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		<title>By: JuJu</title>
		<link>http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-know-how-you-come-across-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-26845</link>
		<dc:creator>JuJu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Apr 2009 18:37:37 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>It was more than one, and I said &quot;physically, I just don&#039;t feel the way I&#039;d like to feel,&quot; or something along those lines.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It was more than one, and I said &#8220;physically, I just don&#8217;t feel the way I&#8217;d like to feel,&#8221; or something along those lines.</p>
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		<title>By: mic</title>
		<link>http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-know-how-you-come-across-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-26833</link>
		<dc:creator>mic</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Apr 2009 14:54:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>JuJu - no, men wouldn&#039;t want to say that. But a woman who has been rejected - when it&#039;s usually the woman rejecting the man - probably would assume it&#039;s that if there was no other obvious reason and she doesn&#039;t think she looks great. What did you say to him before he forced the truth from you?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>JuJu &#8211; no, men wouldn&#8217;t want to say that. But a woman who has been rejected &#8211; when it&#8217;s usually the woman rejecting the man &#8211; probably would assume it&#8217;s that if there was no other obvious reason and she doesn&#8217;t think she looks great. What did you say to him before he forced the truth from you?</p>
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		<title>By: downtowngal</title>
		<link>http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-know-how-you-come-across-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-26779</link>
		<dc:creator>downtowngal</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 22:42:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>While I haven&#039;t read the book, I question Greenwald&#039;s statement that Casey quoted above, &quot;there are 28 million women and 18 million men over 35...&quot;.

What&#039;s the age range?  If this include people 35-75+, then the statement makes sense as women outlive men.  But if you&#039;re a single women in her late 30&#039;s this statement can cause women to think they have less prospects than men, which really isn&#039;t the case.  

I&#039;m 38 and strongly doubt I&#039;d be seeking the same type of guy as a 65-year-old widow.  I also have a hard time believing that at age 36, 10 million more men than women all of a sudden die or get married.

The media and self-help books are doing a great disservice by scaring women into feeling desperate.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>While I haven&#8217;t read the book, I question Greenwald&#8217;s statement that Casey quoted above, &#8220;there are 28 million women and 18 million men over 35&#8230;&#8221;.</p>
<p>What&#8217;s the age range?  If this include people 35-75+, then the statement makes sense as women outlive men.  But if you&#8217;re a single women in her late 30&#8242;s this statement can cause women to think they have less prospects than men, which really isn&#8217;t the case.  </p>
<p>I&#8217;m 38 and strongly doubt I&#8217;d be seeking the same type of guy as a 65-year-old widow.  I also have a hard time believing that at age 36, 10 million more men than women all of a sudden die or get married.</p>
<p>The media and self-help books are doing a great disservice by scaring women into feeling desperate.</p>
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		<title>By: JuJu</title>
		<link>http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/do-you-know-how-you-come-across-on-a-date/comment-page-1/#comment-26771</link>
		<dc:creator>JuJu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 20:32:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>In re: to posts 9 and 26:

I was unable to read the review in question on first attempt, it&#039;s just so poorly written (no surprise it has no &quot;helpful&quot; votes), but finally struggled through it after reading these comments.

Again, the most bizarre piece of dating advice I ever heard. Baths! How practical is that? Especially in the morning? And don&#039;t forget that many people don&#039;t even have bathtubs in their apartments.

But again, I don&#039;t see why a &lt;b&gt;bath&lt;/b&gt; should even be necessary. I mean, what are those people doing when showering their... uhm... private parts, just lathering up on the outside, the way they do with the rest of their body?

All right, whatever.  8=&#124;</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In re: to posts 9 and 26:</p>
<p>I was unable to read the review in question on first attempt, it&#8217;s just so poorly written (no surprise it has no &#8220;helpful&#8221; votes), but finally struggled through it after reading these comments.</p>
<p>Again, the most bizarre piece of dating advice I ever heard. Baths! How practical is that? Especially in the morning? And don&#8217;t forget that many people don&#8217;t even have bathtubs in their apartments.</p>
<p>But again, I don&#8217;t see why a <b>bath</b> should even be necessary. I mean, what are those people doing when showering their&#8230; uhm&#8230; private parts, just lathering up on the outside, the way they do with the rest of their body?</p>
<p>All right, whatever.  8=|</p>
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		<title>By: Kristyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kristyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 19:21:56 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I was wondering the same thing, what is the difference?  But I dated a really good looking guy and we just didn&#039;t have any chemistry.  We&#039;ve actually become really good friends.  There was another guy who we had total chemistry but i&#039;d say he&#039;s average looking.  Of course, what one person finds attractive and another person finds attractive are going to be different.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I was wondering the same thing, what is the difference?  But I dated a really good looking guy and we just didn&#8217;t have any chemistry.  We&#8217;ve actually become really good friends.  There was another guy who we had total chemistry but i&#8217;d say he&#8217;s average looking.  Of course, what one person finds attractive and another person finds attractive are going to be different.</p>
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		<title>By: JuJu</title>
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		<dc:creator>JuJu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 18:40:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Hopefully the html works this time.

&lt;i&gt;I have quit seeing people because there was no chemistry but I don&#039;t think i&#039;ve ever not gone out with someone or quit seeing someone because I didn&#039;t think they were attractive enough.&lt;/i&gt;

What&#039;s the difference?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hopefully the html works this time.</p>
<p><i>I have quit seeing people because there was no chemistry but I don&#8217;t think i&#8217;ve ever not gone out with someone or quit seeing someone because I didn&#8217;t think they were attractive enough.</i></p>
<p>What&#8217;s the difference?</p>
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		<title>By: Kristyn</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kristyn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 18:34:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I have quit seeing people because there was no chemistry but I don&#039;t think i&#039;ve ever not gone out with someone or quit seeing someone because I didn&#039;t think they were attractive enough.  I did have one date whose personality (at least during our encounter) very off-putting.  And he did call and ask me why I didn&#039;t want to go out again and I didn&#039;t tell him the truth.  One of the many things he did was to constantly reassure me how he was really special and a great catch so I&#039;m not sure it would have mattered if I told him the truth or not.  I&#039;d admit though to a third party - or, apparently, on a website.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have quit seeing people because there was no chemistry but I don&#8217;t think i&#8217;ve ever not gone out with someone or quit seeing someone because I didn&#8217;t think they were attractive enough.  I did have one date whose personality (at least during our encounter) very off-putting.  And he did call and ask me why I didn&#8217;t want to go out again and I didn&#8217;t tell him the truth.  One of the many things he did was to constantly reassure me how he was really special and a great catch so I&#8217;m not sure it would have mattered if I told him the truth or not.  I&#8217;d admit though to a third party &#8211; or, apparently, on a website.</p>
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		<title>By: JuJu</title>
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		<dc:creator>JuJu</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 17:55:28 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>[i]Has anyone here been involved in a situation where it was said that the man wasn&#039;t physically attractive enough? It&#039;s hard to imagine a woman admitting that to the man she rejected[/i]

I admitted that.
But only when given the third degree.
I don&#039;t think [b]men[/b] would be too eager to say that to a woman either.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>[i]Has anyone here been involved in a situation where it was said that the man wasn&#8217;t physically attractive enough? It&#8217;s hard to imagine a woman admitting that to the man she rejected[/i]</p>
<p>I admitted that.<br />
But only when given the third degree.<br />
I don&#8217;t think [b]men[/b] would be too eager to say that to a woman either.</p>
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		<title>By: mic</title>
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		<dc:creator>mic</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 17 Apr 2009 14:55:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Karl - definitely, a woman whose lack of visual appeal was the reason can get another chance by dressing sexier or doing virtually anything with her appearance that isn&#039;t obviously unnatural. Unfortunately, because men don&#039;t normally vary their appearance much and women evidently are less forgiving in general, second chances for men deemed unattractive are much less likely.

Has anyone here been involved in a situation where it was said that the man wasn&#039;t physically attractive enough? It&#039;s hard to imagine a woman admitting that to the man she rejected or even her admitting it was something she thought fundamental about his personality, obnoxiousness aside.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Karl &#8211; definitely, a woman whose lack of visual appeal was the reason can get another chance by dressing sexier or doing virtually anything with her appearance that isn&#8217;t obviously unnatural. Unfortunately, because men don&#8217;t normally vary their appearance much and women evidently are less forgiving in general, second chances for men deemed unattractive are much less likely.</p>
<p>Has anyone here been involved in a situation where it was said that the man wasn&#8217;t physically attractive enough? It&#8217;s hard to imagine a woman admitting that to the man she rejected or even her admitting it was something she thought fundamental about his personality, obnoxiousness aside.</p>
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		<title>By: kim</title>
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		<dc:creator>kim</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 16 Apr 2009 23:01:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Casey -- i was able to &quot;recover&quot; one gentleman after i ever-so-gracefully flipped out because he was seeing 2 other women while seeing me (soooo very ugly)....i just approached it with humor, explaining that, as it turns out, i had really never &quot;dated&quot; before and had no idea how to casually date, but was willing to try if he was....he was great about it and we went out a few more times before i blew it again.  if i had only known then what i know now.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Casey &#8212; i was able to &#8220;recover&#8221; one gentleman after i ever-so-gracefully flipped out because he was seeing 2 other women while seeing me (soooo very ugly)&#8230;.i just approached it with humor, explaining that, as it turns out, i had really never &#8220;dated&#8221; before and had no idea how to casually date, but was willing to try if he was&#8230;.he was great about it and we went out a few more times before i blew it again.  if i had only known then what i know now.</p>
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