Comments on: Have You Ever Gone on an Amazing Date And Instantly Come Home to Write to Other People on Match.com?

By: The Nice Girl

The Nice Girl — Thu, 27 Dec 2012 19:47:40 +0000

I am a firm believer that we should have a separate email address for our online dating profiles. That way, we do not come home from a date and just innocently go to check our yahoo accounts and have to deal with the temptation to check and see who this is that just marked me as a favorite! Its hard to avoid that temptation.
Online dating does nothing but paralyze our ability to stop and make a choice because the parade of choices are there in front of you everyday in your inbox. So make the separation!
Oh and Marie, my best friend had sex with a man and woke up to him scrolling through match.com while they were still naked in the bed. Lol.. its unreal.

By: Marie

Marie — Tue, 27 Dec 2011 09:58:33 +0000

I dont do this, but I’ve been out with guys who have. The absolute worst, was when I was on a 5th date with a guy, and he asked me if I wanted to sleep over for the first time, and I agreed to. Before we went to sleep, he was in the kitchen putting a few things away from the dinner he cooked that evening, and from the other room I noticed him typing on his phone. I just had a feeling, so I checked the online dating site that we met on, and sure enough his username said “Online Now”. I told him I’d decided to go ahead and go home. I got the hell outta there, and never went out with him again.

By: helene

helene — Thu, 21 Jul 2011 19:52:08 +0000

I would most definately AVOID going onto my dating site after a great first date with someone I was interested in. Not because I feel I’ve now met THE ONE but because if there ever is going to BE a ONE then I feel you need to give things a fair shot. I won’t take down my profile, but I will stop actively seeking or responding to other men for the time being. Yes, my date will see this, if he logs on and checks my profile. I WANT him to see that I am not logging on, that I am actually giving him a chance. I feel that men more than women are very addicted to the “multiple options, grass is always greener” mentality that online dating offers, and I don’t want to legitimise that behavious by being seen to keep logging on myself. When you’re not dating anyone, thats the time to be scouring the sites. Once you ACTUALLY MEET someone you ACTUALLY LIKE, then give it a fair shot! If it falls apart, sure, that’s the time to get back on the merry-go-round!

By: Claudia

Claudia — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 19:26:31 +0000

Yes, I’ve come home from an amazing first date and gone online, only to see that he’s online and I feel a sting of hurt. But hey, I’m online too! In fact, a guy and I made the we’re going to be exclusive agreement and still we were both online. Nothing makes sense anymore. If trust can be doubted this is one sure way to do it.

Like another person said, I think the online dating sites should not show who’s online. I’d rather not doubt someone’s sincerity based on this. I’d rather not see the person online, no matter what it may mean.

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 16:18:58 +0000

Isn’t taking your profile down after one date jumping the gun, no matter how well it went? I continued to chat after dates and only stopped when one man and I agreed to be mutally exclusive with each other and we BOTH took down our profiles.

By: Cilla

Cilla — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 13:25:51 +0000

It’s interesting how Internet dating has changed all this. Imagine going on a date 20 years ago where after your date drops you at the door, you turn around and hit a dozen bars to see if there’s anyone there for you. Has online dating made it too easy to be ridiculously picky and never find a mate, or worse to cheat? Yes and yes. And before someone gets all hotheaded, I’m not saying checking your email after a date is necessarily cheating, I’m just questioning how easy it makes it NOT to find what you say you’re looking for.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 00:20:53 +0000

I have definitely done this and didn’t feel an ounce of remorse about it. What’s really amusing is to come home from a great first date and see the other person ALSO on match checking emailing, etc. Keeps you humble.

By: satexasgirl

satexasgirl — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 19:17:24 +0000

No, regardless of whether it’s the first date or not. Depending on the hour I have come home & checked my email. If there is an email I’ll read it, but won’t respond one way or the other until later. If I felt it was an amazing date then I would want to give my date the cosideration of not writing someone else as soon as I get home. Maybe it’s old fashioned, but that’s how I am.

By: Michael Ejercito

Michael Ejercito — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 17:52:47 +0000

Until I actually make a commitment, I will continue to use online dating.

By: Louis Brusco

Louis Brusco — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 14:12:00 +0000

Me too – I assumed Amazing First date – if I had an Amazing date there would be other things I would do when I got home – no – clean things – like sitting there writing an email or text message telling her how amazing it was for me – and making sure she did not sit there trying to decide if I was the type of guy to adhere to a 24 hour rule.