It’s been a crazy week.

And if, somehow, you’re still sitting on the sidelines, reading my emails, wondering why I am so insistent that you take action on your love life, this is your lucky day.

Because I want to share something special with you – and, once again, it’s FREE.

It’s a one-hour LIVE coaching event that I held in my home last week for five private clients who live in Southern California. They came to my home, met my wife and baby, ate dinner, drank wine, and then generously opened up their hearts with authentic, vulnerable, real questions – the very kind that you’ve been asking as well.

I decided to videotape the event, just in case something magical happened.

When you watch this video below, I think you’ll see that it did.

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There are two things I’d like you to keep in mind when you’re watching this video:

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If you learn something and want to pay it forward, SHARE it.

If you believe in the positive messages I’m trying to give to women to break free of bad men, SHARE it.

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Just add your comments below the video using Facebook and let your friends see what it’s like when smart women make smart decisions in love.

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Following the call, you can listen a recording of it on my Community site and you will also receive a CD/newsletter of the call a few weeks later.

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If you get great insights from this free video, just imagine what you can get when I answer YOUR questions on the phone each month.

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Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,

Evan

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It’s funny how I’ve been working on this all summer, yet I’ve been jamming these last few days to get things just right. It’s like my wedding, but more stressful.

But this morning, a calm has come over me – and that’s the exact feeling I want you to have after joining FOCUS Coaching. I’ve already given you a few priceless tips about how men think. The time has now come to give you everything else you need.

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Once you’re on that page, skip to the bottom, click on the order form, and, within minutes, you will learn everything about attracting and choosing the “right” men.

However, if all the special reports and emails and blog posts haven’t illustrated what you stand to gain by joining me in FOCUS Coaching, that’s fair. I want you to feel super comfortable before you do anything.

Take your time, read the long page, consider how it applies to your situation, look at the benefits and the testimonials, and sleep on it.

It’ll all still be here tomorrow.

The only reason to have a sense of urgency is because there are bonuses available to the first 100 women who join FOCUS Coaching, and that offer will probably be gone by the time you’re done deliberating.

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Thanks for your patience with me. I hope it was worth the wait.

Warmest wishes and much love,

Your friend,

Evan

I hope you enjoyed the video I sent out to you earlier today.

There are less than 24 hours to go before you can join me for FOCUS Coaching. Before you do, I want to thank you, from the bottom of my heart.

Your questions and comments these past few weeks have been invaluable, and have really informed what you will see in the final product.

Although I hate to be so anal about the details, it’s important to me that everything in FOCUS Coaching is PERFECT – the monthly teleconference, the member area and forum, the free download for Why He Disappeared, the graphic design for the newsletter, CDs and binders, the audio bonuses, and, most importantly, your experience in working closely with me.

So please pay really close attention to this email so you can get all the benefits of FOCUS Coaching at the best possible price.

Keep in mind that the only reason I’m talking about “limited” supplies is not because I’m going to run out of room on the conference line, but because this bonus-filled offer will take place until 11:59pm Sunday, October 2nd, never to return again.

And if you want to get your most pressing dating questions answered each month..

Or if you want to be one of the 100 lucky women to get a bonus Q&A with me…
Or if you want to get the 75 minute recorded interview with Rori Raye…
Or if you want to save 20% per month for as long as you’re in FOCUS Coaching…

You DEFINITELY want to be in front of your computer tomorrow between the hours of 8am and 9:30am PDT (11-12:30pm EDT).

Because that’s when I’ll be sending out a very special email to the women on my advanced notification list to be able to purchase FOCUS Coaching BEFORE everyone else on my list can get to it.

Since there are special bonuses for the first 100 women to join me (out of 35,000 women on my mailing list), you don’t want to delay.

If you haven’t yet signed up to be on the advanced notification list so you can reap all the benefits of this limited time offer, please click below and sign up below the video. This is your LAST CHANCE!

Tomorrow’s the big day – the day you’ve been waiting for – the day you and I will finally begin to work together in manifesting the relationship of your dreams.

With much love,

Your friend,

Evan

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As you can probably tell, things are heating up around here.

Once I decided that the best program I could offer you is the one that is comprehensive, interactive and affordable, it’s been all systems go.

My director, Ambika, has been indulging me for the past month as it takes about two hours to shoot a four minute video.

My interns, Lisanne, Karen and Onna, have been painstakingly working on the blog, posting photos, approving comments, and making things look good to the outside world.

My web team, Edgar and Tyler, have taken my big, unwieldy ideas and created something special from scratch.

But it all started with you.

Your answers to my survey gave me the inspiration to do something that no other dating coach does – a live, interactive coaching series, instead of just sending you a CD interview with some other relationship expert.

Over the last few weeks, I’ve given away tons of free information – special reports, and newsletters and blog posts and videos – all with one goal in mind: to help you understand how to attract and maintain a relationship with a quality man.

That’s an important thing to remember, by the way.

It only takes ONE man to make all this pain and confusion dissipate forever.

All the dates and the disappearing acts and the false hopes and the heartbreaks…they all go away if you can persevere and learn to make different choices that lead to better results.

If you practice what I am going to share with you in my FOCUS Coaching, you will save yourself years of repeating the mistakes that have plagued your love life, and open up to a new way of loving – one that actually WORKS.

I do hope that you feel I’ve been doing my job well – writing prolifically, stating my case clearly, justifying my observations with logic, and giving away a ton of useful content every week.

Check it out and pay attention to your inbox tomorrow for final instructions about how to get everything I’m offering to you at the lowest possible price.

Hope you had a great weekend.

Can’t wait to see you sharing it with the man you love!

Evan

P.S. If you still haven’t signed up for the early notification list, this is your last chance to do so. This is your only shot to get access to FOCUS coaching and exclusive bonus offers BEFORE everyone else snaps them up. Make sure you sign up below before Tuesday morning!

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I’m assuming that you’ve got a rich, full life, complete with friends and family, work and hobbies.

I’m assuming that you’ve loved and lost at least a few times.

Finally, I’m assuming that you’d prefer to find a happy, healthy, nurturing, fun, passionate relationship that lasts forever.

If I’m wrong – if you’d rather be alone than to have a happy, healthy, nurturing, fun, passionate relationship – then my new FOCUS Coaching isn’t for you.

If you’re reading this right now, I’m confident that you want the real deal, but you’re afraid.

If you don’t put yourself out there, if you don’t learn to understand men, if you just leave things the way they are now, nothing is going to change.

Afraid of putting yourself out there.
Afraid of being rejected.
Afraid that you aren’t as good at dating as you are at every other aspect of life.

But most importantly, you have this fear staring right back at you in the mirror:

You’re so afraid that you’d rather be alone than to risk getting hurt again.

And if that’s the case, you’ve already got your own wish. There’s no risk in staying alone – you can continue to live this way forever – but there’s also no reward.

There’s no one to cuddle with you on Sunday mornings.

No one to comfort you directly after a confrontation with your boss.

No one to surprise you with roses or fresh squeezed orange juice.

No one to provide you the unconditional support and companionship that you desire. And sex! Don’t forget regular sex with the man you love!

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You were delighted when I told you how to tell if a man was falling in love with you.

You were thrilled when I told you when to dump a non-committal guy.

I think you’re going to be challenged by what I’m about to tell you in my next video.

We’ve long ago established that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

That describes most of us when it comes to dating and relationships.

You’re wired a certain way. You’re attracted to a certain kind of personality type.

Over and over, you plug away, trying to make things work, even though it should be readily apparent by now: there’s not necessarily something wrong with YOU, nor is every man in your life fatally flawed. The problem is how you two work as a couple.

Two great ingredients don’t necessarily taste good together.

Lobster and cinnamon come to mind.

So what we’re here to do is try to reduce this to a simple science, finding a man who’s not just a great guy, but finding a man who’s a great fit for your life.

That may sound a little cold and cerebral to you, but I hate to tell you, following your heart has caused pretty much all of your relationship troubles. If love is blind, it’s my job to take the blinders off and let you know how to make slight adjustments that will lead you to greater happiness.

And let me be the first to tell you, greater happiness doesn’t rest in choosing a guy who’s just like you. My mantra to women is to look for a complement, not a clone.

This may not come naturally to you, especially if you’re a smart, strong, successful woman who thinks that you “deserve” a man who is smarter, stronger, and more successful than you are.

Essentially, you’re trying to date yourself, with a penis.

That kind of thinking is a huge blind spot for many women.

(Just imagine if men said the same thing: “I need a woman who is smarter, stronger, and more successful than I am.” No one would ever be able to settle down because everyone would be trying to trade up!)

This creates a conundrum for women who consider themselves in the 90th percentile of everything. In other words, the number of men who are taller, smarter, richer, is going to be a small fraction of the population. (Consider: 15% of men are 6 feet tall. 10% have masters degrees. 2% make over 200K, etc.)

Furthermore, these prime specimens of man meat are NOT necessarily looking to date female versions of themselves.

You may want these alpha male studs, but these alpha male studs often prefer women who are less busy, more available, less critical, and lower maintenance.

Therein lies the friction.

What happens when you catch one of these Bill Clinton/Tiger Woods type men?

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This is a question I received on my latest survey about a dozen times, which lets me know that it’s important to you. And if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.

You’ve said it to me loud and clear; you’ve been hurt before, you don’t want it to happen again, and you definitely don’t want to waste your time.

It’s important to remember, however, that nobody escapes matters of the heart completely unscathed. In 99% of relationships, either he’s breaking up with you or you’re breaking up with him. Somebody always gets hurt.

Which means that there’s a bit of risk involved in any relationship, and there’s not a single thing that your trusty dating coach can do to entirely eliminate that risk.

What I’d like to do is help you mitigate that risk a bit so that you don’t end up wasting too much time on the “wrong” men.

Which brings us to a notion that I articulated in “Why He Disappeared,” which has a funny way of always resurfacing on this blog: “Men look for sex and find love.”

This doesn’t mean he’s a player or a liar or a loser. This doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be a good husband and father one day. All it means is that when he shows up on the first date with you and sees how attracted you are, he’s not thinking about the long-term future, he’s thinking about the short-term future:

“How am I going to charm her? How am I going to make her like me? How am I going to give her an extra drink so I can get her back to my place?”

Once again, I’m not proud of this fact, but it’s true. Men become focused on the here and now, trying to make the most of the present moment.

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One of the most frequent questions I receive is about your frustration with the entire dating process and understanding what’s going through the minds of men.

While you’ve made up your mind about him – you love him, and you think he’s the one – you still aren’t confident that your relationship will endure.

This insecurity can take place at any point in a burgeoning relationship.

You’ve been dating him for two weeks and you feel electric chemistry.

You’ve been sleeping with him for three months and you’re not sure you’re exclusive.

You’ve been boyfriend/girlfriend for six months and he hasn’t said “I love you.” Continue Reading »

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Reading your responses to my survey was like reading my own blog…for four straight years. Whew. Just a huge outpouring of questions, love, pain and longing. Needless to say, there was much thematic overlap, sprinkled with some insightful comments and kind words. (Thank you!) Since I figured you’d be curious, here are the top 10 responses to my question: which dating-related topics are the most intriguing to you?

I’ve already expressed my surprise at the #2 response about meeting men in real life, but everything else seemed to make sense, and I’m really excited to start offering you my extended thoughts on these topics in coming weeks and months.

There were two other observations I had from the survey:

First of all, you didn’t express any curiosity about sex or first dates (both finished in the bottom 5 out of 25 topics). Let me just take the time to say that whether you’re interested in these subjects or not, I’m going to INSIST that you BECOME interested in them.

Because you can be a confident woman, understand when to compromise and when to commit, and be the world’s greatest girlfriend, but it won’t make a difference if you’re a crappy first date who’s bad in bed. (Same goes for any men reading this, for what it’s worth.)

My second observation that came from reading your most intimate personal questions is this:

You’re frustrated at who men are.

You’re frustrated that you feel there are no good men out there.
You’re frustrated that dating is difficult and fraught with failure.
You’re frustrated that men don’t see the world as you do.
You’re frustrated that men don’t communicate the way you want.
You’re frustrated that men don’t always want to commit when you do.

And since so many of you have a real problem with men, and I am a man, I decided to write up a very special report, based on your survey answers.

Sign up below to access this report, “3 Ways To Instantly Improve Your Relationships With Men.” You’ll also be put on an exclusive list to get first notification of my brand new coaching product, including a special limited offer before this product is released to the rest of the world:

In a Huffington Post article, New York comedian Juliet Jeske lamented that after the end of a nine-year relationship, she no longer knows how to date. She describes her experiences this way:

“As a person who is by nature very direct and to the point, dating is a mystery trapped in a puzzle, tucked in a fireproof safe thrown down a mineshaft. I just can’t figure it out.”

She goes on to say that “It is just sort of expected by many that you start the physical part of the relationship first, and then see if either partner wants to continue after the fact, sort of a try before you buy situation. Sex before emotional attachment, sex before any form of relationship, sex before everything.” Continue Reading »