Have you ever wanted to get some FREE dating coaching from yours truly? How about a critique from a noted fashionista? How about a tasty and healthy brunch in the heart of Beverly Hills?

Well, this Sunday could be your lucky day. Continue Reading »

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I’m going to be appearing on Matt Titus and Tamsen Fadal’s radio show tomorrow at 12:30pmPST/3:30pmEST. The topic is a shocker: Online Dating

But not just “online dating”; specifically, how to master the very medium at which so many fail.

I will undoubtedly be covering a lot of the stuff from Finding the One Online, so if you were wondering if this material makes sense for you, I’d highly recommend checking out the show. Continue Reading »

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Here’s some bonus footage that wasn’t on the air during my Wednesday morning appearance.

Forgive the fact that my face looks thoroughly surprised in the screenshot below. I’m actually being given electrical shocks by the producers to encourage me to keep my energy up.

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Here’s the video from my appearance this morning on Good Day LA. Everyone there was SUPER nice and my new friend Ashlee had a couple of revelations that will undoubtedly improve her choices of men.

I love my job.

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Since my honeymoon was a bit of a bust, the wife and I are taking off for a week in Bali. However, I will still be checking in regularly, thanks to the magic of the Interwebs and my amazing intern Amy. So keep coming back here every day as new articles will be posted regularly while I’m gone.

Also, I’m having a special vacation promotion – $100 off of Finding The One Online until June 21st.

Sale starts tomorrow, so if you were thinking of buying it right this very second, hold on for a day.

Patience is a virtue here at EMK.com.

Anyway, you guys mean the world to me and I appreciate your fervent participation in this unique online forum. I don’t know any dating coach who attracts such intelligent readers. I am very grateful.

So happy dating…happy reading…and warmest wishes, ’til we meet again.

Your friend,

Evan

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Just came back from the gym and heard an interesting piece on NPR – The Hookup: Dangerous or Liberating?

Like any reasonable debate, both sides have merit. I don’t think we’d want to go back to the repressed ’50s, however, I think it’s clear that there’s something damaging about the frequency and availability of hookups. Some combination of post-feminism, technology, and societal mores has taken its toll. Witness all the letters from women who can’t find a guy to commit.

Yet let’s think about it from the male point of view – if there’s always an available hookup out there, and most men don’t have the desire to settle down until their mid-30′s, and most men lose big-time in divorce, why SHOULD they commit?

I’d like to challenge the women reading this to put yourself in the shoes of a man and ask yourself why HE’d make a commitment – not why YOU want a commitment or why you want HIM to make a commitment. You may be surprised to find that it’s more desirable for men to stay single…which is exactly why they so often do.

Your thoughts are appreciated.

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For the past few months, everywhere I go, people ask me what I think of “The Millionaire Matchmaker” – both the show and the woman starring in it, Patti Stanger.

So, for the record, I have only seen one episode – the first one – because a friend of mine was one of the millionaires showcased on it. Like most reality shows, it did not make him look great. But the other millionaire on the show looked even worse. From what I recall, he was a man in his mid-40′s from Malibu who wanted to settle down with a woman in her 30′s – but couldn’t help the fact that he was attracted to one of the brainless 24-year-old hotties. Hilarity ensues, as he ignores Patti’s sage advice (“Don’t go for the bimbo I set you up with!”) and goes on an awkward horseback ride with the young model, who, predictably, has nothing to say.

Without seeing any of Season 2, I’m pretty sure that this is the plot of at least half of the episodes. Which makes me wonder aloud: what’s the appeal of this show?

Do you view it as pure entertainment, like watching Desperate Housewives?

Do you view it as therapy, where you learn something about the universal problems of dating  from an experienced matchmaker?

Or is it, as I suspect, pure schadenfreude?

Do we just like watching rich men and beautiful women look bad to make us feel better about ourselves?

It’s impossible for me to say why Patti Stanger is a phenomenon right now. My guess is that it’s the same reason that Donald Trump is a bigger “star” than other real estate moguls. While not uniquely qualified – and believe me, I’m not “uniquely qualified” either -  her ego – and business model – is strangely magnetic.

We’re fascinated with the rich. We’re consumed by celebrity.

We pay attention to those who speak the loudest (Rush Limbaugh, Howard Stern, Jim Rome), and anoint them royalty.

What results is a world in which insight takes a back seat to volume and self-promotion.

And while we’re better off on an entertainment level, I’m pretty sure we’re losing on a deeper level.

Last month, the Dr. Phil show called me to ask me to “debate” Patti Stanger on their show. It never came to pass, but when I was gearing up, I asked a producer for an example of the kind of advice Patti gives. Here is what I was told she offered to one woman who stated her desire to meet a wealthy man:

“You want to meet a lawyer? Go stand outside a courthouse!”

Ahem.

Let’s just say I’m glad I’m a dating coach for smart women instead of a matchmaker to the rich and clueless.

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Was just on CBS Early Show and had a blast, as usual. Julie Chen was super nice and made getting up at 3:30am well worth it. As for the “debate”? Well, it’s morning news, so there’s only so deep you can go. Too bad we didn’t have a full hour to really get in there. I had about three anecdotes about clients lying about their age that I didn’t get a chance to use.

1) My 54-year-old male client who had electric chemistry with a woman on a first date. After an hour of making out with her, he was fully smitten. Called her the next day, where she confessed that she wasn’t 54 herself. When asked how old she was, she said “Let’s just say I’m in my sixties”. They never would have met had she told the truth up front.

2) My 71-year-old female client who is on a crew team but has never confessed her age, because she doesn’t want to feel “different” than everyone else. She likes fitting in and sees no need to call attention to her age.

3) Just yesterday, my 44-year-old client, who, upon hearing about my upcoming CBS appearance, started to rail against guys who lie about their age. Yet when we logged onto her old JDate profile, she audibly gasped. “Ohmigod. I guess I lied about my age, too”.

So while I would never go and call myself an “advocate” of lying, I would say that we should reserve judgment. There’s a difference between a serial fabricator and a woman who is insecure that telling the truth will lead to age discrimination. At least that’s what I would have said, if I had more time.

But the best part of the interview was the one in which I didn’t speak (ha!) It was when Julie asked the male anchors whether they’d date an older woman. Their non-answers speak for themselves.

Check out the clip here!

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Okay, so it’s not exactly like that, but I’m going to be on the CBS Early Show on Tuesday at 8:15am, talking about the ethics of  lying about your age. The segment doesn’t even necessarily have to do with dating – and why they chose me remains a bit of a mystery – except for the fact that I was on the show once before (see second video on the right). Still, it should be interesting and I’d encourage you to tune in.

I’m pretty sure I’ll be banging the same gong that I do on this blog -  yes, it would be great if age didn’t matter, but it does, so let’s not get so pollyannaish about it. Moralists and absolutists drive me nuts, as you can tell.

Anyway, you’ll get to hear my voice and see how poofy my hair has become since my wife insisted that I grow it out. Thanks for your support!

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Big changes over here at EMK Inc. You’ll see more of them in coming months, but I’ve finally moved my blog from Advice From A Single Dating Expert to EvanMarcKatz.com.

There were a few reasons behind this: efficiency, search engine optimization, and aesthetics. But the main reason is this: I’m married, and the single dating expert brand just had to be retired.

So… to make sure you don’t miss a single blog post ever again, click here:

This is a separate list from my regular mailing list, which is even MORE important to be on. The newsletters will be aggregators of popular blog posts as well as emails telling you about products, events, free teleclasses and sales. You can get on that list if you just click here:

In the future, I will be blogging a lot more frequently. Not just reader letters, which will still run on Thursdays, but every thing I feel like saying. Meaning, you’re going to be visiting me every day. Fun!

Finally, if you missed the past two blog posts, do yourself a favor and read below. They’re juicy topics and I’d love it if you would contribute to the dialogue.

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Stay in touch,

Evan

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