Comments on: Bad Date Bingo

By: Clare

Clare — Thu, 24 May 2012 10:11:27 +0000

I went on a date with a guy whose profile picture I discovered when I met him was *very* flattering. He insisted we go out somewhere close to his house so he could walk there because he didn’t have a car, even though it was a long way for me to drive. At 33, he still lived with his mother and was a student who, even though he only studied 7 months of the year, didn’t feel like getting a job. But, that was ok, he assured me, he wouldn’t expect me to “pay for everything”. He did however expect me to spring for my own drink.

Despite all of this he seemed to think he had a lot going for him and spoke arrogantly of his superior intelligence and opinions, and how stupid other people were.

He seemed to think that the date had gone rather well, however, and texted me later in the week to suggest that we “Skype”. Be still, my beating heart.

By: Abir

Abir — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 20:25:00 +0000

Hahahaha, nice picture. But this is reality. There are many men who doesn't have the guts to impress a single woman. Only one reason I can mention here that they are mostly shy or anxious about what they will or would do in certain situation. So, I am gonna share a video where I got at the first place as I was a really super shy guy. But look at me now! I'm commenting with confidence, So guys MAN-UP and Learn how to overcome approach anxiety, how to start a conversation, how to develop the conversation, how to build trust, how to create attraction and how to get her number easily and without nerves. Best of Luck, Abir

By: david

david — Fri, 28 Oct 2011 18:56:31 +0000

Hmmm — off the top of my head
- The girl who with the slightly deceiving pictures (who smoked, a 180 from her profile) who brought me to a dinner party full of cyber-punks. The host tried to force feed me garlic baked squash as a laugh.
- The woman who was in her 50′s who looked much, much worse than her pictures and who scolded me about looking at my watch during a very casual meet up at a Venice street fair. I remember being back at my apt within the hour.
- the girl who was so socially awkward and weird, I felt like every fiver of my body felt like it was going through a black hole made of shards of glass. When I asked her if people called her “quirky” she said, “Yeah, that and weird.”
- Woman who came over for a “booty call” (our first), came by looking a wreck and when I went to get her a glass of wine said, ‘is that the wine you have to get girls drunk with?” “Ummm, no it’s the wine I cook with.” I understood how a woman’s libido can take a nose dive the minute a guy says something stupid — I felt it myself, in my body.

By: Erinlee

Erinlee — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 19:26:52 +0000

I once went out on a date with a man who was much wealthier than I. Most of the date was tolerable, but it was obvious we didn’t have much in common. What completely me turned me off was his comment when he saw a woman on the street with her children. She was not gifted with the best of looks, to say the least. He says to me, “some people shouldn’t be allowed to breed”. Ugh, are you really that full of yourself?! I drove that night, and we sat in the parking lot as I was to drop him off at his car. Neither of us were going to ask for a second date and I’ve never had a man get out of my car more quickly then that night. Guess I wasn’t ‘good enough’ or ‘high class’ enough for him, not that I would have wanted to be, geesh! Thankfully our paths never crossed again.

By: Goldie

Goldie — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 19:18:18 +0000

I call Comment Of The Day on #14!

By: Steve

Steve — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 19:13:40 +0000

Here’s a random set, none really bad (because I am a positive person), but in retrospect, the dates didn’t show much in
1) We meet and she instantly reaches out to shake hands. It was done in such a formal and impersonal way. Ive had this happen a few times, and in every experience experience, this always signals that she is closed to the possibilities of a date. Examples: With woman #1, we have ice cream, walk around the neighbourhood and she shakes hands as we depart. With woman #2, she asks me to take her to a wine bar and picks the most expensive one in the neighbourhood. We chat, I pick up the bill, and she shakes hands as we depart. Woman #1 emails me afterward and says she’s busy for the next few months. Woman #2 doesn’t even respond to my follow-up email. Is that a “quick fade” and/or just rude? In both of those, they are still on-line now, 6 months later.
2) She texts me the morning of date asking to reschedule for 2 hours later. She still shows up 15 minutes late. We walk around an outdoor art exhibit (my suggestion as she is into the arts). When we finish, I suggest we grab a drink (coffee or beer). She suggests lunch instead, as she hasn’t eaten yet. I oblige. Halfway towards the restaurant, she wants to go see an art exhibit at the art gallery after lunch. I say sure, to go with the flow. After lunch, she has no money, so I pay. Then as we go towards the art gallery, she tells me she is not interested in me romantically, but can see me as a friend. She said she didn’t feel any chemistry and that I did not sound excited about her projects when she told them to me back at the outdoor exhibit. I am stunned. When we are at the gallery, as she pays for her ticket (with her credit card), she asks if I am sure I’d like to join her. I guess she can see that I am a bit speechless. I said, I think I’m going to go, and I left. I’ve never done that before, but I’m glad I did.

By: Laura

Laura — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:52:46 +0000

I think U’s post was supposed to be humorous, and I doubt that the date even really happened in real life. I thought it was pretty funny, but yes, offensive and insulting to women. But I still laughed out loud.
I’ve had a lot of worst first dates.
-The attorney who told me he was an exhibitionist on the first date.
-The guy who can’t resentfully stop talking about his ex. (this happens way too often!)
-The guy who had a skin condition who kept trying to touch me even though I squirmed away and then sent me a very critical message afterward about how there needs to be more touching in the future, and more eye contact on my part.
-Guys who talk about their value as future husbands and what they are looking for in a wife. Similar to guys who talk about their exes on first dates, this violation of first date etiquette happens way too often.
I don’t knock a guy for being nervous at first. I think it’s kind of cute when they’re shy, and it makes me think they’re more sincere for some reason. I’m a bit socially awkward at first, so I totally get it. First dates always feel like a job interview anyway, so if I see any potential at all, I usually give them another chance.

By: Jesse

Jesse — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 16:18:28 +0000

EMK: I think your sushi date was full of feminine energy. Very receptive and not a doer.

By: Goldie

Goldie — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 16:05:45 +0000

Dude looked nothing like his pictures. For our first date, he gave me three options: 1)walk our dogs together, “but I need to warn you that all of my dogs have fleas”; 2)coffee or drinks; 3)grocery shopping, “because I need it done and I despise grocery shopping”. I passed on Option 1, and proposed 3, followed by 2. He asks where I want to meet, since we live 40 miles apart. Silly me said “let’s meet halfway”. He got on Googlemaps and found a store that was exactly 20 miles from both our houses… in a horrible neigborhood… and he was ten minutes late, as he was cruising the area trying to find the store. I stood in front of a discount grocery store in a bad area for ten minutes, all dressed up, getting stares. After we got done with our shopping, we went looking for a place where we could have our drinks or coffee. He didn’t have one in mind, and neither of us knew the area. We cruised around in his car looking for a bar, found one, but it looked so scary that we didn’t even stop, and went back to the grocery store parking lot instead. He asked if he could smoke, I said okay, he proceeded to chain smoke five cigarettes. Eventually the smoke gave me a migraine, so I went home. He emailed me saying, “I had a hard time reading whether you want to meet again” this man has a PhD in Psychology. This is the worst I have so far — I realize it’s pretty mellow, so I guess I’ve been lucky (and selective).

By: sarahrahrah!

sarahrahrah! — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 03:23:30 +0000

After trying to get published in another lifetime, I caught the attention of a newspaper columnist who was a bit of a local celebrity. Initially, I was flattered. We met at a diner cafe (think Denny’s) and he proceeded to tell me how great he was. Over my Breakfast Sampler, I also found out that he really wanted to have fun and that his long-term girlfriend of several years had given birth to his son six month ago. And how she supported him in his lavish lifestyle that a newspaper columnist could not afford (my inference) and how she didn’t care that he went out with other people, etc., etc. (Oh, really???) And how I had such wonderful eyes, had anyone ever told me that?
As for me, I had some fun asking this guy pointed questions, seeing if he actually had a conscience. I drew the conclusion that one can be a fantastic writer, but a really bad life partner. (And no, Evan, this isn’t a veiled or unveiled reference to you!)