Comments on: Are You Seduced by the Clarity of Passion?

By: Margaret

Margaret — Sat, 21 May 2011 18:15:11 +0000

At NN, #5. I am right there with you. I’d be thrilled to meet a man that is physically attractive in my eyes and has the other qualities. I won’t settle on either aspect, because I don’t think that is unreasonable.

By: Born Again Virgin

Born Again Virgin — Thu, 12 May 2011 01:52:06 +0000

Zann 14 – I absolutely love your visual of carrying around a baggie with crumbs in it . . . for a year. I beat myself up nearly every day that I can’t/won’t let this emotionally unavailable guy go. I got suckered into a “friends with benefits” situation, which I was willing to do because of circumstances in my life. But, as I discovered, it is almost impossible for me (and maybe for most women) to have repeated sex with a guy and not become emotionally attached. The funny thing is that he got emotionally attached but chose to withdraw rather than tell me. Still, those scraps & morsels keep me hanging on.

After I submit this post, I’m going to go get a baggie and look for some really pathetic crumbs. I never thought about a visual aid, but it might just work. Now, if I could only get some scraps & morsels to keep in a bag. . . .

By: Margo

Margo — Wed, 11 May 2011 00:29:09 +0000

SS and starthrower, I’m attracted to this particular guy because he has a good heart, among other things…hehehe.

Yeah, I know that isn’t enough. Sigh.

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Tue, 10 May 2011 01:39:47 +0000

Margo, I pity the woman that ends up with that guy for the long haul and the baby they subsequently make. He’ll have them both emotionally screwed up.

By: SS

SS — Tue, 10 May 2011 00:39:01 +0000

Gem,

Ah, I must have missed that post.

By: Gem

Gem — Mon, 09 May 2011 21:37:06 +0000

“So, uh, what’s appealing about him again?”

I believe she said it’s what he has in his pants.

By: SS

SS — Mon, 09 May 2011 21:03:02 +0000

Margo… here’s my comment…

To be honest, from everything you’ve said about this guy across multiple posts over the past month or so, I see little positive about him and nothing that leads me to believe that this is a man that has the potential for anything lasting.

He drops in and out of your life, he has a Madonna/whore complex where he tries to have sex with women and then judges them if they did it too early, he has some mental illnesses (which maybe would be manageable if that was the ONLY problem he had), he wants kids and you don’t.

So, uh, what’s appealing about him again?

By: Margo

Margo — Mon, 09 May 2011 18:59:59 +0000

@Bill #31, Bill if that’s the case, with the guy I like we would probably have 20 kids! Haha. As it is, he sees a baby in his future, but I don’t want any more kids.

Do I need to say goodbye? (comments welcome from anyone)

By: Gem

Gem — Mon, 09 May 2011 18:42:51 +0000

“You should follow natures desire for the SHORT TERM it will lead to the highest most amazing emotional fulfillment.”

Instant and temporary gratificatin does not equal emotional fulfillment.

But it sure can be fun for awhile

The best scenario is to find chemistry and compatibility in a person who has the qualities for a life long, and fulfilling relationship.

Now….where did I leave my magic lamp?

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Mon, 09 May 2011 17:29:43 +0000

@ Bill #31,

There are consquences to following impulses and not always good. That highest most amazing emotional fulfillment is quite easy to get addicted too and when it goes away then one has to find another source for it.