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As you may know, I was an early adopter of online dating. Even though it was 1997, and I was only 25, it was far easier for me to get the guts to approach women via email than to risk getting shot down in person.
Years passed and I honed my skills, to the point where I was actually quite good at getting women to respond to me. But one thing hadn’t changed at all:
I was miserable.
I was a struggling screenwriter with a slacker writing partner, an indifferent agent, and no commercial successes to my name. To pay the bills, I sold shady hair restoration products over the phone in a boiler room.
Do you think that the right man will be able to see through this façade of negativity? That he’ll ignore the fact that you’re unhappy and bitter?
And although I fancied myself to be relatively cute, funny, and charming, nothing seemed to overcome the fact that I was pulling in less than $35,000/year all through my 20’s. My life seemed to be study in frustration, failure, and impotence.
One night, when I was talking to a German girl with strawberry blond hair whom I met thru JDate, it all came to a head. I was talking on the phone with her, sharing details of my day job, my career, and my endless frustrations with life in Hollywood.
She listened patiently and then finally cut me off with this cutting line:
“You don’t need a girlfriend. You need a shrink!”
I’m sure I fought back. I’m sure I told my friends how rude she was. I’m sure this further cemented my story of awful Los Angeles JDate women.
But the truth is that she was RIGHT.
My negative outlook on the world seeped into my every word and action. I was a depressed and beaten man, and while I wanted to be light and free, I just couldn’t help myself. I was hoping that my dates would get a look of the goodness inside of me, but all they could see was my thick layer of hurt.
So take a look in the mirror.
Are you anything like me?
Do you complain about dating? Work? Men? Life?
Do you worry about wasting your time on the wrong men?
Do you go on dates with no emotional investment, just looking for faults that will allow you to not go out with him ever again?
Do you think that the right man will be able to see through this façade of negativity? That he’ll ignore the fact that you’re unhappy and bitter? That he’ll break down your walls because, at heart, you’re so kind and giving and brilliant?
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