“Don’t evaluate the woman. Evaluate the relationship. You can always find someone younger, cuter, smarter, richer… But that doesn’t mean you’ll have a great partnership with her. So even if you could say that your partner is a “7″ or “8″, if your RELATIONSHIP together is a “10″, that’s really what matters most.”
Don’t evaluate the woman. Evaluate the relationship.
I took this in for a second. Scott saw me processing. “So?” he said. “How’s your relationship?”
“10,” I replied, without a moment’s hesitation.
“You know what to do,” he smiled.
That advice, from a very wise and happily married man, changed my life. It is no disrespect to my wife to say that I wasn’t positive if we were meant to be. All relationships are a choice. The easier choices come when you’re intoxicated by passion and you’re not thinking clearly. Sometimes those relationships work out; more often, they don’t. I thought I was thinking very clearly while I was courting my wife. Turns out I was wrong.
There was never anything wrong with her; there was only me, looking for reasons to run away from the best relationship I had ever known.
Looking back, I’m glad I didn’t think I knew it all – and more glad that I have friends who know more than I do…
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