Why Men Routinely Hit on Women Who Are Not Interested

Three common reasons why men hit on women:

  1. They are completely clueless as to whether they have a chance.
  2. They are looking for validation and approval from women.
  3. They enjoy the challenge of trying to win you over. 
  4. They’re trying to get laid and they don’t care what you think.

Keep reading to understand what men are really thinking when they approach you – even when you’re not remotely interested.

Table of Contents

The Misperception of Sexual Intent: What You Need to Know
What is sexual misperception?
How to Deal with Sexual Misperception

 

The Misperception of Sexual Intent: What You Need to Know

I’m always wary about sharing articles and videos, lest you think that my sharing them is a 100% endorsement of the ideas within them.

When I share something, there’s always a seed of an idea worth discussing, which brings me to today’s video courtesy of New York Magazine, on a concept known as sexual misperception.

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What is sexual misperception?

This is the very observable phenomenon in which men overestimate women’s interest in them.

90% of women have experienced a man who mistakes basic politeness for sexual signals. Yet studies show this isn’t just a result of American frat-boy culture. In fact, people all over the world deal with the same misperception.

How to Deal with Sexual Misperception

Like most things we discuss here on this blog, I find it more important to observe and understand than to judge it.

So, here it is:

  • As a woman, you may not like every guy who hits on you, but that doesn’t mean you should stop being polite.
  • As a man, you may overestimate how many women are open to your advances, but that doesn’t mean you should be afraid to make the first move.

The point is that people shouldn’t take anything in dating too personally. 

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The point is that people shouldn’t take anything in dating too personally.

Don’t take it personally that a guy asks you out when you were just being nice. 

Don’t take it personally when she rejects you for asking her out.

Your comments below are always appreciated.

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