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You were delighted when I told you how to tell if a man was falling in love with you.
You were thrilled when I told you when to dump a non-committal guy.
I think you’re going to be challenged by what I’m about to tell you in my next video.
We’ve long ago established that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
That describes most of us when it comes to dating and relationships.
You’re wired a certain way. You’re attracted to a certain kind of personality type.
Over and over, you plug away, trying to make things work, even though it should be readily apparent by now: there’s not necessarily something wrong with YOU, nor is every man in your life fatally flawed. The problem is how you two work as a couple.
Two great ingredients don’t necessarily taste good together.
Lobster and cinnamon come to mind.
So what we’re here to do is try to reduce this to a simple science, finding a man who’s not just a great guy, but finding a man who’s a great fit for your life.
That may sound a little cold and cerebral to you, but I hate to tell you, following your heart has caused pretty much all of your relationship troubles. If love is blind, it’s my job to take the blinders off and let you know how to make slight adjustments that will lead you to greater happiness.
And let me be the first to tell you, greater happiness doesn’t rest in choosing a guy who’s just like you. My mantra to women is to look for a complement, not a clone.
This may not come naturally to you, especially if you’re a smart, strong, successful woman who thinks that you “deserve” a man who is smarter, stronger, and more successful than you are.
Essentially, you’re trying to date yourself, with a penis.
That kind of thinking is a huge blind spot for many women.
(Just imagine if men said the same thing: “I need a woman who is smarter, stronger, and more successful than I am.” No one would ever be able to settle down because everyone would be trying to trade up!)
This creates a conundrum for women who consider themselves in the 90th percentile of everything. In other words, the number of men who are taller, smarter, richer, is going to be a small fraction of the population. (Consider: 15% of men are 6 feet tall. 10% have masters degrees. 2% make over 200K, etc.)
Furthermore, these prime specimens of man meat are NOT necessarily looking to date female versions of themselves.
You may want these alpha male studs, but these alpha male studs often prefer women who are less busy, more available, less critical, and lower maintenance.
Therein lies the friction.
What happens when you catch one of these Bill Clinton/Tiger Woods type men?
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