Comments on: Do You Actually Read People’s Profiles Before Putting Them on Your Favorites List? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Goldie http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-86713 Goldie Wed, 20 Oct 2010 19:11:50 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-86713 I used the favorites list the same way Karl R. does, as a way to bookmark a profile for easy access - inbox overflows, and people's online nicknames are impossible to remember. That said, in the three months that I was on a dating site, I've had a couple dozen random people favorite me. Most of them never contacted me. Don't know what they added me for, and not even sure if I really want to know ;) I read the profiles of everyone that had favorited me, and deleted a few that were overly creepy - just felt safer that way. Don't know if it was rude or not, but hey, when a guy's profile picture shows him in full camouflage with a rifle, and his profile reads like he's talking to the voices in his head, you hit Delete before you can even think. I used the favorites list the same way Karl R. does, as a way to bookmark a profile for easy access – inbox overflows, and people’s online nicknames are impossible to remember. That said, in the three months that I was on a dating site, I’ve had a couple dozen random people favorite me. Most of them never contacted me. Don’t know what they added me for, and not even sure if I really want to know ;) I read the profiles of everyone that had favorited me, and deleted a few that were overly creepy – just felt safer that way. Don’t know if it was rude or not, but hey, when a guy’s profile picture shows him in full camouflage with a rifle, and his profile reads like he’s talking to the voices in his head, you hit Delete before you can even think.

]]> By: Kaitlyn http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-86705 Kaitlyn Wed, 20 Oct 2010 18:03:46 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-86705 I don't understand the purpose of "favorites" to be honest.  The only people I've put as "favorites" are two guys that I've met and am dating...and it was actually more of a joke that I put them as a "favorite" after our dates. What is the purpose of "favorites"? I don’t understand the purpose of “favorites” to be honest.  The only people I’ve put as “favorites” are two guys that I’ve met and am dating…and it was actually more of a joke that I put them as a “favorite” after our dates.

What is the purpose of “favorites”?

]]> By: Jenna http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-32856 Jenna Fri, 05 Jun 2009 17:53:49 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-32856 @ JB - I went on Yahoo briefly after setting up a profile on Match and hid (and then two days later deleted) my Yahoo profile because of all the seriously creepy emails that I received men MUCH older than I was. Also, it seemed like many people I was matched up with had largely incomplete profiles (I was apparently a match because I met the age range and they had not specified any other match preferences-great, I'm in my early twenties and have a pulse... I can see we'll really connect!). Also, I felt uncomfortable seeing that many of the same people were posted there-someone was sending me emails on both sites hours after I had set the two profiles up-yikes. Sorry that "creepers" are ruining it for everyone else. -- I know that there have been other blog postings about "winks" and "favorites lists" and all I can say is that I kind of hate both... To me, it seems like the equivalent of a Facebook poke. Whenever I see a new wink I think, "Great, what am I supposed to do with that?/ Thanks for the (lack of) effort..." On "my end", I like a certain level of anonymity in viewing/considering their profile before they express interest, so I can't see myself doing either... Since I don't think that men universally have to make the first move (they only do if they want to start talking to me), I can see that other people might like the option of giving someone a little "heads up". That being said, I think I do a fair job of responding to emails and "giving people a chance". -- Looking back up at my comment, I am once again struck by the thought that maybe this whole online thing IS too weird for me. @ JB – I went on Yahoo briefly after setting up a profile on Match and hid (and then two days later deleted) my Yahoo profile because of all the seriously creepy emails that I received men MUCH older than I was. Also, it seemed like many people I was matched up with had largely incomplete profiles (I was apparently a match because I met the age range and they had not specified any other match preferences-great, I’m in my early twenties and have a pulse… I can see we’ll really connect!). Also, I felt uncomfortable seeing that many of the same people were posted there-someone was sending me emails on both sites hours after I had set the two profiles up-yikes. Sorry that “creepers” are ruining it for everyone else.
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I know that there have been other blog postings about “winks” and “favorites lists” and all I can say is that I kind of hate both… To me, it seems like the equivalent of a Facebook poke. Whenever I see a new wink I think, “Great, what am I supposed to do with that?/ Thanks for the (lack of) effort…” On “my end”, I like a certain level of anonymity in viewing/considering their profile before they express interest, so I can’t see myself doing either… Since I don’t think that men universally have to make the first move (they only do if they want to start talking to me), I can see that other people might like the option of giving someone a little “heads up”. That being said, I think I do a fair job of responding to emails and “giving people a chance”.
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Looking back up at my comment, I am once again struck by the thought that maybe this whole online thing IS too weird for me.

]]> By: Carol http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16540 Carol Thu, 30 Oct 2008 03:18:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16540 The number of attractive men I have passed by because they don't match me in anyway is about 80%. They don't have to be movie star handsome by any means, but they don't go on the favorites unless something in their profile resonates with me. I have never written someone that I didn't read their profile. If you do, how could you have anything interesting to say to them? Guys that have one or two lines giving you nothing to work with are a waste of time. Seems like a lot of people put me on their favorites, even though it's pretty evident we have nothing in common or are looking for different values/interests. The number of attractive men I have passed by because they don’t match me in anyway is about 80%. They don’t have to be movie star handsome by any means, but they don’t go on the favorites unless something in their profile resonates with me. I have never written someone that I didn’t read their profile. If you do, how could you have anything interesting to say to them? Guys that have one or two lines giving you nothing to work with are a waste of time.
Seems like a lot of people put me on their favorites, even though it’s pretty evident we have nothing in common or are looking for different values/interests.

]]> By: Jennifer http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16495 Jennifer Tue, 28 Oct 2008 23:54:31 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16495 @JB I'm curious, why would you want to email a woman that's hidden her profile? I'm not sure, but I think users' profiles end up hidden when they 1.choose to hide it from particular users 2. choose to hide it from everyone. In both cases, I would think attempts to email them would be unsuccessful...what have you found? @JB I’m curious, why would you want to email a woman that’s hidden her profile? I’m not sure, but I think users’ profiles end up hidden when they 1.choose to hide it from particular users 2. choose to hide it from everyone. In both cases, I would think attempts to email them would be unsuccessful…what have you found?

]]> By: Cilla http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16394 Cilla Mon, 27 Oct 2008 19:33:04 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16394 Interesting...on Millionaire Match, favoriting someone seems also to be a way to let someone know you're interested in him (he gets an email that he's been added to your favorites)--like an alternative to a wink. It seems to be a little competitive, since each profile reveals how many people have added that person as a favorite. In fact, one can even sort by most popular (most frequently favorited). Being aware of that subtlety makes me less likely to use favorites as a kind of bookmark to revisit a profile later without thinking about it. There is no way to block this feature, although I can ask the service not to show men that I've viewed their profiles. Interesting…on Millionaire Match, favoriting someone seems also to be a way to let someone know you’re interested in him (he gets an email that he’s been added to your favorites)–like an alternative to a wink. It seems to be a little competitive, since each profile reveals how many people have added that person as a favorite. In fact, one can even sort by most popular (most frequently favorited). Being aware of that subtlety makes me less likely to use favorites as a kind of bookmark to revisit a profile later without thinking about it. There is no way to block this feature, although I can ask the service not to show men that I’ve viewed their profiles.

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16383 Karl R Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:58:09 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16383 I read the profile completely before I decide whether I'll add the lady to my favorites. In my opinion "Favorites" is just a tool so I can access the profile more quickly when I have the time to send an e-mail. I read the profile completely before I decide whether I’ll add the lady to my favorites.

In my opinion “Favorites” is just a tool so I can access the profile more quickly when I have the time to send an e-mail.

]]> By: JB http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16378 JB Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:07:48 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16378 Typo - it should read "THAT I use to wink at them" so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later. The reason is, on Yahoo women hide their profiles so fast that you could have 10 of them "favorited" and the next day 8 are hidden so you unless you've contacted them you can't see the profile until they "unhide" it. Typo – it should read “THAT I use to wink at them” so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later.

The reason is, on Yahoo women hide their profiles so fast that you could have 10 of them “favorited” and the next day 8 are hidden so you unless you’ve contacted them you can’t see the profile until they “unhide” it.

]]> By: JB http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16377 JB Mon, 27 Oct 2008 15:02:18 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16377 People use "favorites lists" for different reasons. Also the way the lists are and what you can do with them are different on many sites. On Yahoo I might put someone in my favorite list to go back and look at them or email them later only to find out they've "hid" their profile the next day and I can't view it. So what I do is keep a seperate no picture recon profile the I use to wink at them so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later(because I've winked) and send it to my real profile to email them when I feel like it. This works great on Yahoo but wouldn't work on Match. I would never go on a site thet tells someone when you add them to your favorites. It's an invasion of privacy. People use “favorites lists” for different reasons. Also the way the lists are and what you can do with them are different on many sites. On Yahoo I might put someone in my favorite list to go back and look at them or email them later only to find out they’ve “hid” their profile the next day and I can’t view it. So what I do is keep a seperate no picture recon profile the I use to wink at them so that even if they hide their profile I can still review it later(because I’ve winked) and send it to my real profile to email them when I feel like it. This works great on Yahoo but wouldn’t work on Match. I would never go on a site thet tells someone when you add them to your favorites. It’s an invasion of privacy.

]]> By: -NN- http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-actually-read-people%e2%80%99s-profiles-before-putting-them-on-your-favorites-list/comment-page-1/#comment-16359 -NN- Mon, 27 Oct 2008 05:43:44 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=354#comment-16359 I tend to be picky.. I never favourited anyone, until I noticed that I thought that there is absolutely no-one I would be interested in that site. (Since I forgot the profile the moment I closed it) So.. now after half a year I have maybe 20 men whom I think are ok, profile and looks-wise. Do I intend to get to know them? Not really.. If they come to talk to me , then maybe but at the moment I don't have that much extra time (I live 250 km away from where I work) to get to know anyone, I just chat online, and that is something I do without any real interest of getting a partner. I tend to be picky.. I never favourited anyone, until I noticed that I thought that there is absolutely no-one I would be interested in that site. (Since I forgot the profile the moment I closed it)

So.. now after half a year I have maybe 20 men whom I think are ok, profile and looks-wise. Do I intend to get to know them? Not really.. If they come to talk to me , then maybe but at the moment I don’t have that much extra time (I live 250 km away from where I work) to get to know anyone, I just chat online, and that is something I do without any real interest of getting a partner.

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