How Do You Know Why Someone Wants To Marry You?
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People put up with crap from rich men and beautiful women that they wouldn’t put up with from anyone else. And rich men and beautiful women know it.
So whether you’re talking about extreme money or extreme looks, you’re talking about a great equalizing factor that is the only thing that allows certain people to find partnership. And you know what? For a domineering and tempestuous entrepreneur, or an insecure and dim ingénue, maybe it really doesn’t matter why they’re married.
He gets his showpiece, she gets her diamonds, and both get the relationship they deserve.
But for people of depth – the beautiful woman with the heart of gold, the wealthy man who values conversation over cars – this is always going to be a lingering question: Why does this person want to be with me?
Which brings us back to you, Lisa.
Would your boyfriend have proposed to you after six months if you weren’t pregnant? Probably not. But the fact that you got pregnant, followed by his immediate joyous reaction that he wants to marry you to create a family, seems to be a pretty good indicator that he truly loves you
Yes, things have been sped up a bit unnaturally. But unless you have issues with him that might break you up – he’s a cheater, he’s financially unstable, he doesn’t wear deodorant – I wouldn’t spend much time worrying about why he’s with you.
Instead, I’d focus on making your relationship into a success – rather than rushing into marriage. And if, in six months, he’s not the man he seemed to be, you won’t be legally entangled the way you were with your first husband.
Congratulations, good luck, and stay in touch…
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4 Comments »Filed Under Marriage
BeenThruTheWars 1
Damn… wish I’d known about WealthyMen and MillionaireMatch when I was dating. (JUST KIDDING, EVAN…)
Collins 2
Today, unlike in bygone days, just because you’ve either gotten pregnant or made someone thus doesn’t mean you should marry that person. Couples who marry for that reason tend not to think about compatibility regarding money, religion, child-rearing, etc, & thus tend to get divorced sooner or later.
Laura 3
The reason should be so easy, He is a great guy and your a great woman. People are so hung up on looks, money, education when it comes to marriage. But what happen to the reason “I just Love you enough to ask”! I have great times with you! I love you just because! You have a great personaility, smile, laugh, and you are in my thoughts everyday! What happen to the way we love one another, is it gone?
Lydia 4
I’m one of those women who would have loved for my unexpected pregnancy to have been looked at as a “happy accident”. When I got pregnant at age 41 after knowing this great guy for only 3 months,I got encouraged to have an abortion, but he still pretty much maintained the status quo of our friendship for 4 1/2 more months before he dumped me cold turkey after I pressed him for a commitment (he had been up and down emotionally and I wanted him to stabilize for both of our sakes–bad move, I know). So, I didn’t lay eyes on him for the last half of my pregnancy and spoke with him very little. We had a happy outcome. He fell in love with his daughter and we have a good co-parenting relationship, which I am thankful for–although I’d really like MORE. I really felt cared for by him before the pregnancy (he gave me lots of time and attention and took me on great dates and we had great conversation and “fun” and he even told me he cared a lot for me), though he didn’t see me as having wife potential for him (wasn’t ready to marry a divorced, older woman with kids), but if the pregnancy had inspired him to “make an honest woman out of me”, I would have been grateful. Maybe the same thoughts as you have would have crossed my mind, but I don’t think I would have dwelled on them.