Click here to listen to me give the business to a very nice guy who doesn’t understand why his reluctance to sleep with women turns them off. Apparently, he’s a regular reader, so I will refer him to this post, which deals with the issue in depth.
In short, if you have values that are out of step with the majority of society, I fully support your right to have them. But that means you’re going to keep running into friction with everyone else in the world who doesn’t agree with you.
Thus, if you want to hold out for the rare Jewish woman who likes dreadlocks, or the rare man who is cool with waiting 90 days for sex, or the rare girl who isn’t freaked out by flowers on the first date, that’s fine. You don’t need my validation. But you’re going to have more success coming towards the center, trying to find a compromise point where you don’t entirely lose your ideals…but you don’t entirely alienate 95% of the population.
Other than that one sex question, Julia Spira and I covered a lot of ground and I think you’ll get a kick out of the call. Just know that I don’t always get that exasperated with my clients. It’s just that our caller didn’t seem to be open to the concept of change…and the pool at the Riviera in Palm Springs was eagerly beckoning from my hotel window as well…
Hope you had a great weekend!