I am a victim of facebook infedelity, my wife not three months ago was caught cheating with a marred man from her school days who was having issues with his wife that was visible from the wall posts.

My relationship WAS solid and HAPPY, then she got her iphone, put facebook on it and within weeks I lost her socially in the evenings. With in a month the she had started inappropriate conversations, via text and chat with two of her male friends from the past and within four months she is planning on wrecking a ten year relationship with four children, for an old flame she would never had ever come into contact if it wasn’t for facebook. Having all those “What ifs” displayed in front of you takes a strong relationship in deed to stop the beginnings of a flirt and flutter. A single crack in your own relationship and you are up against a fantasy, a person who hasn’t whined, or nagged, or complained. But someone either attracted too or was once attracted to your partner and with a free private communication platform. 

I am still picking up the pieces still today. My warning is to all spouses, that its not just facebook, its all non-logged private internet chatter where efidelty occurs, but I would blame very much the likes of facebook for dangling temptation in the first place.

You had a girlfriend in sixth grade? Man, you started early. I was still playing with Barbie dolls then.

Furthermore, the vast majority of users hide their relationship status, like I do. (I am single.)

7 yrs. ago my then partner joined Classmates.com. He was very excited to re-connect with old army buddies and classmates from decades before. What he failed to share with me was that through one of those classmates he reconnected with an old girlfriend he was once engaged to as a young man. And started an affair with her that lasted 6 mos. before I caught on.

I don’t blame CM.com. I blame HIS lack of character. In hindsight I believe he was looking for something “new” while wanting to hang on to our relationship (sex life?). He might have cheated with anyone, and perhaps did before, for all I know. But yeah, these social network sites do make it easier to indulge in “what if…” thinking and go for it. And even easier to lie about what you’re doing.

I do a smooth jazz radio show; I’ve got several of the artists who’s music I play on the show on my “friends” list, plus other jocks and stations, particularly that format. It can be a useful networking tool. I agree with you; we don’t need to know everytime somebody opens up a pack of chewing gum. But I do like the networking aspect of it.

I met the BF on myspace, he was never that into it….now I have his password because he put me in charge of updating his profile and responding to the (increasingly rare as everyone has migrated to FB) e-mails on there. He said that if I wanted to make a FB account for him and do all the logging in/activity that I was welcome to (he has no particular draw to do so). While this would be AWESOME for spying on his exes, I think I have better things to do…
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