Do You Actually Read People’s Profiles Before Putting Them on Your Favorites List?
Do you actually read people’s profiles before putting them on your favorites list? Or is it all based on looks?
Please respond in the comments below.
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26 Comments »Filed Under Online Dating
A-L 1
Uh, yeah! How else am I supposed to know if I’m interested in them? The written profile is what tells you the likelihood of you two having any potential and a photo, no matter how good, can’t do that.
JuJu 2
I don’t favorite anyone – frankly, I don’t understand the purpose of doing so.
But in order to decide whether I am interested in someone, of course I will read the profile, and carefully, not only to determine if we are on the same wavelength intellectually, but also to see if we click on any level.
It can never be just their physical appearance.
Cilla 3
JFYI, Evan, these questions are fun and get me thinking. Other people’s comments are very enlightening–can’t wait for the teleclass. Back online after almost 4 months off, so this is a good refresher.
Yes, I always read someone’s profile before adding him to my favorites. If you look at the favorites list as a list of “maybe’s,” a few are usually maybe maybe’s, the rest are definitely men who have potential to me. But I’m picky–picky about looks (don’t need to be 10′s but need to strike a certain chord with me), picky about grammar (again, doesn’t have to be perfect but I’m not looking for a boyfriend I have to chase around with a red pen), picky about having some similar interests and values, etc.
Michael Ejercito 4
Of course I read people’s profiles. At the very least, I need to know how old they are, whether or not they have been married, etc.
Honey 5
I read EVERYTHING…
Marianne 6
Yes, I do read the profiles first.
moonsical 7
Both, depending on time constraints. Without writing down a user name, “Favorites,” is the only way to come back to a profile and spend more time with it.
moon
satexasgirl 8
Definately. Just because a man may be physically attractive to me does not mean I am going to like him. What he says or does not say in his profile can tell me a lot about him.
Elle 9
I ALWAYS read a person’s profile before tagging him as a favorite. I will admit, though, I first have to find his photo attractive in order for me to then go on and read his profile.
I enjoy reading profiles of men who take the time and effort to write something substantial. No matter how good looking a guy’s photo is, if I open up his profile and it’s only a sentence or two long, I’ll pass.
Andy 10
Of coarse i do! But i might be a little different than most guys. I’ve been dating again for 2 years now so i’ve already gone through the “hot and horney” stage. I will admitt, there was a time there when i would go after anything in sight but after doing that for a couple of years my priorities have changed. I am looking for a friend, a partner, and a lover. So what the woman is like is way more important than what she looks like. Now don’t get me wrong, a still have physical requirements and i like what i like but i have dated many a pretty women who wind up being empty shells, at least in my opinion. I would lke to find a woman who turns me on emotionally as well as sexually! So, depending on where you’re at in your dating state of mind will dectate how you go about picking your favorites.
Elli 11
I much prefer a great profile to a great face. And…. any guy who shows a bare chest in a photo (with rare exceptions which include maybe a sporting event where no shirt is appropriate) is probably NOT for me.
Only after I determine if the profile is of interest do I decide if the guy is anywhere in the realm of acceptable looking.
Sheryl 12
I always read the profile thoroughly and consider if they may find me a match as well. If I wanted to collect hot photos I would look somewhere else;)
The Inbetweener 13
I actually wait until we speak at least once.
Why put someone in your favorites that might disappoint you later?
Beverly 14
Sometimes, I don’t have time to read it at the moment and I put him on my list for a later read. But, after I’ve read a profile, and I really like him, I’ll put him on my Favorites list as a “drop the handkerchief” invite to him. This way, I don’t have to come off as being aggressive, and it allows him to feel as if he’s made the first move. Then if he doesn’t email me , I take him off of my favorites list. And no one’s feelings are hurt, especially mine.
Dana 15
I look at the photo first, then read the profile. I make them a favorite if I like both. I also make favorites of people who post discussion forum comments that I find intriguing, intelligent and/or hilarious.
happygirl 16
Yes, I always read what the profile says. Only then do I put them on my favorite list. I do update my favorite list. I delete if after emailing them there is either no great response or they have not responded back.
-NN- 17
I tend to be picky.. I never favourited anyone, until I noticed that I thought that there is absolutely no-one I would be interested in that site. (Since I forgot the profile the moment I closed it)
So.. now after half a year I have maybe 20 men whom I think are ok, profile and looks-wise. Do I intend to get to know them? Not really.. If they come to talk to me , then maybe but at the moment I don’t have that much extra time (I live 250 km away from where I work) to get to know anyone, I just chat online, and that is something I do without any real interest of getting a partner.
JB 18
People use “favorites lists” for different reasons. Also the way the lists are and what you can do with them are different on many sites. On Yahoo I might put someone in my favorite list to go back and look at them or email them later only to find out they’ve “hid” their profile the next day and I can’t view it. So what I do is keep a seperate no picture recon profile the I use to wink at them so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later(because I’ve winked) and send it to my real profile to email them when I feel like it. This works great on Yahoo but wouldn’t work on Match. I would never go on a site thet tells someone when you add them to your favorites. It’s an invasion of privacy.
JB 19
Typo – it should read “THAT I use to wink at them” so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later.
The reason is, on Yahoo women hide their profiles so fast that you could have 10 of them “favorited” and the next day 8 are hidden so you unless you’ve contacted them you can’t see the profile until they “unhide” it.
Karl R 20
I read the profile completely before I decide whether I’ll add the lady to my favorites.
In my opinion “Favorites” is just a tool so I can access the profile more quickly when I have the time to send an e-mail.
Cilla 21
Interesting…on Millionaire Match, favoriting someone seems also to be a way to let someone know you’re interested in him (he gets an email that he’s been added to your favorites)–like an alternative to a wink. It seems to be a little competitive, since each profile reveals how many people have added that person as a favorite. In fact, one can even sort by most popular (most frequently favorited). Being aware of that subtlety makes me less likely to use favorites as a kind of bookmark to revisit a profile later without thinking about it. There is no way to block this feature, although I can ask the service not to show men that I’ve viewed their profiles.
Jennifer 22
@JB I’m curious, why would you want to email a woman that’s hidden her profile? I’m not sure, but I think users’ profiles end up hidden when they 1.choose to hide it from particular users 2. choose to hide it from everyone. In both cases, I would think attempts to email them would be unsuccessful…what have you found?
Carol 23
The number of attractive men I have passed by because they don’t match me in anyway is about 80%. They don’t have to be movie star handsome by any means, but they don’t go on the favorites unless something in their profile resonates with me. I have never written someone that I didn’t read their profile. If you do, how could you have anything interesting to say to them? Guys that have one or two lines giving you nothing to work with are a waste of time.
Seems like a lot of people put me on their favorites, even though it’s pretty evident we have nothing in common or are looking for different values/interests.
Jenna 24
@ JB – I went on Yahoo briefly after setting up a profile on Match and hid (and then two days later deleted) my Yahoo profile because of all the seriously creepy emails that I received men MUCH older than I was. Also, it seemed like many people I was matched up with had largely incomplete profiles (I was apparently a match because I met the age range and they had not specified any other match preferences-great, I’m in my early twenties and have a pulse… I can see we’ll really connect!). Also, I felt uncomfortable seeing that many of the same people were posted there-someone was sending me emails on both sites hours after I had set the two profiles up-yikes. Sorry that “creepers” are ruining it for everyone else.
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I know that there have been other blog postings about “winks” and “favorites lists” and all I can say is that I kind of hate both… To me, it seems like the equivalent of a Facebook poke. Whenever I see a new wink I think, “Great, what am I supposed to do with that?/ Thanks for the (lack of) effort…” On “my end”, I like a certain level of anonymity in viewing/considering their profile before they express interest, so I can’t see myself doing either… Since I don’t think that men universally have to make the first move (they only do if they want to start talking to me), I can see that other people might like the option of giving someone a little “heads up”. That being said, I think I do a fair job of responding to emails and “giving people a chance”.
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Looking back up at my comment, I am once again struck by the thought that maybe this whole online thing IS too weird for me.
Kaitlyn 25
I don’t understand the purpose of “favorites” to be honest. The only people I’ve put as “favorites” are two guys that I’ve met and am dating…and it was actually more of a joke that I put them as a “favorite” after our dates.
What is the purpose of “favorites”?
Goldie 26
I used the favorites list the same way Karl R. does, as a way to bookmark a profile for easy access – inbox overflows, and people’s online nicknames are impossible to remember. That said, in the three months that I was on a dating site, I’ve had a couple dozen random people favorite me. Most of them never contacted me. Don’t know what they added me for, and not even sure if I really want to know
I read the profiles of everyone that had favorited me, and deleted a few that were overly creepy – just felt safer that way. Don’t know if it was rude or not, but hey, when a guy’s profile picture shows him in full camouflage with a rifle, and his profile reads like he’s talking to the voices in his head, you hit Delete before you can even think.