Comments on: Am I “Needy” If I Want to Talk to A Woman I’m Seeing Online? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/ Tue, 18 Jun 2013 06:25:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Jennifer http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-392414 Jennifer Thu, 30 Aug 2012 12:51:42 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-392414 @ Michael #12

Thank you!  Hit the nail on the head!  No need for any further discussion.

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-342389 Karl R Fri, 15 Jun 2012 14:50:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-342389 James said: (#46)
“As it is I really don’t like women and I don’t usually give them the time of day.”

If a woman said, “I really don’t like men and I don’t usually give them the time of day” (or if she demonstrated that attitude), I would consider that a perfectly sound, non-fickle reason to avoid dating her.

Similarly, I would say that your statement indicates that you’re the type of man women should avoid. They’re women. You don’t like women. Some of them may be rejecting you because they’re fickle. Others may be rejecting you because they’re perceptive.

How do you feel about women who don’t like men and usually don’t give men the time of day?

Why would you expect women to feel differently about you?

]]> By: James http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-342350 James Fri, 15 Jun 2012 13:02:00 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-342350 Hi,
First off I will say that online dating sucks. It is too easy to reject someone. Women are fickle as it is. I tried it and don’t like it at all. I have much better luck at my local bar. You meet face to face and will know right there if there is an attraction.
As it is I really don’t like women and I don’t usually give them the time of day.

]]> By: Jen http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-57761 Jen Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:17:13 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-57761 Telling me you can’t live without me after one month, will render you needy, whether I am into you or not. I do no want to hold anyone else’s life in my hands.

]]> By: Tigerlily http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-15886 Tigerlily Mon, 20 Oct 2008 21:21:03 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-15886 You did nothing wrong. You can’t second guess yourself based on the behavior of someone you have never met. Perhaps she didn’t have net access and didn’t see your note. Perhaps she’s busy on dates with other guys. Perhaps she was really excited to meet you, then went out with someone else who she got really excited about and… a) she forgot about you, b) felt unsure if she should still see you. Most women aren’t used to playing the field. It could be so many things that have nothing to do with YOU.

]]> By: Mike Paahana http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-10459 Mike Paahana Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:54:10 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-10459 meeting girls online is easy, u jus gotta go for it, some times can sometimes no can but u not going no unless u chance um

]]> By: pericles http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-8459 pericles Tue, 27 May 2008 18:57:05 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-8459 I have made the semi-mistake of misjudging how much contact is necessary or desirable prior to actually meeting the person. It seems like, with a first meeting, that it’s pretty unnecessary to call prior to the meeting. If you have ONLY been online with the person or maybe a few phone calls, it is a BIG adjustment to actually meet the person. I’d say, you made the connection, you got the confirmation that you were meeting at a certain day, specific time; enough. Leave it alone. Show up when you said you would–that’s all that’s necessary. No in-between contact is necessary or probably even desirable. It’s anti-climactic to contact in-between. In-between making the date and keeping the date, we are figuring out what to wear, talking to girl friends, painting toenails, making our own internal arrangements… this is a bit of a stressful time. Having a guy call during that time doesn’t come off as needy, per se, but it does seem unnecessary. It’s just a bit too much extra energy at a time of some butterflies. Think of it as the kind of hiatus you need prior to a business meeting–if the client kept calling you when you knew you were seeing them the next day, what would you think? I promise you, it would not be generous. You might not see them as needy as much as you would think of them as slightly over the edge emotionally, a little too invested, that sort of thing.

]]> By: Michael Ejercito http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-4776 Michael Ejercito Sat, 16 Feb 2008 20:12:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-4776 I would not text a woman forty-two times a day.

For one thing, it would inflate my cell phone bill, which would leave me without money for important things – like taking her to dinner.

]]> By: Jessica http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-3633 Jessica Fri, 11 Jan 2008 23:01:06 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-3633 KAREN:
Thank you so much for the kind message! Glad what I said resonated with you. I realize now I should have put it in paragraphs to make it easier to read. I learn a lot from reading Evan’s blogs and the pursuant comments from other readers – both the men and the women – so am quite pleased if I have added to the experience for someone else as they have for me. You have a Happy New Year too! Hope you find whatever/whomever your heart desires.

]]> By: KAREN http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/comment-page-1/#comment-3619 KAREN Fri, 11 Jan 2008 18:25:38 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/am-i-%e2%80%9cneedy%e2%80%9d-if-i-want-to-talk-to-a-woman-i%e2%80%99m-seeing-online/#comment-3619 JESSICA:

Thank you for your most brilliant observation. I applaud you! You have stated all that I feel and think. We as men and women must be more appreciative of the opposite sex. We must stop looking for someone “better” than the one we just met. We need to just give everyone a fair chance. Again, thank you Jessica for your fantastic observations. Happy New Year and much luck to you!!

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