Comments on: Break-ups Aren’t Always a Bad Thing, Sometimes They Are the Best Thing to Come Out of a Relationship http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35854 Karl R Tue, 23 Jun 2009 15:55:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35854 <b>Hat Pines said:</b> (#12) <i>"I am a virgin- the untermensch of untermensch."</i> Having sex isn't that much of an accomplishment. If you're having problems getting laid, lower your standards. If you're still having problems getting laid, lower your standards even further. You probably won't feel any better about yourself after you get laid, but at least you'll have dispelled yourself of the ridiculous idea that getting laid is a meaningful accomplishment. If you want to accomplish something difficult, voluntarily choose to remain a virgin. That takes ... well ... more willpower than I have. <b>Hat Pines said:</b> (#9) <i>"When I was eighteen [...] When I was thirty, I did not have a girlfriend."</i> <i>"This has never happened to any other person in the world except me."</i> You sound very self absorbed. What makes you think you're that special? Not only has the same thing happened to numerous other people, I can name a couple off the top of my head. You have a severe lack of confidence. You think very little of yourself. And those traits interfere with your ability to have a relationship. The one thing that makes you an untermensch is your belief that it's true. Hat Pines said: (#12)
“I am a virgin- the untermensch of untermensch.”

Having sex isn’t that much of an accomplishment.

If you’re having problems getting laid, lower your standards. If you’re still having problems getting laid, lower your standards even further. You probably won’t feel any better about yourself after you get laid, but at least you’ll have dispelled yourself of the ridiculous idea that getting laid is a meaningful accomplishment.

If you want to accomplish something difficult, voluntarily choose to remain a virgin. That takes … well … more willpower than I have.

Hat Pines said: (#9)
“When I was eighteen [...] When I was thirty, I did not have a girlfriend.”
“This has never happened to any other person in the world except me.”

You sound very self absorbed. What makes you think you’re that special? Not only has the same thing happened to numerous other people, I can name a couple off the top of my head.

You have a severe lack of confidence. You think very little of yourself. And those traits interfere with your ability to have a relationship.

The one thing that makes you an untermensch is your belief that it’s true.

]]> By: Hat Pines http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35770 Hat Pines Tue, 23 Jun 2009 01:08:21 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35770 I am a virgin- the <i> untermensch </i> of <i> untermensch </i>. I am a virgin- the untermensch of untermensch .

]]> By: starthrower68 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35765 starthrower68 Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:55:01 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35765 I was involved with someone for about a year; I'm not going to go into all the details or criticize him because heaven knows I was not at a good place in my life when we were together. We managed to become friends and his current gf is one of my closest friends. But she has more patience with him than I would have now. I could not have stayed in a relationship with him. It would've taken way more than I would have been willing to give it. I was involved with someone for about a year; I’m not going to go into all the details or criticize him because heaven knows I was not at a good place in my life when we were together. We managed to become friends and his current gf is one of my closest friends. But she has more patience with him than I would have now. I could not have stayed in a relationship with him. It would’ve taken way more than I would have been willing to give it.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35757 Jennifer Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:16:22 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35757 @Hat Pines #9- You paint a pretty bleak picture. Did you have any relationships with anyone at all (hook-up, friend, close family?) Maybe you should hire Evan as your coach. @Hat Pines #9- You paint a pretty bleak picture. Did you have any relationships with anyone at all (hook-up, friend, close family?) Maybe you should hire Evan as your coach.

]]> By: Hat Pines http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35756 Hat Pines Tue, 23 Jun 2009 00:04:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35756 It is better than not having a relationship at all. When I was eighteen, I did not have a girlfriend. When I was nineteen, I did not have a girlfriend. when I was twenty, I did not have a girlfriend When I was twenty-one, I did not have a girlfriend When I was twenty-two, I did not have a girlfriend When I was twenty-three, I did not have a girlfriend When I have twenty-four, I did not have a girlfriend. When I was twenty-five, I did not have a girlfriend. When I was twenty-six, I did not have a girlfriend When I was twenty-seven, I did not have a girlfriend. When I was twenty-eight, I did not have a girlfriend When I was twenty-nine, I did not have a girlfriend When I was thirty, I did not have a girlfriend. This has never happened to any other person in the world except me. So be grateful if you have had a break-up, 'cause at least you had someone just like everyone else except me did. It is better than not having a relationship at all.

When I was eighteen, I did not have a girlfriend.

When I was nineteen, I did not have a girlfriend.

when I was twenty, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was twenty-one, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was twenty-two, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was twenty-three, I did not have a girlfriend

When I have twenty-four, I did not have a girlfriend.

When I was twenty-five, I did not have a girlfriend.

When I was twenty-six, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was twenty-seven, I did not have a girlfriend.

When I was twenty-eight, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was twenty-nine, I did not have a girlfriend

When I was thirty, I did not have a girlfriend.

This has never happened to any other person in the world except me. So be grateful if you have had a break-up, ’cause at least you had someone just like everyone else except me did.

]]> By: Joe http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35737 Joe Mon, 22 Jun 2009 19:10:15 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35737 LOL @ Curly Girl. Nice! LOL @ Curly Girl. Nice!

]]> By: Curly Girl http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35613 Curly Girl Mon, 22 Jun 2009 00:00:27 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35613 Other possible silver linings: you don't have to pay the other person's bills, you don't have to be "sexless" anymore, you don't have to wonder if he'd like you if you were fat, you can go back to being your weird over-40 single self, and you can sue for not finding love online! Other possible silver linings: you don’t have to pay the other person’s bills, you don’t have to be “sexless” anymore, you don’t have to wonder if he’d like you if you were fat, you can go back to being your weird over-40 single self, and you can sue for not finding love online!

]]> By: Mikko Kemppe http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35596 Mikko Kemppe Sun, 21 Jun 2009 18:43:52 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35596 I think we are just learning to understand that it truly is possible to love someone, yet to realize we are not the right ones to share the rest of our life together. I have definitely gone through my own share of painful break-ups and although sometimes it has been hard to see the silver lining, every time I have honestly search for it I have always found it. I am happy to say that without all of the break-ups I would not be the person that I am today. Each break-up has helped me grow tremendously as a person and the lessons that I have learned from them have been invaluable to me. Learning to remember all of my ex's with love has been very healing and like Jennifer said has guided me also to know more about my-self and what I want in life. <abbr><em><abbr><em>Mikko Kemppe´s last blog post...Do Men Just Want Sex? Should My Decision Be To Wait Or Not To Wait?</em></abbr></abbr></em> I think we are just learning to understand that it truly is possible to love someone, yet to realize we are not the right ones to share the rest of our life together.

I have definitely gone through my own share of painful break-ups and although sometimes it has been hard to see the silver lining, every time I have honestly search for it I have always found it.

I am happy to say that without all of the break-ups I would not be the person that I am today. Each break-up has helped me grow tremendously as a person and the lessons that I have learned from them have been invaluable to me.

Learning to remember all of my ex’s with love has been very healing and like Jennifer said has guided me also to know more about my-self and what I want in life.

Mikko Kemppe´s last blog post…Do Men Just Want Sex? Should My Decision Be To Wait Or Not To Wait?

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35575 Jennifer Sun, 21 Jun 2009 15:06:21 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35575 My break up silver linings are right in line with Selena's and Curly Girl's- breaking up before getting myself into a more permanent situation (ie., marriage and kids) and getting a clearer view on what I do and don't like in relationships and what I do and don't want in a guy. My break up silver linings are right in line with Selena’s and Curly Girl’s- breaking up before getting myself into a more permanent situation (ie., marriage and kids) and getting a clearer view on what I do and don’t like in relationships and what I do and don’t want in a guy.

]]> By: Leah http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/break-ups-arent-always-a-bad-thing-sometimes-they-are-the-best-thing-to-come-out-of-a-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-35541 Leah Sun, 21 Jun 2009 03:42:14 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=1408#comment-35541 The best thing that happened after we broke up -- we stayed friends. We dated for a year and a half, he got me a job working with him, while we were dating. And no that isn't why we broke up. Different views on money was and still is. He is my dearest friend...the big brother I never had. The best thing that happened after we broke up — we stayed friends. We dated for a year and a half, he got me a job working with him, while we were dating. And no that isn’t why we broke up. Different views on money was and still is. He is my dearest friend…the big brother I never had.

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