I mentioned last month, there’s no “prize” other than bragging rights. But since I wouldn’t be here without you, I figured you’d take equal delight in showing the world that intelligent, rational discussion is on the rise. So if you’ve been reading, commenting, or just lurking here – and feel that this forum is beneficial to creating greater understanding between the sexes…

Please click here to vote for Why He Disappeared by Evan Marc Katz for Best Dating Book.

Click here to vote our blog, Evan Marc Katz, Dating Coach and our awesome community, for Best Dating Blog.

Thanks for reading and for being such an important part of my life.

Your friend,

Evan

P.S. Please comment below to tell me that you nominated the blog and book. Say it loud and say it proud!