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Mar31
You’re happy with your friends and family.
You’re pretty happy with your job. It could be better, but it’s good, all things considered.
You’re largely happy with yourself. You could be a bit more physically and emotionally healthy, but your self-esteem is still rather high.
The question remains, however… are you happy? Continue Reading »
Mar28
Hi Evan, I’m a big fan of the blog. I’ve been excited to start meeting guys in my new city (LA – same as you!) but I’ve already started feeling disappointed. I signed up for match.com and okcupid. It seems there are plenty of men looking on these sites but hardly any saying hello! And if they do say hello, the emails are boring – “Hey, I’m thinking of getting some sun this weekend. How about you?” Or they make me think these guys have me on a pedestal – “If you don’t mind me saying, I think you are beautiful, and your profile seems so genuine. I hope you write back!” Continue Reading »
Mar27
A study published this month by Australian researchers finds that both men and women are unhappy by the frequency of sex they’re having (or not having) in long-term relationships.
“The real issue here, I think, is that couples are not finding enough time for sex,’’ said Dr. Smith. “I don’t think you can keep forcing more and more activities in people’s lives and still expect them to take the time it takes to have sex, let alone good-quality sex.”
Read the New York Times article here. And please leave your comments below. Will you change anything about the way you currently talk to your partner about sex?
Mar24
Have you ever dated a man who fulfilled every quality on your mental checklist?
* He’s tall.
* He’s cute.
* He’s intelligent.
* He’s successful.
* He’s funny.
* He’s kind.
The feeling you get when you’re around this guy is amazing; you might even call it love.
In fact, let’s call it love.
Yes, let’s say that you are completely in love with this amazing man. To you, he is virtually flawless. And who am I to argue?
There’s only one nagging issue:
This man doesn’t love you back. Continue Reading »
Mar21
Hi Evan, Love your blog. Here’s my situation. I’m 37, single, and had a really bad breakup 2 years ago. I’m cautious but also a hopeless romantic. I finally meet this guy at a house party who intrigues me and reminds me of an old college boyfriend: cute, sweet, very shy. The first few dates, I really like him. He does everything right. He’s intelligent, curious, shows up, cooks me dinner… But around the 5th date, I start feeling ambivalent about him. Continue Reading »
Mar20
Last week, we asked “Is Race Just A State of Mind In Online Dating?” This week, we find out how online dating would look if there “weren’t so many white people” inundating the market.
OKCupid analyzed 82 million messages sent by members of their free online dating site to form their conclusions, focusing on their four largest single-race groups: whites, asians, blacks, and latinos.
According to their data: “white people actually prefer themselves the least, but right now there’s just so many of them. It’s interesting to think what things would be like if the shoe was on the other foot; if another race outnumbered whites 19:1.”
Read the article here, and don’t forget to check out the interactive visualization charts. In your experiences, do you agree that race affects both quantity and quality of messages? Please share your comments below.
Mar17
You know what it’s like to get devastated when a promising new relationship doesn’t work out? Well, take heart – you didn’t actually lose ANYTHING.
In fact, you gained the freedom to find the person you ARE meant to be with.
It may not seem to be the case, but I want to point out to you that it’s a blessing when your dead-end relationship finally comes to a close… Continue Reading »
Mar14
Evan – First, I’d like to thank you and everyone who posts on your blog. Now that I’m back in dating mode, I can use all the help I can get. You recently addressed the issue of how to get over a broken heart. Well when some relationships end, there is not only a broken heart but also a devastating financial impact which naturally has an adverse effect upon one’s emotions. The advice for a broken heart is usually a mixture of “give it some time”, “he/she wasn’t the right one for you”, and “find a new BF/GF.” Over time, the pain dissipates, and if someone is reluctant to start a new relationship because of fear of being hurt again, then the “is it better to have loved and lost than never to have loved” words start flowing. It’s all good advice and most people, myself included, are able to dust ourselves off and enter into a new relationship after an appropriate amount of time. The broken heart I have dealt with. The “broken bank account,” however, is a problem that I have to deal with for the remainder of my life. Continue Reading »
Mar13
During the 2008 US Census, most Americans said they approved of racial or ethnic intermarriage. At least six of every 10 people checked “it would be fine.” But data gathered from online dating sites illustrates a different story between what people believe and how they behave.
“According to a new UC Berkeley study of one million online daters, cyberspace is just as segregated as the real world. When it comes to dating online, whites prefer whites, research reveals. More than 80 percent of whites — even the 48 percent of males and 28 percent of females who said they were indifferent to race — sent messages to whites and just three percent contacted blacks.”
Read the article here, and please share your comments below.
Mar11
After ten months of dedicated service, my blog intern Cat has been promoted. This means there’s an exciting opening to take over the intern position, join my team, and put your stamp on the blog!
If you’ve ever thought, “I’d like to be a dating coach…” this is how you get your start. Seriously. Continue Reading »
