Comments on: Does Online Dating Even Work?!

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 20:11:09 +0000

I think dating is tougher in a bar or person what are the chances of meeting someone and you don’t know what that person is about.

Atleast online you get the basics about the person before you meet. Yes people can lie but they can do that in person as well.

By: AlX

AlX — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 02:12:11 +0000

YOU ALL ARE SUCH !!!!!!

Instead of feeling sorry for yourselves, why not go learn the new skill you need to solve this problem?

I’ll start you off:
-Most of you do not want to solve the problem, just complain about it.
-Most of you males are beta, fragile, and afraid of women.
-Most of you females are egotistical, demanding, and want to be male. -Most of you speak like scientists – relax! You don’t have to go around flaunting your education.
-Most of you lack confidence, because you lack social skills, because you lack knowledge.

This should clear up about 95% of your problems. You’re welcome, you overgrown babies.

Btw, keep up the good work Katz! Oriental males with White women? The man is a miracle-worker for those males!

-AlX

By: MilkyMae

MilkyMae — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 20:24:51 +0000

Good point Jay. I doesn’t seem that way until you are online for a while. When you’re looking for a certain level of education or certain relationship goals, the number of men gets even worse. When I see someone interesting online, I need to remind myself that the men/interesting-men ratio is not in my favor.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 28 Dec 2011 13:22:11 +0000

Dating websites are for women who are beautiful and men who earn lots of cash if you don’t fit into either category don’t bother you are more likely to find someone offline.

By: g

Sat, 10 Dec 2011 14:37:53 +0000

Hey jay,

thats poss a good site, but if there is some evidence on there that says men/women ration is smaller than most men think, it might have been better to link to the actual data rather than the front page. It would be interesting to see.
To be honest most men say that when they do a male (looking for a female) and then the reverse, they tend to find a heck of a lot more males turning up than they do females in their area. I havent personally tried it, but i might
g

By: Jay

Jay — Wed, 07 Dec 2011 22:58:06 +0000

I wanted to advise (Geoff) in his statement that “there’s a lot more men than women“, to the contrary in actuality most dating sites have more women then men.
Use this link to help as a guide. It can pull the actual demographic data in terms of Male to Female ratios, ages, and even by race. Useful guide to help you decide which sites to join.
http://WWW.QUANTCAST.COM

By: Cher

Cher — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 05:44:35 +0000

Wow, I have been reading these for awhile, truthfully I have used online dating successfully for some time, granted there are real drawbacks, my last relationship was wonderful, he and I had great compatibility, amazing chemistry and would never have met had it not been for online dating BUT he never took down his profile, not sure why, he didn’t really give a reason and had I never noticed it was still up and he was checking it, we would still be together cuz things were going great. But I know better so I ended it. But I have met many men, some strange, some kind, some fun, some good looking and quite honestly I have met men that exist in the world today, I just happened to meet them online and most I never would have. Is it painful sometimes, yes, is it frustrating yes, but truthfully, if you are honest in your profile and provide a Head and Body shot for them then you know and they know and if you still want to meet, give it a chance. It really does take just ONE and every ONE is different just like the people you meet in 3D every day in the world. It’s that simple. Evan we love you and the service you give us to try to get us to that next step, thank you.

By: g

Sun, 20 Nov 2011 23:50:55 +0000

I’m 5 foot 10, 32 and find I can attract some nice women in the real world (just rubbish at approaching for dates + where I live isn’t very social)… yet pof hasn’t worked for me at all. My profile is well written. Its funny and has, as I’ve said, been faved 3 times. Now, I wouldn’t say I’m “hot”… and that’s what I’m thinking about these sites… if you’re a guy you have to actually be “hot” just to get what you could probably attracted walking through a superstore or at work.

By: James

James — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 21:57:41 +0000

Online Dating works but the success rate obviously depends on the quality of people you’re messaging. For example, a guy could get nearly 100% response rate, if he messages ugly women that are borderline clinically obese. On the other hand, if he messages reasonable to good looking, he can expect a massively lower response.

I must say that if you’re a guy, Online Dating works much much better if you’re taller than 5ft 10 especially if you’re in your 20s/early 30s. If you’re a decent looking taller man (preferrably 6ft +) with a well written profile, you’ll likely get messages and a decent response back from your emails. In fact, it’s worked out for 3 friends and one is now engaged. Yet, I must add the caveat that they’re all above 5ft 10 – 1 is 5ft 11, and 2 are 6ft 1.

However, if you’re decent/good looking guy but short (5ft 9 or less), then you might as well look into other avenues as online dating is likely to be a frustrating experience. It simply doesn’t matter whether you’ve got a good profile or write tailored messages, you’ll be overlooked. I know no one who’s shorter than average that internet dating has worked for.

But why is this the case? Women get so much more attention online than men (plus there are a lot more men on these sites). You’re in competition with hundreds of men at a time and if you have a negative physical trait that isn’t generally looked on favourably (lack of height), a well written, funny profile and even good photogenic pics are unlikely to compensate. A women who may consider you offline as suitable dating material (especially if you have lots of other positives going for you), will likely not give you the time of day online.

Sure, a short guy can have some success online if he’s willing to message women who are fat and/or ugly but what’s the point?! If you’re funny & intelligent, join a club and try to meet women in the real world – they’re far more likely to look past height offline than online. Get your self-respect back!

By: g

Fri, 18 Nov 2011 14:44:18 +0000

Well, I keep getting responses on okcupid (1/4 response rate), but they only run for 2-3 emails and then vanish (some nice girls too)… and on pof I get next to zero response to messages I send out… and quite a few messages from women I wouldn’t find attractive. It doesn’t work for me at all! I’ve been on 1 date in 8-9 months of so-called online dating… and the girl turned out to be nothing like her pic… and we didn’t click anyway! I know my profile is well written and it has been faved 3 times!
Another girl who messaged me first and swapped numbers keeps trying to arrange dates, but not keeping to them, then getting in contact again to arrange another date (been going on 7 months with her!) Major doh – major waste of time! I’m sure it’s done something positive for me, but I wouldn’t have done it if I knew how poor the catch would be! I joined OKC and POF to date women, not to endlessly send out emails, look at pictures, get rejected and my time wasted in various ways!!! doh! doh! doh! don’t do it baby!

Oh, but it works for some people. I think its down to looks. But whereas in the real world you will get somewhere if you look OK, on pof and OKC you only get somewhere if you are in the top 20%, if you’re a guy. Online for guys, I think, only works if you either have lower standards or you are very good looking (and I mean very) and just looking for short-term/ one night. My friend got quite a few lays off it… now he’s dating a girl much younger than him and they are very happy together (he didnt meet her on pof!).