If you define a “gentleman” as someone who does not use curse words, you will find very few who meet that description.

You may have better luck if you address the issue directly. Instead of saying that you’re looking for a “gentleman”, say that you’re looking for someone who doesn’t curse. If a date curses in your presence, ask him not to.

But if you just go looking for a “gentleman”, you will find lots of people who define the term differently than you.

I’m with hunter, I will be looking for someone around my own age when I’m set free. I don’t quite get guys my age who chase 20-somethings. I love women my age. That’s a topic for a whole new thread.

When a woman locks eyes with you and will not let it break, go for it. I have been out where the woman knocked people over, ran into poles, and crashed into other objects because she had locked eyes with me and was not paying attention to where she was going. Her body maybe pointed one direction, but her head and eyes will always be pointed at you.

50, who cares. The only one that cares is you. Nobody else cares. Go out and have a good time and be happy with the way things are. Do not fake the happiness, just be grateful with what you got. When others see that you are happy, they want to join in. Be happy that you have lived to be 50 and look forward to the next 50 years and the things that you will accomplish.

Now, I hope that I have the same attitude when I reach 50 that I have today.

You must be doing something wrong. If you are out walking around, there is always going to be a handful of women at random that are going to give you the look. If you are confused, watch for the head movement. When she walks pass and she makes eye contact, her torso will be pointing one direction while her head will be pointed another. Sometimes, it seems like her head has turned 180 degrees on her torso.

I feel that the woman always makes the first move, and it starts with the eye contact. If you notice something pretty looking at you from across the distance repeatedly, go talk to her.

I have had a number of freinds make the statement, “lets go out and get some chicks”, to have no courage to go talk to any chicks. If something hot is walking her dog, ask if you can pet it, well ask if you can pet her dog. It will get the ball rolling. If the two of you clicked, as you are walking away, she will want to talk to you more. She will make an effort to talk to you.

Overall, do not force it. If it is not natural, it will fall apart. I can go 6 months where nothing happens, then I can have nights where a dozen different women buy me drinks at the bar.

I use to have this friend years ago that had would always ask me to be his wing man. He was younger than me, more physically tone, better looking, and came from a better background.

When we would go out, he would always try to dominate the conversation with women. He would always talk about something way off in the distance, like he was trying to show that he was smart and could talk above the woman. It was as though he was trying to show that he was dominate in all aspects of life.

Do you remember the movie “back to the future”? There is a part in the first one where the scientist is talking about flux capacitors.

When my friend would try to talk to women, he would always talk down to them and try to impress them by talking over them. I would always turn to him and say, “stop talking about flux capacitors. If you are going to do it, at least let the chick get a word in once in awhile.”

Do not get me wrong, he was a great guy, he just took women too serious. He always had a list that he would check off in his head. One of the things is he had to do was show them that he was a dominate male and could provide for them. He was never relaxed around them.

The one time he actually listened to me, he got laid. I spoon fed him a woman that happened to be walking by. I kept telling him to relax and talk to her about certain subjects. The two of them sat across from me as I told him what to do. I pretty much took a vagina, wrapped in plastic, and handed it to him. She actually made contact with me first. She made eye contact with me and came over to the table with me and my friend and started a conversation. That was when I pointed my friend out and said that he had a background in the subject, then I just kept the ball rolling from there.

For me, I am not that good looking. Guys 10 times better looking than me can have poor social skills and never have the chance to have a conversation with any woman.

I usually do not put any effort into it, I am just there chilling, having a conversation. I might be 100 pounds heavier than the other dudes in the room, but I am not going to look down and talk to my shoes when you approach me. The same can be said for anything else. You might have a nice car that costs $100,000. Yet, if you can not make eye contact with a woman, I am more than likely to ride off with her into the sun set with her on the handle bars of my Schwinn.

I do not think that looks has anything to do with it. I just find that there are so many people that have poor social skills today.

moon…

It is kind of weird, but for some reason, I never get a name, or rarely. When ever I meet a woman, I treat them casual, like she is a person, not pursuing her. I treat her like a chum, a buddy, like one of the guys, but within reason.

With guys, I am the same way. I start out meeting them and just engage in light conversations. I can go on for weeks or even months without knowing a guy’s name. I do not go up to guys the first time I meet them, shake their hand, and then ask them what their name is.

Believe it or not, I have seen way too many guys approach women like this. It is not a business meeting, it is out of the office and in public.

I always keep things relaxed and chill. Yet, I have too many times where I have a woman straddling me, with her shirt and brawl around her neck; and I ask, “before we go farther, can I have your name?” I am always clueless when it comes to the opposite sex. I never have women kind of ease into it, they always lunge at me.

I just have a real bad time making that transition from person sitting beside me on the bus to someone that I go on a date with.

It seems that I find myself thinking about filling my belly with food while the other person is thinking about filling her belly with my babies. By the time I find out and realize that she has interest in me, it is as though it is too late and she is expecting me to be further along than what I am. I constantly find myself in the position where I am wanting to find out her name and she is wanting to go and get matching walking outfits.

It may have been he had that woman on her back so fast, there was no time for details……OMG!……