Here’s the (not-so) funny thing about online dating:
The majority of men using it really do want to fall in love and get married. An old Match poll set the number at 75% and I don’t doubt it for a second. You just would have a hard time telling when it comes to men’s online behavior.
This article about a man who poses as a woman on OkCupid and sets up a fake profile is laugh out loud funny – and scary. He posts a pretty picture and then writes a profile and emails that are stupid, vacuous, insulting and racist. And yet, guys still keep coming back for more.
Such is the power of sexuality.
Women might take this as proof positive that online dating is horrible, that men are fatally flawed, etc.
What I want you to take away is more valuable: remember all those times that I said that men look for sex and find love? I meant it. Normal relationship oriented men are willing to put up with a woman’s stupidity, simply because they want to have sex. They have no intention of marrying her – they just want to have a good time until they find the woman they DO want to marry.
And while I’ve never personally written to someone who was overtly racist, I do recall a correspondence on Friendster in 2003 with a woman who was so ridiculously hot that I overlooked her functionally illiterate emails. We hooked up a few times and that was that. It didn’t make me a bad person. It made me a guy. So please, don’t forget that, when you read how much these men chose to ignore in the pursuit of sex…
It’s embarrassing, and yet somewhat predictable.
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