As a result of reading Finding the One Online and following your advice blog I’ve become a much more savvy online dater. I have an engaging profile, attractive current pics and a positive attitude. But, the more skilled I’ve gotten at playing the online dating game the more frustrated I’ve become with the shoddy profiles that men post. I’ve changed but men haven’t. I’m still dealing with the same short, shallow, generic profiles and blurry, taken-in-the-bathroom photos. But now I have far less patience for these than I used to. I try to give guys the benefit of the doubt. I remind myself that these men haven’t had the benefit of coaching and are doing the best they know how. But, I still find myself incredibly frustrated and far more critical and dismissive. I don’t expect men to change, so how can I adjust my attitude so that I can be a more effective online dater?
Ah, the curse of knowing too much, being too smart, and placing ahead of the curve.
Nope, can’t say I’m familiar with it – but some dead Greek guy once observed that “an unexamined life is not worth living”.
If this is the case, you can surely kill off most everyone on Match.com.
…by letting your perception of these men dictate your feelings about online dating, you’re the one who loses.
The thing to remember is that perception is not reality, and by letting your perception of these men dictate your feelings about online dating, you’re the one who loses.
So let’s reframe:
A few months ago, a bright, creative, well-intentioned woman – let’s call her “Cassie” – has just about had it with online dating.
Her best dating prospect disappeared into thin air, and the only two emails she’s gotten this week came from fat men 25 years older who live two states away.
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