Comments on: A Cute Foreign Man Is Flirting With Me. What Are His Motives?

By: Keiser-Chief

Keiser-Chief — Sat, 06 Aug 2011 20:01:46 +0000

Why do men have to be “cute”? I thought women were ‘above’ that. At least that is what they all write on all their blogs. So, it turns out that women are hypocrites? That they are really just as shallow as men? Hey, we men don’t pretend — we admit we are superficial and only interested in a woman’s looks. But woman have always pretended they were ‘above’ that, and interested in a man’s other qualities.
Bull.
They are as shallow as we are. I just wish that they would admit it.

By: mrs stone

mrs stone — Tue, 06 Jan 2009 13:11:40 +0000

i believe that although it is possible for men and women to be friends ,friendship is only the beginning of what could become something much more valuable! when we let someone into our lives and hearts as friends, the plutonic love that we feel for that person has opporunity to grow into much deeper feelings. it seems that you two have made the connection as friends already, you need to however not jump to conclusions about his feelings! wait until he flat out says “hey im into you” before letting yourself become too attached to the idea of romance and getting heartbroken if you were wrong about his affection! good luck to you!

By: thomas

thomas — Tue, 16 Dec 2008 06:24:33 +0000

Time to take a trip. They always give a new outlook on life. I love to travel, anywhere. I recommend it to anyone out there. It might be because I am a guy, but give me a 200 pound bag and send me to the mountains of a foreign country for a few months, and I am happy. Set me loose in the dance clubs of some land where English is not the native language and you are sure to meet a lot of new people. If anything, just get out and have in mind that you are going to have a good time. When you are not a native to the land that you are visiting, people are going to come up to you and see who you are. Be prepared to have a good time, but always keep your wits about you and know what you are getting into. I have taken several trips here in the states and abroad and I am a better person because of it. Go, be free, and enjoy life.

By: Michael Ejercito

Michael Ejercito — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 19:43:23 +0000

She was a virgin at 28?

By: moonsical

moonsical — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 01:35:48 +0000

Disagree that you always know a man is into you. Just had a man in my building tell me he’s thought I was hot for a long time, but didn’t think I’d be into him. Have many times gotten to know a man only to find he’s harbored feelings for me for some time. Who knew?

Many men feel inhibited about putting it out there. They may be insecure, think you already have someone (or you DID already have someone, and it was their friend!) or some other reason. That’s where you express interest. If they need a lot of prompting or propping up after that, it’s too much work, in my opinion. I’ll leave the door open, but I’m not gonna carry them across the threshold; that’s their job!

But in this case…you can’t tell over the miles, I don’t think. Cool it unless a meeting is imminent.

moon

By: Hot Alpha Female

Hot Alpha Female — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 22:01:01 +0000

I think evan is really onto something.

I think that men are really obvious and if you are a woman and you are confused about how a guy feels about you … then he is just not that into you.

I think if you come from this assumption all the time and cont on your life and that relationship with that assumption things will ride along much more smoothly.

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By: JuJu

JuJu — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 03:46:06 +0000

So, how about that forum, Evan?
When could we expect it?

By: James

James — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 00:10:52 +0000

Like some others already, I have to say that I disagree with this statement:

“Men and women can be friends if: a) he’s not remotely attracted to her, or b) he’s already hooked up with her and determined that he’s no longer interested”

Although the reasons why two people become friends rather than lovers can be complex, it definitely happens. My best friend is an astonishingly attractive woman, and without doing a long-winded analysis of why we never dated, I can say (1) we have always shared a mutual attraction, and (2) we have never hooked up. We are, simply stated, ideal friends. Think of how you feel about your own best friend of the same sex – that’s how I feel about her. It’s a real sit-in-the-sun-at-the-caf -together-and-debate-nonsense type of friendship.

Is there some sexual tension there? I guess so. Are we ever going to act on it? Nope. After all these years of knowing her, it would seem extremely weird to me, and I’m sure she feels the same way.

All that being said…. these types of friendships probably are pretty rare. Of all my other female friends, I can’t think of a single one that I was ever attracted to.

By: downtowngal

downtowngal — Fri, 05 Dec 2008 03:56:06 +0000

I agree with most of what eveone’s saying here. Renee, you’ll never know what’s up with this guy until you both meet in person.

It’s easy to be behind a computer because it’s safe. But you don’t know what this guy’s about or his real motives. if he’s really serious he’ll want to see you in person and not make it seem as if you’d have to put him up for even one night. A descent guy in this position would make arrangements to stay in a hotel before meeting you. And if things progress, take it from there.

There’s a lot of bs out there, and the internet makes it easier to bs. You sound like a trusting person, but just be aware or you’ll get duped again.

just my 2 cents.

By: thomas

thomas — Mon, 01 Dec 2008 23:51:54 +0000

You never can tell what this guy’s motives are, only he knows, he is the only one that can see what he is thinking.

In general, some people get fed up with their local selection when it comes to get their “mate on”. When looking for a partner, I have known that some people find it extremely arousing when they meet someone that is not from the same town that they grew up in. He might be in a situation where he is looking to break free from the spot he grew up in and, in general, dislikes the people that surrounds him.

If he is one that is looking for greener pastures, then a foreigner or someone that lives far away from his home turf is going to be exotic and tempting. I do not know, but this is a possibility.

I have been around a number of women that would not spit on me if I was on fire. Yet when they come to find out that I am from 1,000 miles away or a different continent, they want to buy me dinner. While we are eating and they are asking me a million questions, they now want me to stay for awhile and chill with them. Those are always nice, because they will even pack you a few meals to take with you.