Comments on: How Many Dates Are You Emailing At a Given Time?

By: OnlineSucks

OnlineSucks — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 03:12:26 +0000

Jeez, I’ve been “online dating” for a month and I ALMOST was able to arrange a face-to-face…but then it fell through.
Not sure what I’m doing wrong, but I’m thinking there is a reason why I rarely date. Maybe I’m just “wired” that way? So far, it seems like online dating has all of the head aches of “non-online dating” only you have to wade through all of the B.S. just to freaking have a conversation.
Meh – I’ve just made the decision to cancel my membership. I’ve been happily alone for years now, and that is just the way I am.

By: Claudia

Claudia — Wed, 27 Apr 2011 19:45:49 +0000

When you do online dating for quite awhile you get the hang of it. At first I was overwhelmed and emailed and dated my brains out – which is very confusing, and difficult to keep track of who’s who. Then I learned how to be more selective which the volume reduced. Now if a man seems good and he’s doing the right things to get and keep my attention, I’ll stick with him only to see what materializes. It doesn’t take long to end if nothing is going to happen. Then it’s on to another.

I haven’t met the man of my dreams yet, but there is always hope.

By: Michael17

Michael17 — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 22:43:13 +0000

Usually 1–2. I will send out about 5–10 emails, and I will get perhaps 2–3 responses back. Out of those 2–3, maybe one will drop out, giving me 1–2.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sat, 05 Feb 2011 15:48:58 +0000

I’ve been online dating for a few years now and it was just standard to go on 3 to 4 dates each week. I added them in my phone with name, and something unique…their job, town they lived in, etc. I’ve decided the dating scene is great to get out and get to know someone. When you get to a stage where you would actually like to form a genuine and real relationship, you’ve got to get out of that mentality. Lately, I just go on 1 or 2 dates a month and prefer to meet someone who is interested in finding the right girl. It hasn’t been successful, but at least we’re both on the same page and no time is wasted with intentional one-daters.:)

By: Dana

Dana — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 16:21:34 +0000

Five was always my limit. More than that and I’d just get confused and start calling them all by the wrong names.

By: Lance

Lance — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 00:19:25 +0000

Around 3-4, although it depends on the market at the time. These days I’m emailing exactly 1 gal, but when I was really dating around, I’d email as many as possible.

By: Lou

Lou — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 11:28:00 +0000

I once had 6 fisrt dates six nights in a row – and it was maddening and hard to keep track of everyone – so I limit myself now to maybe 3-5 at a time that I am in the process of seeing for the first time. Once that gets to second or third date territory – I cut down even further – figuring that if I am going on a third date – things are going well – otherwise why go on the third date?

By: Eathan

Eathan — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 00:21:21 +0000

The most I’ve ever emailed is 8. Normally it’s around 4-5.

By: happygirl

happygirl — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 22:07:02 +0000

I would say that I would email 3 max 4 at a time. Dating more then one person at a time. I can honestly say 2 maybe. I personally feel it I date more then 2 then I am not giving it a proper chance to develop.

By: Elli

Elli — Sat, 25 Oct 2008 20:33:50 +0000

I will email with 5-6 men at a time. Rather quickly I will decide if the man is someone I’d like to meet. I do not want to email for a prolonged period of time. When I was new to this, I could (and did) write over 50 pages (yes, you read that right) to a guy before meeting. Now, a few emails, a phone conversation or two and that’s it. Time to meet.