If you are a mainstream media consumer like I am, you may be familiar with the New York Times op-ed section. I’ve been reading it for years, and although I am avowedly liberal, David Brooks, a moderate conservative, is my favorite columnist. Mainly because he writes columns like these:

Brooks is well-read. He’s a thinker. And he’s about as close to a philosopher as you’re going to get in political media. He really tries hard to weigh both sides of an issue and see things from all perspectives. This is the very thing I aspire to on this blog – and frequently fall short. Brooks divides writers into two categories: engaged and detached.

I’m not pulling for men; I’m helping you understand them.

“The engaged writer closely and intimately aligns with a team. In his writing, he provides arguments for the party faithful and builds community by reminding everyone of the errors and villainy of the opposing side. For the engaged writer, the writing is often not about persuasion. (Realistically, how many times does a piece of writing persuade someone to switch sides?) It’s often about mobilization. It’s about energizing the people who already agree with you. The detached writer wants to be a few steps away from the partisans. She is progressive but not Democratic, conservative but not Republican. She fears the team mentality will blinker her views. She wants to remain mentally independent because she sees politics as a competition between partial truths, and she wants the liberty to find the proper balance between them, issue by issue.” Continue Reading »

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Evan,

What do you mean by smart, strong and successful women? If a woman doesn’t meet those criteria, does that mean that she can’t find love or just can’t be coached by you? I ask because a lot of love coaches out there use the same terminology and since I am a lawyer with an Ivy League background whose practiced for over 13 years but have had sporadic employment over the last five years. I wonder if I meet the criteria or have to “fix” something or figure out what’s wrong in my life first before I can attract the right man? –Mimi

Hmm. Interesting.

It honestly never occurred to me that anyone would think:

a) A woman can’t find love if she’s not smart, strong, and successful.

b) I would refuse to coach someone who does not fully categorize herself as “smart, strong, and successful.”

So let me do something unusual for you, Mimi.

I want to pull the veil off my business and be fully transparent about how I came to do this job and choose my clients. Continue Reading »

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I’ve never heard of this guy, Blake Eastman. He’s a 27-year-old guy in New York who is a body language expert and runs dating workshops. But just because I don’t know who he is doesn’t mean he’s not onto something.

Believe me, you don’t need a doctorate in order to help others.

You just need to be a keen observer of people and willing to speak an objective truth. The rest is just practice in pattern recognition. That’s what I’ve been doing here for nearly 10 years. That’s what it appears Eastman does as well. He gets people to look at themselves in the mirror – almost literally. Continue Reading »

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I have dinner reservations with my wife in 45 minutes.

But before I go, I wanted to wish you a very happy Valentine’s Day. Especially if you’re among the 80% of my readers who do NOT have relationships. I know that V-Day can kinda suck when you’re single – believe me, I’ve spent more years alone than I have with my wife. But that makes my gift to you all the more valuable.

What I’m offering you, for Valentine’s Day only, is a free 90 minute teleseminar about how to master online dating. You may have tried it before. You may have been frustrated by it. But I can guarantee that you’ve never learned MY WAY to make it work for you – the way I’ve made it work for THOUSANDS of other women.

Not only am I giving you this free gift, but from now until Friday night at 11:59pmPST, I am also offering my Finding The One Online audio series – 7 hours of audio, a 180-page transcript and a 35-page workbook about how to master online dating and attract the partner of your dreams – for 50% off the normal price.

Not only is this material work for both genders (despite the sales page for women, it’s a unisex product), but the sale price is literally 1/40th the cost of my private Romance Course.

This is RIDICULOUS value and I’m hoping you get a chance to take advantage of it.

So please, enjoy this free gift, take advantage of this once a year offer, and let me know how it works out for you. I can’t wait to hear your success story!

Happy Valentine’s Day.

Love,

Evan

P.S. Finding the One Online has helped THOUSANDS of people, just like you. Don’t let another Valentine’s Day pass without having true love in your life. Take advantage of this free gift and the best sale I’ve ever offered.

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I know you’ve spent a lot of time reading about other people’s bad dates and babies, so I wanted to get back to doing what I do best: giving powerful dating advice that will help you better connect with men.

In the FOCUS Forum, I am privy to the most intimate thoughts of hundreds of women just like you. They share their “date reports” and their worries on a daily basis, opening up for constructive feedback from the community.

Here’s my latest observation:

After 9 months talking with hundreds of women in the FOCUS Forum, I’ve come to the bold conclusion that the biggest problem in many relationships… is the one in your own head.

“We went out on our third date. He said that he was really enjoying my company. Then I said that I was really enjoying his company. Then he smiled and started sipping from his glass of wine. Which I thought was really strange because I had just told him I liked him. Later that night, I got home and he texted me to say good night. I thanked him for our date and said good night, but he didn’t sign it with an XO, which he usually does. Does this mean he’s pulling away from me. Is this the quality of a good partner or is he losing interest in me? Should I just bail and avoid wasting time on him? What do you guys think?”

My advice?

If you had fun with him on Date 3 and he asks you out for Date 4, go out with him.

Don’t agonize about every word, every look, every text, every second you’re in limbo and don’t know if he’s “the one”. Because all you’re doing is exhausting yourself, and you can never figure out the answer to all of your questions.

Dating doesn’t have to be such agony, where you over-analyze everything to death, and cause yourself a tremendous amount of undue heartbreak.

Let me keep it real simple for ya. Continue Reading »

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This post is a very special one, so I encourage you to read it in its entirety.

By the end, I will share some very personal information with you and give you an opportunity to learn how to connect better with men.

Before that, however, I wanted to thank you for participating in my Worst Date Ever contest.

Let’s face it: dating can be frustrating, tedious and distasteful – which is why sometimes all you can do is just have a good laugh at it.

As I’ve stated previously, I have no doubt that I’ve been a bad date to a number of women in my past. I simply hope that I wasn’t their worst date ever!

Anyway, the contest was a ton of fun, and thanks to your submissions and nearly 2000 votes, there are 3 very lucky women who are going to receive a year of free FOCUS Coaching. Those women are:

In 3rd Place: Sonal for submitting Cunning Linguist, a charming tale of a man who went down on another woman in Sonal’s car while Sonal was on a date with him.

In 2nd Place: Linda for submitting Shagadelic, Baby, a heartwarming story of a man who somehow thought that an 8” purple dildo is preferable to an aperitif.

In 1st Place: Cindy for submitting Mr. Purr-fect, about a man who seemed to think that he could meow his way into a woman’s heart and bedroom.

I not only want to offer my heartfelt congratulations to the three big winners but I also want to thank all of you who shared your funny stories and voted on others’.

Honestly, I wish we could just all go out for a bottle of wine together and laugh about our many dates gone awry. Doesn’t that sound like fun?

Maybe it’s because I’m in serious need of a drink.

See, I’ve barely touched a drop of wine for the past 4 months.

It’s not that I’ve gone dry, or gone Mormon, or gone AA.

It’s that I’m trying Continue Reading »

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Did I ever tell you about the time I went out with a woman who declared herself “the best kisser in the world” and warned me that I would be unable to control myself around her?

Did I ever tell you about the time that I let a woman pick up the check after our 4^th date and she disdainfully told me that she felt like my “sugar mama”?

Did I ever tell you about the time I went out with a woman who told me that she faked orgasms with her boyfriend for 9 months because he wasn’t well-hung? Continue Reading »

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I want you to tell me about the WORST date you’ve ever had.

Not the one where he didn’t pay the full check or the one where he talked about himself for 90 minutes. I want you to tell me the funniest, weirdest, most over-the-top bad dating experience you’ve ever had.

It can be a video, in an email, or in an audio – whatever is best suited to telling your story. I just want you to be able to share your pain with other women – so we can all get a mutually cathartic laugh out of it.

Alas, I’m not doing this just for laughs.

I’m doing this for YOU.

After all of the bad date entries come in, I will choose my top 7 and post them for you on my blog. I will then ask you to vote for your favorite, starting on Monday, May 8^th.

When voting closes, the top 3 vote-getters will get… Continue Reading »

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You may have heard of Samantha Brick by now. Her article for the Daily Mail about how women hate her for her beauty has gone viral.

Brick, 41, explains that she’s been given free drinks her whole life because she’s hot.

The downside? Not one girlfriend has ever asked her to be a bridesmaid. Envious bosses have forced her out of jobs. Friendships are nearly impossible to maintain. Continue Reading »

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Are there stereotypes in here? Yes. Does every woman say these things? No.

Do enough of them say things like this to make this a surprisingly funny and accurate spoof? Hell, yes.

So please, laugh, enjoy, and share with your friends.

What other things do women say that aren’t included in this video?

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