@Kaitlyn 79

You are right in the “real world” people don’t ask SOME of those questions directly but as a man in the “real world” women would and still do “qualify” me by using conversation type qualifying questions like “where did you go to school?” ie: are you educated with a degree and if so where from? Or the famous one we men always get asked in social situations “what do you do?” ie: How much money do you make?Do you have a good job title? Can you afford me?

Of course we ask women “if they’re single” we want to gage their answer for interest.I also ask how many kids/ages in conversation so I know what I’m dealing with.

So yes in the real world upon meeting each other men and woman go about getting info and qualifying each other in different ways for different reasons but the internet has turned the “qualifying” process on it’s head.

It’s real easy for most of the women on this blog to say “just be 100% honest and let the cards fall where they may” that’s because you guys have never been a MAN online to see what goes on from our perspective.

Two wrongs don’t make it right.

One attracts those of similar maturity and character.

What I have found with on line dating and this approach, if I think about it, is I weed out people who don’t have the integrity and values that I appreciate.  I may not get as many interactions, but the ones I do get are of high quality.  I also never have to worry about remembering what I said on line, and I can focus on the person I am with, getting to know them, instead of being in my head, being someone I’m not.  (Most of the on line profiles I read of men, and I’ve read a lot!, comment that they just want the woman to be herself, to be authentic

@tk #78 “Sorry,you got thru the door but you’re not staying in”

I’ve “gotten thru the door” plenty of times and left when “I” decided to.If I could get responses by being 100% honest instead of “fudging” on things that are irrelevant and not physical,like,income,education,saying I’m “divorced” even though I’ve never been married…yadda yadda,yadda.After 13 yrs,I’ve learned the hard way.Some responses/dates are better than none.Just remember even if you don’t lie,you’re competing with AND emailng to people that are. You can’t change human nature.Fight fire with fire.

The internet has changed the dating/relationship landscape so drastically to the point where everyone has pointed out above,people(women) check off “little boxes” and when Mr.Model/Masters Degree/100K doesn’t show up they say “I tried the internet,there’s no good men on there”. Oh well…..

When online dating you can choose to only look at men/women that are between X and Y years of age, make $x amount, have X education,etc.  It is strange if you think about it.

@Tall #72
If someone passes you by because you’re 3 inches on height or 5 years on age who cares their are thousands more WILL welcome you.

That’s a statement coming from a woman who’s never been a man trying to date online.There’ AREN’T thousands more who welcome you.If that were true no men would lie because they would have too many options with 100% honest profile.There are very few for most average men.

And to try and explain to you why women prefer tall/taller men?……..It has nothing to do with sexual positions and everything to do with feeling feminine to the mans masculine. At 5’9″ I totally understand why women that are 5’8″ won’t answer me online.I don’t like it but I understand it.I actually prefer women that are shorter than me but I would never disqualify a woman who was attractive just because she was taller than me within reason.