Hi Evan, Here’s my situation. I work at night (I go to work at 5pm). I love my job and my employer. This schedule actually suits me and my lifestyle perfectly. However, my dating life isn’t doing so well in the long run. I meet guys and go on dates but they always use my work schedule as an excuse to not continue dating. Now I realize I’m not going to get along with everyone and people come up with all kinds of reasons not to see someone anymore, but something’s not right when you hear the same thing over and over again (“you’re great but we’d never see each other”). Continue Reading »

Brenna Ehrlich and Andrea Bartz are the creators of the blog and book “Stuff Hipsters Hate.”

In a CNN article this week, they offer 7 humorous email openers that are guaranteed to keep you single. They claim that even if someone finds you attractive, “ironic mustache and all,” a bad first email can ruin your chances at romance.

Read the article here. On a more serious note, if you’re dating online, what kind of emails turn you off?

Have you ever been in a relationship with a person who made your heart flutter?

Who made your toes curl?

Who gave you butterflies?

Chemistry.

There’s no feeling like it. Continue Reading »

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My boyfriend insists on staying friends with a girl with whom he is attracted to, and who has point blank invited him to have sex with her. I feel uncomfortable, and he refuses to stop talking to her, insisting they are “just friends”. Am I being irrational? My boyfriend and I met, sparks flew, and things got serious very fast. He spent a lot of time with me and invited me to practically everything he did, including dinner with a female friend of his (who lives across the country and was visiting). Since I completely trusted him, I declined because I was tired. The next day we met up and he informed me that he was going to brunch with her and another friend the day after and broke pattern by not inviting me (we had previously made plans together for that day). Warning bells went off in my head. Continue Reading »

A friend on Facebook sent me a link to this notorious OkCupid profile. It is, to say the least, a good read about a woman who is burned out on online dating and now just sleeps with men for fun.

A brief snippet:

“The suggestion that I’m “acting like a man” is also based on the assumption that you can simply interchange male and female behavior in the first place. Doing so ignores the fact that male and female sexuality are regulated very differently in our culture. Women aren’t supposed to seek out and enjoy sex with multiple partners. They’re supposed to be selective with their mates. They’re supposed to barter sex for emotional security, romantic love, and domesticity. Men are supposed to avoid this trap at all costs. According to this logic, I can never act “like a man” because we already have a term for a woman who acts like I do: slut.

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Google the words, “The Secret of Life”, and you get over 66,000,000 results.

No, it’s not quite as many as Britney Spears, but it’s something that lots of folks have been looking for a long, long time.

Now, I’m not going to claim to know the secret of life – not yet, anyway – but I’m pretty sure I know the secret to a long-term relationship. Continue Reading »

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Hi Evan, I am a 37-year-old, physically attractive, kind and compassionate woman. Over the years, I have dated many men. Unfortunately, things never work out. None of my relationships last any longer than 18-24 months. I feel like I have a curse on me! Recently, I split up with my partner of almost 2 years (right on schedule). I’ve had it.

Here’s where the real trouble starts…I decided to give things a try with my best friend of 11 years. He is a great guy and has been a wonderful, supportive friend over the years. He is, and possibly always has been, in love with me. I do love him, but only as a friend. Evan, I am tired. I am tired of all these failed relationships; tired of moving in and out with people; and tired of the lack of stability in my, and my 15-year-old son’s life. I moved in with my best friend and told him we should be a couple. He jumped all over it. We are even building a new house together, which he is financing. Continue Reading »

In a new study called “Let My Fingers Do the Talking: Sexting and Infidelity in Cyberspace” by Diane Kholos Wysocki and Cheryl D. Childers reveal that women are more likely to send nude photographs or sexually explicit text messages than men.

About two-thirds of women surveyed sent “sexts” compared with about half of the men.

“Cheating is alive and well, and sexting is on the rise,” said Dr. Kholos Wysocki, whose first study of sex on the Internet dates to 1992, back in the dial-up days. “But I don’t believe the Internet is causing people to cheat. There seems to be something going on with marriage that’s the bigger social issue. Before, people would just get a divorce. For some reason, people are staying and cheating instead.”

The study results are base on an online survey of 5,187 adult visitors to the Web site AshleyMadison.com, an “infidelity” service aimed at married men and women, as its basis for analysis. Conducted in 2009, the survey asked 68 questions about users’ Internet use, sexual behaviors and demographics.

Have you sent explicit photos via text message? Have you cheated on a spouse or carried on a “sexting” affair? Read the full text of the article here and share your experiences in the comments.

Have you ever been nervous about a first date?

Not because you’re insecure that he’s going to like you; you’re actually quite confident that most men will respond to you.

The nervousness I’m referring to comes wanting to know what happens AFTER the first date. Your questions buzz through your head.

Is he financially stable?

Is he close with his family? Is he emotionally available?

Is he in a place where he wants a long-term relationship?

Is he going to call me tomorrow to say he wants to see me again?

In other words, you want to know the future – and protect yourself from heartbreak by figuring it out as soon as possible. Continue Reading »

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After taking years off from dating to focus (ok, hide behind) raising my kids, I got your Finding The One Online and started dating again. I wrote a kick-ass profile as you suggested and met more men and went on more dates than you can imagine. It was a really fun experience! One of the first men I started talking to quickly became a good friend. I had decided not to date him because we had different life experiences and he was not what I thought I was looking for. Continue Reading »

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