Just be relaxed and never push something that is not going to happen. I do not know any women that likes to be courted against her own will.

When ever I meet a woman, there is never a formal introduction, so we could go on for months before I ever know her name. Never grill a woman the first time you meet her, do not ask her for her birth certificate, 3 references, and a note from her 2nd grade teacher verifying who she is. Also, let her talk as well.

I am blunt and to the point. The opposite sex always knows where I am coming from. If she has some odd looking bobble, she has an exposed tattoo, … just point at it and say “what the hell is that.” It always helps to point what you are looking at as well. I hate fluff statements. They are full of hot air and mean nothing. Do not talk about the weather, you will have no idea who the person is that is making you dinner. Empty conversation bores me and I will just walk away. You will be surprised how many women will follow you up and chase you down with something decent to talk about after you have walked away from her.

I can not tell you how many women have told me that I was arrogant to only take me out for breakfast the next morning. Do not look like a lost puppy when you are in public, do not look lonely, do not have a care in the world as to how your day/night is going. Do not be timid, but then again do not be afraid to say “thank you mam.”

You want to court a woman, first be comfortable with yourself and everything else will fall into place. Accept what you have and be happy with what you got, even if it not much. Do not be negative or down on yourself. I have been homeless a few times and still manage to have well to do women chase after me only to take me back to their place and make me lunch.

You can be the dirtiest dude, the ugliest of the ugly, a whale of a man, ….. but if you are negative or an introvert, you are never going to get anywhere. Just relax, look to have a good day (today does not always have to be the best day but at least try to make it good), always be goal driven, do not let anything get in your way, and be in control of yourself and where you want to go.

The way you carry yourself and talk to people has a reflection on you. You want to court a woman, do not be in love with yourself, but put yourself on top. Do not look to a woman as a crutch that will carry you where you need to go, that is a mom, not a companion.

“the two of them asked me to go back to their place with them. I had spoken little”

It should read, “the two women asked…”

I had just met a guy last night, and later, we came across two women. He was interested in one, so I backed off. I backed off and made very little contact with either of them. After everything was said and done, the two of them asked me to go back to their place with them. I had spoken little to either of them, I did not even know their names.

When the demand was made that I go back with them, the guy that I just met and I gave each other a questionable look. The invite was clearly for me and me alone. He was not invited, I was, and they were ready to leave for their home.

This morning, they took me out for breakfast. When the server came to see how the checks were going to be handled, before I could even say a word, one of the ladies said one check. I even threw down some money, only to have it thrown back at me.

All I can say is that you want to court a woman, or group, act like she does not exist and keep your thoughts somewhere else. They will be banging your door down just to hang out with you. They will even pay for breakfast the next day.

For some odd reason, I can never get a woman’s name. When I ask, they always get mad. Same is said for this morning. I had never been introduce to either of them, so I had no idea who they were. That is another mistake that I seem to fall into, I should never know a woman’s name. I do not why, but I guess that it is just the rules.

You want to court a woman, ignore her and never find out her name. If you do this, you will have more dates then you can handle.

Only neither I, nor the other posters quite grasped the meaning of such “abstinence”.

Don’t think that people who wait until marriage aren’t fooling around considerably with each other while ramping up. I had a Catholic roommate and he and his girlfriend/finace were waiting, but that didn’t mean they weren’t intimate!

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There are just so many things one can’t possibly predict. I really feel for all those who wait till marriage to find out.

But enough of me corrupting everyone’s morals, already.

1)Ask questions about me, don’t tell me how beautiful I am. I want your interest to be in the lasting qualities of what define me as a person not the superficial.

2)Put your best foot forward. I tend to think the consideration and gentleman-like gestures shown in the beginning are out in full force and this is as good as its ever going to be.

3) Be kind to everyone on our date, I’m noticing your attitude towards the waitress as well as me.

4) It’s never too early for flowers. Really.

5) Let me know you’re thinking about me. Be creative.