Comments on: How Many Emails Do The Most Attractive Women Get Online?

By: Pinkie

Pinkie — Fri, 03 Feb 2012 01:41:21 +0000

Fairly attractive 25 year old woman… In my first 24 hours on Match, with two photos posted, I had 70+ emails and winks, three men favorite me, and went on my first date the next day. I’ve been on for one week now and am averaging about 40+ men contacting me in some way per day. It really is slightly overwhelming…

By: Chickenadobo1

Chickenadobo1 — Mon, 26 Dec 2011 05:50:03 +0000

Im late 30s in Vegas. Last summer, I put up my best pics and wrote a “nice” profile. I got 3000 views and over 1000 emails in the first month. I couldnt even go through half of them. Most were obviously copy/paste all messages. This winter I put up ok pics and wrote a “bitchie” profile and listed my age as early 30s. I got 7000 views, about 700 emails and About half of them were copy/paste alls.

By: AussiePistola

AussiePistola — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 07:07:48 +0000

Hi, I’m a 26 yr old guy, started trying dating sites recently. I hope my experience can spread some light on why ladies get so many messages.

When I started, I would go through my matches, carefully reading profiles, seeing if I thought I would get along with someone. If I thought we would get along, I would write a (I like to think) well thought out, witty and charming introductory message.

After about a week, and no responses, my introductions started getting shorter. I got a few responses and we would message back and forth, sometimes for weeks, but always when I prompted if they would like to chat real-time, the responses would stop dead.

After that, I started skimming profiles and sending shorter messages (surprisingly sometimes It would spark a response). The only girl I’ve ever chatted to off-site contacted me first, and we realised within our first conversation there was no attraction, but we had some things in common so are still online friends.

So I think girls not responding causes guys to start messaging more girls, which in turn causes girls to have to ignore more messages. I also think a lot of girls are on these sites for an ego boost, I know some girls that have boyfriends but are still on dating websites. I also think most girls are waiting to meet their knight in shining armour in a perfectly romantic moment, until they hit 30, realise they want kids, and start sending me winks.

By: Zaq

Zaq — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 15:28:03 +0000

If all men under 5 ft 10 give up OLD that could have a very beneficial effect, as MOST men are under this height.
If men over the age of 50, those without higher education, and those on average salaries got off as well, we could get rid of the complaints of inappropriate men contacting.

Surely then we could get the emails down to manageable numbers for the women to be able to email back, and have the added benefit of those left being of the required quality level.

I’m sure all the women here will be saying a big YES to this. Why isn’t some enterprising individual or group setting up an OLD site to give women what they actually want ? – not a bunch of losers

By: mstfd

mstfd — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 13:26:31 +0000

@ James…I’m sure you’re very attractive Goldie but as women get older they have to more accepting/cognisant of undesirable physical traits/baggage in a prospective partner because they don’t have figure they used to, may have baggage as well & have to accept that some men in their 40s (if single and affluent) will be chasing much younger women. Thus, their amount of choice is far less so compromises have to be inevitably made particularly with regards to looks.

No, James. You couldn’t be more wrong…I’m 48 and granted I do look at least 10 years younger than that. No problems with the 35-50 age group, just got tired of them responding to a picture and failing to read the ad. The man of my dreams I did meet was because of a blind ad that I ran-decided I was looking for substance, not just someone attracted to me physically. We plan to marry next year. He’s in his 40′s and very successful, not interested in girls, only intelligent women. Some men are mature…

By: anonymous

anonymous — Sat, 12 Nov 2011 04:45:35 +0000

I put up an experimental profile at okcupid. I listed myself as married (I am) and looking only for friends, and then told men they “probably shouldn’t” message me. It’s been one day, and I’ve received maybe 25 messages. Not so many, but I’m sure it would be more if I were single and encouraging. However, I’ve had hundreds of profile visits in a single day. My “average” number will get up to around 120, then get knocked down to 100. The has been at least one visitor at my profile at all times since I put it up. I’m 35 but significantly more attractive than average. The men who have messaged me fall between 19 and 50 years in age.

By: Dan

Dan — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 14:13:54 +0000

Girl I knew in London received over 500 messages in her first week on pof. Over 300 in her 2nd week. A min of 75 messages beyond that each week. She said most guys would spam her inbox send her numerous messages without even realising. These blokes must have been sending exact same messages to 100s of different girls.

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 13:29:22 +0000

former girlfriend was on match and she is pretty fit british slang for hot by the way. told me that she got about 200 messages in the first week and less in following weeks but still over 50 new messages a week. she got tired of dealin with it. most of the messages were from losers

By: Johnny

Johnny — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 13:11:53 +0000

Am always suspicious why a really attractive girl would be online in first place especially if she is in her twenties!!! Is it attention seeking, is she serious about finding someone? An attractive women can surely find someone offline!!
Anyway a girl I know (mid twenties) is online and she gets loads of messages. She’ is not really good looking and her profile is totally rubbish it is about 4 lines worth. Most the messages she gets are LAME!! Like ‘Your gawjus, fancy goin out?’ ‘Hi, you’re too nice for me but thought i’d send you a message anyway. hope to hear soon.’

By: James B

James B — Sat, 05 Nov 2011 11:57:19 +0000

@Goldie,

It wasn’t designed to be harsh, I’m just straight-talking Perhaps I should have rephrased it and agree that it’s not just women who need to make compromises as they get older. 5-10 years ago there’s no way I’d have gone out with someone who had a child or was say a size 14 (UK). It still wouldn’t be ideal but if the right person came along, I’d make the compromise. None of us are perfect after all!

But I think we can certainly agree that as man in your 20s/early 30s, unless you’re really at the top end of average height (5ft 10, 5ft 11), or taller (6ft +), you’re better pursuing other options than online dating particularly if you’d like a partner who’s attractive.

As for the tall comment, it wasn’t designed to be offensive but I think it’s common sense that if you’re a women of average height/a little shorter, you’re likely to appeal to a greater cross section of men (taller, average and short). For example, about 10 years ago, I was asked out by a girl who was 5ft 11 and she was very attractive. However, when she wore heels she was 6ft 3. I’d have felt like a small child with her seeing as I’m 5ft 9 so turned her down. I still would now to be honest.