Comments on: Do You Find that You’re “Better” in “Real Life” than You Are Online? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 06:12:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Li-Ann http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-21537 Li-Ann Wed, 11 Feb 2009 16:49:09 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-21537 I've also found that many men come off a lot better through emails than in person. It is really easy to get sucked in, and continue the emails for even months, and then be in for a big disappointment. As a woman of 44 years, I will come off better in person than online. It doesn't even matter about my profile or photos at this point. Most men won't even bother to look because they screen out my age in their searches. I’ve also found that many men come off a lot better through emails than in person. It is really easy to get sucked in, and continue the emails for even months, and then be in for a big disappointment.

As a woman of 44 years, I will come off better in person than online. It doesn’t even matter about my profile or photos at this point. Most men won’t even bother to look because they screen out my age in their searches.

]]> By: Maria http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-21504 Maria Wed, 11 Feb 2009 05:00:10 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-21504 Almost all men I have met from online have had the same comment...they seem to think I appear much better in person and that my pics don't do me justice. Now, maybe they are just trying to sweet talk me and get down my pants, but I have heard it repeatedly. The truth? I am not photogenic. I try to post updated pics, that compliment me (of course), but some people do not photograph well. If you are teetering on photos, welllll you really need to see them in person. And, NEVER fall in love with an online image- EVER!! Cuz all people are different in person and not at all the fantasy version you created in your head!! Almost all men I have met from online have had the same comment…they seem to think I appear much better in person and that my pics don’t do me justice. Now, maybe they are just trying to sweet talk me and get down my pants, but I have heard it repeatedly. The truth? I am not photogenic. I try to post updated pics, that compliment me (of course), but some people do not photograph well. If you are teetering on photos, welllll you really need to see them in person. And, NEVER fall in love with an online image- EVER!! Cuz all people are different in person and not at all the fantasy version you created in your head!!

]]> By: Anna http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17957 Anna Wed, 19 Nov 2008 01:35:03 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17957 I am definitely much more engaging in person. I haven't made an effort to make up for the delta; although I've dated on-line for few years I firmly believe that is not where I will meet the one. I am definitely much more engaging in person. I haven’t made an effort to make up for the delta; although I’ve dated on-line for few years I firmly believe that is not where I will meet the one.

]]> By: Karl R http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17278 Karl R Mon, 10 Nov 2008 22:00:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17278 I do much better meeting people in real life than on-line. One of my assets in person is my self-confidence. Like the attributes Jane (#7) mentioned, <i>"It is show, don't tell."</i> In addition, in person it's far easier for me to pick up on subtle visual clues which indicate if a woman has the kind of personality traits that I like. A picture doesn't convey nearly as much information, and neither does the written word. ---------------------------- <b>Moonsical said:</b> (#6) <i>"Men seem to base decisions on how into THEM they think I might be (insecurity?) rather than if the experience was fun enough to repeat, and play it by ear."</i> As Evan keeps saying, men are very good at living in the moment. I can enjoy myself on a date, even if I'm not into the woman I'm with. If I'm not interested in you, I won't ask you out again. <i>Furthermore,</i> unless you're interested in me, I'm just wasting my time and money continuing to date you. I do much better meeting people in real life than on-line.

One of my assets in person is my self-confidence. Like the attributes Jane (#7) mentioned, “It is show, don’t tell.”

In addition, in person it’s far easier for me to pick up on subtle visual clues which indicate if a woman has the kind of personality traits that I like. A picture doesn’t convey nearly as much information, and neither does the written word.

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Moonsical said: (#6)
“Men seem to base decisions on how into THEM they think I might be (insecurity?) rather than if the experience was fun enough to repeat, and play it by ear.”

As Evan keeps saying, men are very good at living in the moment. I can enjoy myself on a date, even if I’m not into the woman I’m with. If I’m not interested in you, I won’t ask you out again. Furthermore, unless you’re interested in me, I’m just wasting my time and money continuing to date you.

]]> By: Mary http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17154 Mary Sat, 08 Nov 2008 18:01:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17154 It's so much easier to be "spontaneously" funny in your email profile after hours of thinking how to word yourself attractively. I have been complimented on looking better than my pictures in person. I find with trying to date someone long term, real life gets in the way. I have a teenager at home and two "Demon Spawn" chihuahuas. It takes someone truly ready for a committment to take me on. It's really hard to mesh someone into your life when you're comfortable and happy with the way your life is at the moment. True compatibility if the key and very rare. It’s so much easier to be “spontaneously” funny in your email profile after hours of thinking how to word yourself attractively.

I have been complimented on looking better than my pictures in person. I find with trying to date someone long term, real life gets in the way. I have a teenager at home and two “Demon Spawn” chihuahuas. It takes someone truly ready for a committment to take me on. It’s really hard to mesh someone into your life when you’re comfortable and happy with the way your life is at the moment. True compatibility if the key and very rare.

]]> By: A-L http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17151 A-L Sat, 08 Nov 2008 15:49:16 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17151 From others' responses, I think that I misunderstood the question. I definitely meet more people online than I do in real life. But in terms of what happens when I actually meet a person on a date, I'm usually the one who end up breaking things off. In contrast, if we're still in the e-mailing phase, it's more likely that the guy will be the one to drop the ball. I've gotten compliments on my profile (and when guys meet me they say I look like or better than my photos, so there's truth in advertising). Perhaps where my online "game" needs work is in the e-mailing, though I have no problems writing with articulate fellows who actually write about something in their e-mails with me. I do have a hard time writing with the guys who are grammatically correct but can't think of what to actually write to a girl. Part of me feels as though these guys wouldn't be that interesting on a date anyway, but another part of me realizes that not everyone has the same strengths and many people are better in person. Oh well. From others’ responses, I think that I misunderstood the question. I definitely meet more people online than I do in real life. But in terms of what happens when I actually meet a person on a date, I’m usually the one who end up breaking things off. In contrast, if we’re still in the e-mailing phase, it’s more likely that the guy will be the one to drop the ball.

I’ve gotten compliments on my profile (and when guys meet me they say I look like or better than my photos, so there’s truth in advertising). Perhaps where my online “game” needs work is in the e-mailing, though I have no problems writing with articulate fellows who actually write about something in their e-mails with me. I do have a hard time writing with the guys who are grammatically correct but can’t think of what to actually write to a girl. Part of me feels as though these guys wouldn’t be that interesting on a date anyway, but another part of me realizes that not everyone has the same strengths and many people are better in person. Oh well.

]]> By: Nicole http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17138 Nicole Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:43:06 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17138 I am pretty sure that I am much better in person than online. To be honest, I am not the greatest at making the most unique and eye-catching profile online. Good thing at this particular point in time I am not trying to heavily impress anyone. I have too much going on to even consider dating. I am pretty sure that I am much better in person than online. To be honest, I am not the greatest at making the most unique and eye-catching profile online. Good thing at this particular point in time I am not trying to heavily impress anyone. I have too much going on to even consider dating.

]]> By: A-L http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17136 A-L Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:35:04 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17136 I'd have to say I'm not better in "real life" as I'm not out enough in places that are rich with men. I work in education, am involved in my church, am addicted to nearly anything related to Jane Austen, and take dance classes. I'm not into the bar & club scene (my smoke allergy makes it pretty close to impossible). Which of my interests is filled with single adult men? Pretty much none of them, which is why I use online dating sites. I’d have to say I’m not better in “real life” as I’m not out enough in places that are rich with men. I work in education, am involved in my church, am addicted to nearly anything related to Jane Austen, and take dance classes. I’m not into the bar & club scene (my smoke allergy makes it pretty close to impossible). Which of my interests is filled with single adult men? Pretty much none of them, which is why I use online dating sites.

]]> By: happygirl http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17134 happygirl Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:05:40 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17134 I think I am better in real life then online. I have been told that I am very funny when I IM. I feel my personality comes across even better meeting in person. I think I am better in real life then online. I have been told that I am very funny when I IM.
I feel my personality comes across even better meeting in person.

]]> By: Jane http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-find-that-you%e2%80%99re-%e2%80%9cbetter%e2%80%9d-in-%e2%80%9creal-life%e2%80%9d-than-you-are-online/comment-page-1/#comment-17133 Jane Sat, 08 Nov 2008 01:03:32 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/?p=473#comment-17133 I am definitely better in person. I am usually told that I am prettier than my pics--I think animation has a lot to do with attractiveness. Plus in person, you get to show your humor, kindness, capacity for listening. Can't do that on-line. It is show, don't tell. I am definitely better in person. I am usually told that I am prettier than my pics–I think animation has a lot to do with attractiveness. Plus in person, you get to show your humor, kindness, capacity for listening. Can’t do that on-line. It is show, don’t tell.

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