Newsflash: Older Men Don’t Want Women Their Own Age

Was just on CBS Early Show and had a blast, as usual. Julie Chen was super nice and made getting up at 3:30am well worth it. As for the “debate”? Well, it’s morning news, so there’s only so deep you can go. Too bad we didn’t have a full hour to really get in there. I had about three anecdotes about clients lying about their age that I didn’t get a chance to use.

1) My 54-year-old male client who had electric chemistry with a woman on a first date. After an hour of making out with her, he was fully smitten. Called her the next day, where she confessed that she wasn’t 54 herself. When asked how old she was, she said “Let’s just say I’m in my sixties”. They never would have met had she told the truth up front.

2) My 71-year-old female client who is on a crew team but has never confessed her age, because she doesn’t want to feel “different” than everyone else. She likes fitting in and sees no need to call attention to her age.

3) Just yesterday, my 44-year-old client, who, upon hearing about my upcoming CBS appearance, started to rail against guys who lie about their age. Yet when we logged onto her old JDate profile, she audibly gasped. “Ohmigod. I guess I lied about my age, too”.

So while I would never go and call myself an “advocate” of lying, I would say that we should reserve judgment. There’s a difference between a serial fabricator and a woman who is insecure that telling the truth will lead to age discrimination. At least that’s what I would have said, if I had more time.

But the best part of the interview was the one in which I didn’t speak (ha!) It was when Julie asked the male anchors whether they’d date an older woman. Their non-answers speak for themselves.

Check out the clip here!

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  1. 1
    Melissa

    It was a quick segment… but I liked it. Wow, 3:30am! Crazy! ha, ha.

    Is the whole “fibbing your age” thing a blanket recommendation or just for women/men who may want to start a family again or who feel they are being wrongly discriminated against because of their age?

    I mean… I guess I’m okay with “weeding out” the guys who want to have babies. It’s a joint decision, but I’m okay with only communicating with the men who feel they don’t want children or have kids and don’t want anymore. Sure, if I fall in love with someone whose hell bent on having his own kid, I wouldn’t squash his dream… but I’m truly okay with being done in the kid department too, so I could go either way.

    And, since not getting enough emails or not having enough men to date has never been a problem, are there any advantages to knocking my age down 5 years, since everyone thinks I look 32 anyways? I don’t know… I’m open to it if I saw advantages, but I guess I feel by keeping my age as much to the truth as possible, I’m weeding out ones who could be a potential problem anyways.

    Curious.

  2. 2
    Cilla

    I find most older men, unless they want to have kids or are just emerging from a bitter divorce, don’t care if the women they date are their age–as long as they don’t look it.

    I’m 47 and often told I look about 10 years younger. When I go to events at my son’s high school and look at the other moms, I can see why: married or single, they’ve let themselves go. Short hair, gray hair, dowdy clothing–most of these women look *older* than their actual ages. A style makeover with a little hair color and a youthful attitude can go a long way.

    I’m currently dating someone who is 52, although within the last year I’ve dated men as young as 27. It seems that regardless of age, it’s the total package that counts. All men want a woman who is nice to look at in their eyes–it’s not enough to just have the cerebral qualities that take up so much space on those online dating profiles. While there will always be older men who insist on dating 20 somethings, there are plenty who are willing to date in their own age bracket provided they find a woman attractive enough.

  3. 3
    $Francisco

    I thought it was funny that one of Evan’s clients who railed against lying about their age lied in her own online profile without even remembering that she had! It makes one wonder whether someone lies so much about a particular aspect about themselves that they end up believing the lie.

    There are ways to tell a lie in order to widen your dating pool of people who are compatible in other ways but after a while it’s just plain deception; especially if there’s nothing else in common. Personally, I don’t mind women who fudge their age in their bio but come clean in their profile. It makes perfect sense marketing wise and it does show a lot of character.

  4. 4
    deannie

    What fun! Evan, I like your hair better as depicted in the masthead. Just saying…

  5. 5
    Evan Marc Katz

    I put some gunk in it to tame the frizz, and, well, I looked like a wet poodle. Hey, some women like that…

  6. 6
    Steve

    Evan, can you get a video clip of your segment and put it on your site?

  7. 7
    Steve

    I’m 43, I have no problem dating a woman up to 5 years older than I am and I actually prefer women my own age.

    I find them to be more fun to talk to and a whole lot less drama.

    The downsides are that many of them, like many men in the same age group, let themselves go. Also, like many men in the same age group they have let the battle of the sexes give them bitter attitudes about the other sex. Many of them have also forgot how to have fun on a date. If they aren’t giving you a “job interview” with an agenda of questions ( ready to disqualify you at any answer slightly off program ) then they are rushing off to the next item on their perpetually tight schedules.

  8. 8
    Ava

    I’ve only started lying about my age (or choosing not to reveal it) as I’ve gotten older. I never reveal my age in the workplace, and I haven’t revealed it to men I’ve met outside of cyber-space. I’ve found that many men have preconceived ideas about what a woman of a certain age looks like. I’m constantly told I don’t look my age, but guess what, I am that age! I’ve lied about my age by a few years and the men had no idea. I really don’t look my age (does anyone think they do?), so no one seems to guess. I’ve actually found that men lie about their ages (and their height) quite a bit, but as Evan said, it’s so they can date much younger women. Even men who don’t want kids lie. I just want to stay in the game with men around my own age.

    I’ve also found that the same men who are knocking 10-15 years off are posting pictures 5-15 years older as well. I’m very careful to make sure any photos are recent. I’ve also found that younger men are ok with dating an older woman, but middle-aged + men are not. (It was interesting to see the three men tripping over themselves on that!) As Leslie from More says, ideally no one would need to lie, and of course, it’s easy enough to find out if someone is lying, but there is so much age-prejudice out there. Everyone makes a big deal about lying, but no one wants to confront their own age-bias. It’s a bit of a vicious circle, but I liked what Evan said about “fighting it from the inside”.

  9. 9
    Steve

    @Cillia, post #2.

    Cillia;

    There are sexy and short hairstyles for women.

    Having written that, if I was a woman who wanted to make sure that she never got male attention I would get a short, utilitarian “man cut”. Aside from large amounts of excess weight few things will stamp “matronly”, “boring”, “un-vital” across a woman’s appearance more.

    I realize I may be offending people by writing that, but offense is not my intent.

  10. 10
    Marc

    Many women are as guilty of the ageism of which they so frequently accuse men.

    From a woman’s actual profile:

    “I am 41 years of age….and I am TIRED of 54 year old men writing to me! That is why I listed my age younger.”

    Even if one were to respect the fact that she’s coming clean about her real age in her profile, why would a guy want to give her a chance with that type of attitude?

    Marc´s last blog post…My Cell Phone Would Never Get Laid

    1. 10.1
      Caramel

      Evan, that’s not ageism. the woman said she was 41 & isn’t interested in 54 year old men. A 54 year old man is not in her age group, he’s 13 years older then her.  I don’t blame her. the reason I say that is frankly, 90% of 54 year old men have long ago let themselves go. Their hair (if they have any) is usually gray and just sticking up all over the place. They are fat, and at the same time they act like ONLY they can have anybody in the world. It’s crazy. Not ALL 54 year old men are like this, but a lot “seem” & “look” like I what I described.

      1. 10.1.1
        John

        Caramel, you just described tons of women in their 40s who let themselves go yet still think somehow? > they can compete with women in their 30s for men in their 30s…that is delusional = cougars.  Wow, what liberation has done to Baby Boomer women’s minds is out of this world rather than down to earth.  Give them an inch and they took/take a mile to nowhere so Unreal.  I looked outside of this cultural decay of Caucasian women because of their attitudes and of course, excess weight yet not around their mouths.

        1. Karmic Equation

          John, I think you misunderstand about cougars. We don’t go out seeking and propositioning younger men. They approach an attractive woman and the woman reciprocates the interest, she just happens to be older. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to tell guys “Honey, I’m old enough to be your mom. You know that, right?” And their reply, of course, is some form of “Age is just a number.” 

          I know of some women who do chase younger men, but those women are desperate, and delusional, yes. But the ones who get chased, which I believe outnumber the ones doing the chasing, we simply get approached and reciprocate when we feel like it.

          I had a transplanted Australian doctor contact me on Tinder (mid 30s very cute).
          Him: Hey, I think there’s something wrong with your profile. 
          Me: What do you mean?
          Him: It says you’re 47.
          Me: But I am 47.
          Him: Wow. You look like you’re in your late 20s.
          Me: TY :)

          Never heard from him again. LOL

          He’s a 30-something cute doctor. He’s got better options than me. No hard feelings.  

  11. 11
    Danielle

    I totally understand!!! I am not interested in dating older men! There are few men my own age I am willing to date. In fact I may start “lying” about my age so that I will fall into a different age-search range. I am 52 but I really don’t look it and people are surprised to find out that I am not early 40’s. I once was married to a man 10 years older than myself and when some relationship problems arose the deciding factor for me to leave was the age. I decided in my late 30’s that I was not interested in a man closer to 50! I am meeting a lot of men who are 49-52 and have young children with an average age of 7. Their Ex’s were quite a bit younger and went through their own mid life crisis. Like I said when it comes to what women and men want well we all want the same things, and we go through the same things. I had a long term relationship with a man 10 years younger and when problems began well I wasn’t interested in working things out and going through his mid life crisis! Age again was a major factor! Right now I am having the best time of my life and these are the best years I hope to share them with a man my age or with in 3 years. I prefer younger by 2-3 years but only because you guys just age faster than women and when I find him well I would like him around for as long as possible!

    1. 11.1
      John

      What a pile of narcissistic bunk from you saying we age quicker?  There are sooooooooo many over weight middle aged women out there who are so delusional thinking they somehow are hot and deserve younger men yet they remain single and alone.  Middle aged men tend to be slimmer so being with these over weight same age women is not in their books.  Cougars are a passing fancy that in a few years or bit more will be LOLed at more than it is today.  Middle aged women first need to eat right and then start to move again and not their mouths.  Also, their attitudes of dominance is pervasive.  It is no wonder men look for younger women and outside of Caucasian women especially.

      1. 11.1.1
        Ella

        Both sexes are guilty of letting themselves go, but do some research and you will soon find the percentage of overweight or obese men is markedly higher than women. 
         

        1. JennLee

          It’s not as doom and gloom as you think Ella Many guys played football, or worked out with weights. So they are not thin, or slim. That’s not a problem. I see many men that look good that fall into the “overweight category. Most women I know find these men to be very good looking men. Most college and pro football players fall into the overweight category, even if they are not one the big fat guys in the middle. I have a friend who is all muscle and played football. He is very good looking, and yet his height to weight ratio falls into the obese category. I know this because he told us when he came back from a doctor’s appointment. He was shocked. Thing is, he’s mostly muscles. So many men like him would be removed with a BMI measurement not done through simple height/weight ratio.

          Take a look at this table taken from the CDC website. Journal of the American Medical Association website.
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          http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=1832542#Results

          Image of table.
          http://amaprod.silverchaircdn.com/data/Journals/JAMA/929800/joi140013t4.png

          In the overweight and obese statistics, men are significantly higher. But when you move down to just the obese category, you get a different story

          Asians only have an obesity rate of about 11% and is practically identical for both sexes except in the 60+ category where far fewer men are obese. In all other races except whites 40-59, the women are normally more obese than the men. But, even with whites, the difference isn’t huge. Might have something to do with more white men having office jobs than many men of other races. Black women 20 to 59 have the largest gap with all groups very close in numbers and the women in the 56% obese range while the men are in the 35% obese range. Is this the real reason many black men are rejecting black women, and also seem more tolerant of chubby women of other races? Hispanic women also tend to be more obese with only one age group 20-39 having 7% less while the 40-59 group has 12% more, 60+ 10% more.

          I know some guys who also claim that most of the single women are fat. I will point them to this to show them that it’s actually about even. Maybe you ladies might want to give my Asian brothers more of a chance if being overweight is a problem for you.

      2. 11.1.2
        starthrower68

        Isn’t is amusing how we get so bent out of shape over the dating preferences of people in whom we have no interest whatsoever?  Disdain is such a waste of energy.

  12. 13
    Steve

    The hypocrisy about ageism is just flying in all directions between these two threads isn’t it? For anyone feeling slighted, take comfort in the fact that everyone writing is/will be
    old/older to the point of being disqualified as worthy. That will only be made harder as their ageist beliefs backfire on them as they are forced to negatively evaluate themselves.

    1. 13.1
      ellethemagnanimous

      The problem with ageism, as with all the –isms is that you start thinking of and lumping individuals into a single bucket, you dehumanize them.  My master thesis dealt with ageism, and I can tell you that as people grow older they are more heterogeneous or different that one another than they are similar.  What I will say is instead of saying everybody in X age range lets themselves go or I refuse to date men in X age range because of blank, consider that people are individuals and cast a wider net.  You may be surprised.  I say this as woman with a husband who is a decade younger.  I can’t imagine if I had dismissed him just because he was younger and no other reason.  Any of you could be dismissing the love of your life because of an age difference.  As long as you are and adult and he/she is an adult, what is the problem?  Obviously if you’re looking to have children you may have to be more restrictive, but finding the one is a numbers game, and the wider your net, the more likely you get a good catch.

    2. 13.2
      VINA

      I AM 27 LIVING WITH A MAN THAT IS 54 YERS

      1. 13.2.1
        DIANA

        Get a man your own age. It will be more fun for you!

  13. 14
    Cilla

    @ Steve (Post #9)

    I agree, there are lots of pretty short haircuts for women, and there are celebrities like Natalie Portman, Sharon Stone, and Halle Berry who have worn their hair short and look great.
    Unfortunately, most of the short styles I see are on women who have that “I give up” vibe you also touched on. A short gamine cut somehow eludes them (I’m sure choice of hair stylist plays a part in this), and they resort to “practical” cuts to go with their mom jeans and mannish shoes.

    Also, I’m sure there are plenty of men who like short hair, when styled in a feminine way, although to be frank, most of the men I know (and those whose dating profiles I’ve viewed) prefer long hair. Call it neanderthal, call it sexist–that just seems to be the way it is. If most men prefer long hair, and a woman wants to be competitive on the dating scene, it makes sense that she would hedge her bets by choosing a length most likely to be desired by men. If a woman looks better in short hair, she will have to face the fact that some men will dismiss her based on hair length alone–shallow, but true.

  14. 15
    casualencounters.com/blog

    @Steve-the-hugely-offensive-guy

    I’ve been told the reason women of a certain age get “man-cuts” is a) pragmatic concerns related to child-rearing and b) to soften the focus on their features as they age – long hair on an older woman can make them look “witchy”.

    Of course I think it’s all bollocks and women really just do it because they hate themselves and want to ensure that no men on Earth will ever find them attractive or interesting again.

    casualencounters.com/blog´s last blog post…A perfect fake PENISTRON

  15. 16
    JerseyGirl

    I agree with Evan on this. Lets be honest, we don’t all lay our cards out on the table for our first dates. We don’t tell our dates about that time we got drunk and puked all over the cab, or how we have a little debt, or how we lost money in the stock market, forgot birthday’s or families or friends or didn’t tip the waiter a full 20% even if he did a agreat job, how we like to drink a little too much on Friday or gamble a little much on Saturday. I don’t advocate lying but I think it’s a little holy roller to say that omitting ones age or not being completely upfront about it is so horrible and makes that person a liar and only a liar. People are so much more multi-faceted for that. Frankly, I am young and don’t need to lie about my age but if I am still single as I get older, I probably will because men kind of rather suck on the age thing and even if men are 40s they think they are entitle to women 10-15 years younger.

  16. 17
    Lucy

    I agree the whole “I look/ have been told I look younger than am” is often true simply because of the choice of clothing, hairstyle and attitude. For both men and women. The grunge look does not work well for the middle aged. And attractive clothing IS available for those sporting extra pounds, not just sweats & “mom jeans”. Longer hair can work for women in their 40’s-50’s, but it needs to be colored and styled, not just hanging down grey and grizzly.

    Recently I saw the movie “I’m Not Your Woman” on HBO with a (then) 49 yr. old Michelle Pfieffer in the lead role about among other things, a woman fighting aging. She looks GREAT and her awesome bone structure aside, you can easily mistake her for younger because of the choice of wardrobe, hair, attention to fitness, and most of all, her character’s “young-ish” projection of herself. Not all of us can pull it off in the looks department like Michelle, but humor, positive attitude, a sense of FUN, and a zest in expressing ourselves can break down the stereotypes of what 40-50-60 something “looks like” for both genders.

    I don’t lie about my age (so far lol!), but I haven’t tried internet dating sites either; sounds rather depressing for people over 35. Seems to me, if someone is greatly upset to find out their date lied about their age after spending time getting to know them…then they weren’t bowled over by that person’s personality and looks anyway so what difference does it make? They can use lying as the excuse, but isn’t it really something else? I wonder what kind of world it would be if no one ever knew what anyone’s age was, including their own. What would the criteria be then?

  17. 18
    Eathan

    I date women older and younger. I’m in the 30’s and can get away with it. I have my limits because I’m not trying to get to far out of my visual expectations.

    But if a woman lies about her age.. I won’t go out with her again.

    @Cilla Yes I only date women with shoulder length hair or longer…I’m not into short hair at all. Could be a Texas thing. And since Halle Berry isn’t knocking on my door.. :)

    Eathan´s last blog post…Alpha Boy – Mother’s Day Edition

  18. 19
    Steve

    @casualencounters, post #15

    I had hair down to my shoulders for a number of years so I can understand not wanting to take care of it while I had to take care of a new baby. I do agree with you because having been there I don’t think it is that much of a time drain or inconvenience.

    About your other point, a good chunk of the fashion industry is driven by gay men. That is why models look like cross dressing teenage boys. If a woman wants to bag a gay man she should listen to their advice.

    Wrinkles are a pretty visible thing, a hair style will not them invisible. Hairstyles are also highly visible. To me, even as a child a short “man cut” hair cut on a woman meant to me that her “days were over”. She was now neutered.

    FWIW, I have seen women with well tended long gray hair who wore youthful ( but appropriate ) fashions. I will not lie, they were out of my age range, but they looked far more appealing to me than the women doing the Mrs Brady/Gertrude Stein look.

    1. 19.1
      lily

      To each his own. I always had shoulder-length hair until I lost all my hair in chemotherapy. As my hair grew into a pixie cut, I received so many compliments that I decided to keep it like that. 
      This week I am going out with a very attractive Pacific Islander with shoulder-length hair. And with a tall Caucasian man who is quite handsome.
      I also had six dates last week. I am 54 years old.
      I work out and dress in an elegant/sexy style. (not slutty and not frumpy).

  19. 20
    Steve

    @Cillia, post #14

    Have you ever noticed that women who look sexy with short haircuts make it point to play up femininity in other aspects of their appearance? They wear sexy clothing that flatters their bodies and it is obvious they were make up. Their short hair cuts are also not “man cuts”. Their hair is highlighted in some way, kinked and styled.

  20. 21
    JB

    What Eathan above really means is “if a woman lies about her age.. I won’t go out with her again” UNLESS SHE’S H O T …LOL

    At 48 I don’t really age discriminate. I put 45 in my profile for obvious reasons and I never get questioned.I generally go out with women 38-55. But let’s face it…..I play tennis,go rollerblading,bike riding,health club 4 times a week and have a healthy sex drive. Not to mention out dancing 2 or 3 times a week at night. I’m NOT a couch potato . A lot(not all) of women in their 50’s can hardly keep up on any level. To many of them “exercise” is “taking a walk”….. and normal sex is once every 2 weeks.
    Just my experience

    1. 21.1
      DIANA

      I don’t think I could keep up with you, JB. I only go dancing once a week, work out 6 days a week and have sex an average of 3 times per week.

      I love being 55!

  21. 22
    Karl R

    JerseyGirl said: (#16)
    “Lets be honest, we don’t all lay our cards out on the table for our first dates.”

    I think a woman should find out my good points at the same rate she finds out my bad points (and vice versa). And first dates aren’t long enough for all that information to come out. I’ll discuss all of that during the first few months.

    Evan said:
    “There’s a difference between a serial fabricator and a woman who is insecure that telling the truth will lead to age discrimination.”

    I agree, but it’s easy to get on a slippery slope from there. If it’s okay for a woman (or man) to lie about her age, is it okay for someone to lie about something else?

    What if I lie about my education? I could say I have a bachelor’s degree instead of “some college”. People don’t guess the truth unless I tell them. My dating pool on Match.com would quadruple if I said I had a degree.

    For those women and men who have lied about their age, do you think it’s okay for me to lie about my education?

    What if someone lies about their marital status and says they’re divorced when they’re only separated? Almost everyone on Match.com excludes people who are separated.

    I’m sure a lot of people will say that certain lies matter more than other lies. I agree completely. However, how much of our decisions about which lies matter boil down to this: “The lies I tell don’t matter. The lies that other people tell do matter.” Doesn’t it stand to reason that the “other people” believe that their lies don’t matter, while yours do?

    I expect people to lie. But trust is a crucial element in a relationship. I’m not going to sabotage the trust in a relationship before it even begins by lying to a woman up front.

    1. 22.1
      v

      Karl, this comment made so much sense! I was naive when i first began internet dating (and eventually gave up dating altogether because i got discouraged.) Men misrepresented themselves AND discriminated. Younger men wanted to hook up and older men — idk what they wanted … a younger woman i suppose … men my own age or living nearby ignored me. it seemed what they all wanted regardless of age was just sex … not to take a women (over 40) seriously. it’s too bad, too, because i entered the dating world with enthusiasm and left it discouraged and dejected. 

    2. 22.2
      Mrs Happy

      Karl you are so correct in your comment, “The lies I tell don’t matter. The lies that other people tell do matter.” I think, the lies you tell, affect other people, and it’s important to try to do the right thing by others.
      I recall some back-and-forth conversations before I met a man years ago, during which I worked out he had lied about his age quite significantly. Basically his autobiographical information and time at university doing each degree across which years, didn’t add up. At the time I was in my early 30’s and wanting to have a family so I was looking for a man around my age and stage of life. When I queried him on the age stuff he said “wow you’re smart” (Ah, not really mate, it was basic maths), he admitted he’d lied, and kept insisting he “looked and felt young” (who cares what you believe/feel, I thought, it’s your AGE that matters to me). He was in his 50’s or something, I had no desire to date or marry a man 20 years older than me, even if he said he wanted to do so, and said he wanted to have children, etc. I found it all so offputting that I didn’t want to meet him. He railed against that, telling me “everyone lies”, but I found getting to know people and evaluate them for compatibility hard enough without lies right up front. I never met him, and it was because of him lying about his age, and the many years of age difference.
      My last boyfriend just before I married was in catestrophic financial debt, and he disclosed this about 2-3 months in, but only after he had to borrow my credit card for something while we were travelling, because three of his didn’t work. He really lived the high life, spent huge amounts on luxury living, and I later found out he had been in significant debt for almost 2 decades, from the time he started at college. He was not able to live financially within his means. His plan was to “change after I marry”. (He reasoned he would then have incentive to provide for a family.) I don’t know when the best time for him to disclose this to me would have been. As it was I battled with it, I spent some time wondering whether the (decent-sized) deposit for a house I’d been accumulating over a decade should be instead put to paying off his debts if we married… we broke up so I never had to decide.
      I have also met 2 men who didn’t disclose to their 2 female partners they were HIV positive, even though in one case, one of the women had asked him outright.
      Lies, lies, lies. People have different thresholds. People often lie to get something advantageous for themselves.

  22. 23
    Lance

    I see listed age as an issue only because of the way searches are set up on match. Basically, it’s one of the first criteria, along with height/weight. If you want to appeal to a different crowd, I wouldn’t having a problem listing a different age and then describing what I was doing in the profile. For me, it’s just gaming the system. Guess what else? Girls aren’t punching in guys who are “short” either, so bumping yourself up a few inches to show up in more searches is perfectly fair IMO.

    For me the pics and intelligence of the profile gets you in the door, and then how well the initial email convo goes. Lying about age means nothing to me.

    Lance´s last blog post…Tax Returns: Complete and Total Satisfaction

  23. 25
    LK

    Lance said: “Girls aren’t punching in guys who are short either, so bumping yourself up a few inches to show up in more searches is perfectly fair IMO.”

    And this is why I add a couple inches to my “minimum” when I do a search. It annoys me that I have to do this.

  24. 26
    Robyn

    Ageism occurs in many situations, unfortunately. And it ain’t going away anytime soon…. So we have to kinda work with it, work around it etc.
    “Fudging” your age by a couple of years (1-5) is not that “bad” IMHO. When the “fudge factor” becomes closer to 10 years (or even more), I do get rather wary though.

    Funnily enough, the one situation where I used to keep VERY quiet about my age was when I graduated from college & was starting out in business. I was still a teenager (19) and most of my colleagues at the same level as I was were several years older (23-28).
    Luckily I looked/appeared older/mature so no one ever questioned my age. But if I was asked I would reply honestly (just not too loudly). I had already had one manager remark “Oh, so you’re that teenager that we just employed” which was kinda amusing, but I didn’t want to be typecast, y’know.

  25. 28
    Jennifer

    @Karl R #22- Very well said.

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    dadshouse

    I’m truthful on dating profiles, and ever since I hit my 40s, it has killed my game! That said, if I’m just trying to hook up casually, I have no problem lying and saying I’m 39. I’m in shape, and look young. Women just want a guy they perceive to be “virile”. And over 40s for some women is not virile, no matter the guy’s true health.

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