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I have read your advice on non-committal men. I have done everything wrong. Sleep with him when he wants, clear my schedule for him, revolve my life around a guy who doesn’t do that for me, but he “doesn’t want to lose me”, etc.
I know your advice is: “Walk away and don’t look back. If he follows, you’ll know you’ll have yourself a boyfriend who values you and will follow you to the end of the earth. That is what you deserve. If he doesn’t, then he’s not all that serious about keeping you in his life, is he? ”
My question is, what is the right way to walk away? Do I have a “talk” with him? I feel like having a break-up talk is close to the same as giving him an ultimatum. Do I just go away? What exactly is “walking away?” What would be most effective with men? –Eileen
I must admit, I’m always surprised when advice that I think is straightforward ends up being confusing for a reader.
Obviously, that only means one thing: I’m not nearly as good at explaining myself as I thought I was.
So thank you for reminding me to dig deeper, to straighten out the subtle nuances of the concept of walking away.
He is going to be a great boyfriend and husband for someone. Just not for you.
Let’s paint a scenario that should look familiar to most women.
You’re seeing a guy for the past three months. And by “seeing” him, I mean that you’ve been sleeping with him approximately once a week since the night you met. (If you’re not doing this, the story STILL holds, so please, stick with me.) You like this guy. You like this guy a lot. He’s charming, cute, smart, kind and charismatic. He is going to be a great boyfriend and husband for someone. Just not for you.
And you know this already because if he wanted to be your boyfriend, he’d already be your boyfriend. The fact that he sees you once a week, doesn’t hang out with you platonically, hasn’t introduced you to his family, hasn’t talked about a future, and only communicates by text tells you everything you need to know. This is a dead end.
Now let’s bring this back to you.
I tell you to walk away. What does that mean? Well, let’s start with what it doesn’t mean.
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