Comments on: Are Men Manly Enough?

By: Lucy

Lucy — Tue, 04 Sep 2012 08:27:10 +0000

I was thinking of this earlier after reading about this man who had a problem with a female stalker. Everyone treated it as a joke whereas in a situation reversed, it would have been the opposite. And the same happens with men who have abusive partners – always told to man up. Ah that’s a bit serious but my point is that people have the wrong ideas about what makes a man, and that causes men a lot of harm.

By: Aaron

Aaron — Sat, 01 Sep 2012 04:24:07 +0000

“If you’re a typically masculine woman, you’ll have a better fit with a typically feminine man”

LOL! I can imagine a makeup wearing, wispy little metrosexual guy in a room with some bodybuilder Amazonian woman HAHAHHA~!

By: Clare

Clare — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 12:41:11 +0000

@ Sheyna # 49

I ADORE your description of a manly man. Someone who loves women for all that they are (occasional irrational emotional moment and all) and is gentle to them.

To me, it takes a real man (or woman) to look at the opposite sex and respond with tenderness rather than criticism.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 21 Aug 2012 01:28:41 +0000

Let’s break this down.
“FYI, I am 5’7″, 120 lbs (thats “fat” winter weight, btw) with long black hair, dark skin, and exotic looking light eyes.”
Cool. If you can catch his eye, you can catch his heart.
“I have three college degrees.”
While you might be impressed with a man’s three degrees, he cares not one whit about yours. In fact, you might come across as an unpleasant know-it-all.
“[I] am fit (170 ultramarathons thus far)”
Kind of a bonus but you seem rather obsessed by it. 170?! How can a man compete with that? How is he your priority when you’re out training and doing yet another ultramarathon?
“[I]am serious about social justice and the environment (and walk the talk).”
Completely and utterly irrelevant to him.
“I clean up well, look like a girl.”
The feminine attracts the masculine and men are visual. You get brownie points.
“…but also can build my own buildings and split my own wood.”
A bonus, but not required.
“Real manly men treat women well.”
Only if the women are feminine and deserve it. Welcome to Dating 2.0

By: miskwa

miskwa — Mon, 20 Aug 2012 21:36:25 +0000

@ Paragon, sorry for taking soo long to get back to you but I hafta write on my computer to avoid some of those nasty but sometimes amusing typos. FYI, I am 5’7″, 120 lbs (thats “fat” winter weight, btw) with long black hair, dark skin, and exotic looking light eyes. I have three college degrees, am fit (170 ultramarathons thus far), am serious about social justice and the environment (and walk the talk). I clean up well, look like a girl, but also can build my own buildings and split my own wood. So, pray tell, what IS my ltr league?! I would think that it’s someone also fit, educated, and cares about our planet and others. Like works best with like which is basically what that article stated. Lowering your expectations (and yep, I have tried to “settle”) can be a disaster. you are with a man you do not want; not fair to either party. Tis better to know what works for you and what does not, if what works is unattainable in your area, either leave or stop dating till you are in a position to leave. Right now, I am doing the latter. Sad but necessary. I agree with many of the other posters, treating people well is not a function of looks, attractive men can and do treat women well and I had encounters with unattractive and average men who were veritable founts of negativity and invective. Real manly men treat women well.

By: Paragon

Paragon — Thu, 16 Aug 2012 08:24:00 +0000

@ Rachael

“Paragon

You’re not accounting for various tastes.

Some men like big boobs, some like asses, chubby, skinny.

I don’t know if it’s like this everywhere but there are a lot of african men where i’m from (no i’m not ignorant I DO mean men who moved from africa) who LOVE heavy set blonde girls. These guys are smokin hot.”

Yes, but are we talking LTRs or baby-mommas?

@ Mia

“Paragon, I’m a tall, young, athletic size 2, but I do think that’s besides the point.”

On the contrary, Mia.

Research surrounding the ‘self-seeking like theory’ of assortative mating, observes a correlation between long-term mates and assortative mating.

http://www.epjournal.net/articles/narcissism-guides-mate-selection-humans-mate-assortatively-as-revealed-by-facial-resemblance-following-an-algorithm-of-%E2%80%9Cself-seeking-like%E2%80%9D/

Clearly, this is an instructive observation for any woman looking to maximize her liklihood of finding a long-term mate.

So, what you have related is, in fact, a favorable indication for long-term mating.

I am hoping it works out for you.

By: Joe

Joe — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 13:57:18 +0000

@ helen32 #112:

Where can a guy meet one of these very attractive, educated, cultured women who know how to fix their own cars?

@ Laya #113:

IMO the reason the US Olympic women are outpacing the men is Title IX. The rest of the world just doesn’t have that driver for womens sports.

@ Nicole #119:

You sure do get that privilege. The not-quite-as-hot girl who’s fun to be with gets a lot more 2nd dates than the hot girl who isn’t fun to be with, just like the slightly short or balding guy who’s chivalrous gets more 2nd dates than the tall a-hole.

By: Mia

Mia — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 13:32:53 +0000

Paragon, I’m a tall, young, athletic size 2, but I do think that’s besides the point.

By: Clare

Clare — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 09:27:20 +0000

I have to say I agree with Fiona # 109.

Where I live, it’s convention. Everyone knows and understands the convention. A man and a woman trying to split the bill on a first date is socially awkward, to say the least. To be honest, on the one occasion that it has happened to me, I felt as bad for him as I did for myself because it was so awkward, I just didn’t really leave the date with a good feeling at all. And I can honestly say I’m a non-materialistic woman.

Oh and Helen & Rachael, please invite me too! I’ll even fly up!

By: Rachael

Rachael — Wed, 15 Aug 2012 06:58:16 +0000

Paragon

You’re not accounting for various tastes.

Some men like big boobs, some like asses, chubby, skinny.

I don’t know if it’s like this everywhere but there are a lot of african men where i’m from (no i’m not ignorant I DO mean men who moved from africa) who LOVE heavy set blonde girls. These guys are smokin hot.

They do only go for the beautiful ones who dress nice, smell good, wear make-up, jewelry etc.

Meh. I guess it’s cultural. I’m questioning my rebuttal.