Comments on: Choose Your Own Hot Blog Topic – Must-Read Special Edition – Part 1 of 2

By: kayla

kayla — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 15:09:59 +0000

our generations almost unlimited access to choices and information ends up creating a lot of people who are “better dealing” their way through the dating world.

By: Honey

Honey — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 13:27:09 +0000

@SAS, #98 – just because it is not work for you does not mean it’s not really hard for some people. And just because it’s hard for some people doesn’t make them bad people.

Obviously those things are not “work” for the kind of people who end up on Evan’s board. However, many of us are not going to end up with someone like that. That’s all I’m saying.

By: A-L

A-L — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 12:43:08 +0000

I agree with Ruby that there are times relationships take hard work. But it shouldn’t be hard work all the time. There are some relationships where the easy part only happens once in awhile whereas the hard stuff if the status quo. I think the majority would say that it should be easy most of the time, though inevitably there will be rough patches, but that the rough patches should be far outnumbered by the good ones.

By: Sas

Sas — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 06:46:44 +0000

Well Honey, the small things I do every day are not hard work. They come with being compassionate and treating others, especially my partner, the way I want to be treated. And to me, that takes no work at all.

By: Joe

Joe — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 06:15:25 +0000

94: Incredible golfer tho. Amazing golfer.

By: Joe

Joe — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 06:14:49 +0000

94: Doesn’t take 600 words! Tiger is toast!

By: Ruby

Ruby — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 05:34:28 +0000

I’ve had friends in long marriages and relationships go through very difficult periods: an affair, major depression, lack of desire. They had to work pretty hard to get through these rough patches, but they managed it and the relationships have weathered these crises. Of course, it doesn’t always work out that way, but these were strong relationships.

By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 03:04:25 +0000

This one is easy. Would love to get your 600 word opinion on the Tiger Woods relationship fiasco.

By: Honey

Honey — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 00:03:08 +0000

This made me think -

We should not judge our partners’ level of devotion using a standard that is based on the type of affection/attention that is easy for us.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 21 Dec 2009 23:09:41 +0000

I agree with a lot of posters, I’m not putting ‘hard’ on the same level with ‘taking effort’.
When I say rships shouldn’t be hard, I mean in that gut-wrenching, who knows what drama is gonna happen today, hey everybody said this would totally suck sometimes, right?, soul-sucking, is that all there is?, sort of way.