Comments on: If You Are Short, Fat, Older or An Asian Man, You Must Read This. But Especially If You’re Short.

By: Horace

Horace — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 21:06:23 +0000

Sorry Sophi, I don’t have a lifetime of eternity to wait for ignorant women to smarten up, take their heads outta their a$$es and change their heightist spots. Why is it so hard for you ladies to look at the world of shorter guys, especially when you’re young, prime, and fertile? Instead, you expect us short guys to wait in vain for you when you’re looking old, haggard and wrinkled? It’s like saying short guys shouldn’t bother with dating and relationships until women are well past their child bearing years and can’t demand the top quality tall guys?

Short guys, a serious word of advice for you. Don’t entertain these old women for anything unless there’s understanding on both sides about the nature of the relationship, especially if it’s purely physical. If you are desperate, than be my guess and dive into the world of these reformed heightists. Don’t say I didn’t warn you because a lot of them can’t change their spots and will drop you like a bad habit for the first guy who’s taller or more physically attractive to her.

At the same time, DON’T give these “little girls” who need and live for the big, dominant daddy type guys YOUR PRECIOUS TIME! They will never be worth your time because your time was never important to them in the first place. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t approach ladies though. Try to go for the ones who don’t see height, even though they are rare and hard to find. They do exist! Some of them are even as tall as 6’0 or more. Not all of them are stuck in the stone age or harbour ill feelings to shorter men.

By: Sophi

Sophi — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:19:57 +0000

Short guys, just be yourself. I’m 5’8 and I’ve never had a problem with finding a date. I’ve dated shorter, taller, the same height… whatever.

I understand that it IS frustrating for short men… I married a man who was shorter than me and we had a son who is now 20 years old and 5’3 (also has a slight build). He’s very handsome and sweet, but is having trouble finding women willing to see him as more than a friend. But I say to you what I say to him:
Hang in there!! Eventually, women “grow up” and realize that relationships… REAL relationships… aren’t built on stupid, superficial crap, but on long-term compatibility.

Give the “little girls” who need big, dominant daddies time to grow up. Only then will they even be worth your time.

By: Saint Stephen

Saint Stephen — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 19:17:26 +0000

Joe, thanks for your honesty. By the way, I noticed that even EMK didn’t have or share/give any advice on that… well.. except for the acknowledgement that life is unfair for short men. I’d say that this blog post wasn’t particularly helpful to short men since it only serves as a medium for them to vent their dating/relationship frustrations and offer no tips for future success.

By: Joe

Joe — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 17:49:07 +0000

@ St. Stephen #257:

Alas, I got nuthin’.

By: Mary T

Mary T — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 14:58:35 +0000

I actually prefer short/medium height men… not sure why. I grew up surrounded by very tall uncles, and generally tall people in our farming community. But I’m definitely more attracted to medium sized men.
BUT – I discovered recently that the short guy still has to be at least as tall as me (165cm). If he’s shorter, it does feel weird! A man shorter than me would have to make up with it with some other form of manlyness and general hotness

PS. Love asian guys too, if they’re athletic

By: tim

tim — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 23:53:08 +0000

I’m short 5’5″ asian, degreed, have a decent job, workout regularly. i would say i’m average looking, though some have said i have a good look. some girls on match will write back to me initially, but i normally don’t hear from them again. ultimately when it comes down to it they have so many choices, and if they wait longer, they’ll find someone taller.

I always think about the 20/20 episode in which a group of women said they would only date the 5’0 guy if all the others guys were convicted murderers. short guys are like stray dogs of the dating world. non human, pesky, nobody wants them

By: NonExist

NonExist — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:58:28 +0000

To the average person physical appearance does matter in initial preferences. So it seems in U.S. culture. A few ladies on here have no issue with it but of the ladies I’ve known 95% say they prefer a taller guy.

Then again I have had a few buddies over the years who ranged from 5′ to 5’4″ and who were very successful in dating a lot of different women.
Their personality stood out more enough that the ladies on intially meeting them gave them a chance.

Still, depending on the culture, being a tall, wealthy, fit, attractive, intelligent, charismatic, honest, and well traveled/mannered man makes one a king amongst men when it comes to women.

By: Saint Stephen

Saint Stephen — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 21:50:24 +0000

Joe
And if you aren’t Danny Devito how do you get your foot in the door first, to show her that you can be kind and fun? No advice on that?

By: john

john — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:48:06 +0000

i think it is fair to say that about 75% of women want nothing to do with a man (other than him being the “provider”) unless he is in the top 5% of men in regards to looks, wealth, social status, etc…

By: Joe

Joe — Tue, 31 Jan 2012 18:07:47 +0000

Short, fat, older or Asian can be overcome by being fun.

Unfortunately, you have to get your foot in the door to show a woman that you’re fun.