Comments on: Do You Know What a Man Expects out of a First Date?

By: cakebaby

cakebaby — Tue, 08 May 2012 03:39:10 +0000

Im 24, not a pro dater, but been on a few.. im a lady, and i guess i expect ladies to be polite, and have a sense of “class”- good manners are never looked down upon..

Im kind of shy, but what makes me really like a guy, is if they can make me laugh.. i have a “guy sense of humor”… so when you crack a stupid joke, and theres any kind of pun hidden in there, im trying not to laugh toooo hard..
Bring me out of my shell, just a tad, and i will soooo ask you out for another date!

with that being said, referring to the ladies spilling TMI, the same goes for the guys! Most tell just enough to get me curious, but there has been 1 or 2, that told me way too much, and at that moment, i knew it wasnt going to a 2nd date. blame it on nerves if you want, but i do not want to know about how huge your ex’s boobs were, or how she woke you up, with a good morning bj.

we all have our 1st date expectations, i do not expect a guy to be perfect, thats setting yourself up.. i have a date in 6 days, and im taking him out! its 2012, if a girl asks you out, before you get the chance to ask her, odds are, shes seen something she likes…

By: Kurt S.

Kurt S. — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 18:10:59 +0000

I like to see whether a woman is classy, attentive, and appreciative. It is amazing how many women go on dates expecting a guy to “wow” them, but don’t feel as though they have to make a similar impression on the guy. Some women expect a man to exhibit classic chivalry, yet the women don’t behave like ladies. For example, I once went on a couple dates with a woman I had met on eHarmony and she actually complained on the first date that men weren’t chivalrous because most didn’t pull out a woman’s chair at a restaurant, etc. However, this woman didn’t act ladylike because she showed up late, complained about all of the people she thought had screwed her over, swore like a sailor, dropping many “f” bombs, never thanked me for purchasing dinner, and didn’t pay for anything despite the fact that she was working at a big accounting firm and probably made $100k herself. She did some other annoying stuff I won’t even mention, but suffice it to say, she was the most awful woman I have ever been on a date with in my life.

By: "T"

"T" — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 23:35:39 +0000

Good point, well taken and thank-you. Maybe I’m old school but I believe anyone with proper breeding whether male or female (At least I was taught)..knows that there is a proper time when to use profanity. I’m not saying that I’ve never cursed before, but I usually refrain until I get to know a person. I tend to think that first impressions last. However, while speaking up is something that I will consider, often times I don’t stay around long enough to waste my energy on the “unbred”. LOL..that’s callous isn’t?

By: Karl R

Karl R — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 22:43:09 +0000

“T” said: (#65)
“What bothers me is that no matter what economic background they are from, they manage to slip in some kind of curse word which totally turns me off. Makes me wonder if there are any gentlemen left in the world.”

If you define a “gentleman” as someone who does not use curse words, you will find very few who meet that description.

You may have better luck if you address the issue directly. Instead of saying that you’re looking for a “gentleman”, say that you’re looking for someone who doesn’t curse. If a date curses in your presence, ask him not to.

But if you just go looking for a “gentleman”, you will find lots of people who define the term differently than you.

By: "T"

"T" — Tue, 06 Oct 2009 00:46:01 +0000

I’m an older woman but look much younger. Therefore I am approached by alot of younger men. Some are professional, some are not. What bothers me is that no matter what economic background they are from, they manage to slip in some kind of curse word which totally turns me off. Makes me wonder if there are any gentlemen left in the world.

By: Slim Pickens

Slim Pickens — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 14:16:13 +0000

Heh, I can honestly say I’ve never in my life had a woman knocking things while staring at me. But occasionally someone has stared at me. Since I’ll soon be in a position to stare back we’ll have to test your theory there Thomas.

I’m with hunter, I will be looking for someone around my own age when I’m set free. I don’t quite get guys my age who chase 20-somethings. I love women my age. That’s a topic for a whole new thread.

By: hunter

hunter — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 03:20:36 +0000

Half a century old women are fun to have around!…

By: thomas

thomas — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 22:24:08 +0000

slim, just keep your eye out

When a woman locks eyes with you and will not let it break, go for it. I have been out where the woman knocked people over, ran into poles, and crashed into other objects because she had locked eyes with me and was not paying attention to where she was going. Her body maybe pointed one direction, but her head and eyes will always be pointed at you.

50, who cares. The only one that cares is you. Nobody else cares. Go out and have a good time and be happy with the way things are. Do not fake the happiness, just be grateful with what you got. When others see that you are happy, they want to join in. Be happy that you have lived to be 50 and look forward to the next 50 years and the things that you will accomplish.

Now, I hope that I have the same attitude when I reach 50 that I have today.

By: Slim Pickens

Slim Pickens — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 15:28:26 +0000

Uh, I was being faceitous Thomas. Actually I don’t know what my success rate would be, until recently I was happily married. Technically still am for a couple more months. And then I’ll be both available, but I’ll also be 50. I have a feeling the random pickup thing works better for younger folks. We’ll see.

By: thomas

thomas — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 01:29:03 +0000

Slim Pickens

You must be doing something wrong. If you are out walking around, there is always going to be a handful of women at random that are going to give you the look. If you are confused, watch for the head movement. When she walks pass and she makes eye contact, her torso will be pointing one direction while her head will be pointed another. Sometimes, it seems like her head has turned 180 degrees on her torso.

I feel that the woman always makes the first move, and it starts with the eye contact. If you notice something pretty looking at you from across the distance repeatedly, go talk to her.

I have had a number of freinds make the statement, “lets go out and get some chicks”, to have no courage to go talk to any chicks. If something hot is walking her dog, ask if you can pet it, well ask if you can pet her dog. It will get the ball rolling. If the two of you clicked, as you are walking away, she will want to talk to you more. She will make an effort to talk to you.

Overall, do not force it. If it is not natural, it will fall apart. I can go 6 months where nothing happens, then I can have nights where a dozen different women buy me drinks at the bar.