Comments on: How Soon Should I Tell A Date That I’m a Virgin?

By: kay

kay — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 22:50:44 +0000

Hey,
If you are an extroverted person and fall fast and hard staying a virgin longterm is unrealistic. On the other hand if you are genuinely an introverted and or shy person, getting intimately close to another person–any other person–is a big deal and you shouldn’t do it unless you are with someone who appreciates or at least recognizes this element of your personality.
You don’t want to put yourself in the position of “getting rid of it” with someone who might say “that’s not a big deal”.
K

By: self controlled

self controlled — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 20:31:30 +0000

Yes i’m a virgin because women get rejected by men too its just no one wants to talk about it, no woman wants to admit that she gets rejected from men on a constant day to day basis.

I’m a virgin because:
1.) I get rejected by men a lot
2.) I found out a guys personality before things move to sex so i reject men also if i don’t like their personality
3.) I am efficient at masturbation and i have experienced 20,000 orgasms already i enjoy these very much so i’m not anti-sexual so i don’t need men for sex i need companionship
4.) It just never happened to me
5.) I feel uncomfortable making a real sexual history with men or women for that matter
6.) I have experienced sexual feelings for men and women but i can’t do jackshit about it if they don’t feel the same way likewise if they like me and i don’t like them either!!

By: marymary

marymary — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 11:44:12 +0000

Amira
Don’t waste any more of your time regretting what’s done.
And don’t live your life according to what shallow people or “most people” may or may not do. Especially when they’re not even people you know.

By: Amira

Amira — Wed, 31 Oct 2012 00:49:14 +0000

I was a virgin at twenty, and so far I have not met any guys (or girls) who have dropped me for that reason. Most of them directly pursued it. There are several reasons why things didn’t work out with them.
However, I was afraid that it was going to become a problem later, so I had sex with another virgin that I was not even physically attracted to. That’s the only thing I was looking for, really. Physical attraction. I didn’t neccessarily want commitment. The problem is that I am a little shy and hence don’t exactly meet a lot of people. So I chose to ‘get it over with’ as the saying goes, before it was too late.
What I think is that those guys or girls who refuse to DATE (as opposed to only have sex with) virgins purely because they are virgins just aren’t great communicators when it comes to sex. And I’ve noticed that most of them aren’t very open to feedback themselves. Sex is nothing but communication, so the quality of sex with those people is questionable. I would rather have sex with a virgin again than with someone who just can’t communicate what he/she likes. I’ve also noticed that people who DO seem to understand that communication is key aren’t afraid of telling a person with little experience what they like and how to do what. Sadly, they are harder to find than you’d think.
So looking back, I have mixed feelings about what I did. In a way I wish I could erase the memories because I am disgusted about ever having had sex with him. On the other hand, I still think it’s the rational thing to do because it can save you a lifetime of rejection later on. Most people only hear the word ‘virgin’ and they’ll start looking for the nearest exit. Don’t assume that they are going to stick around to hear your story, because what they’ll assume is that you’re rigid and don’t like sex, that you’re a ‘religious nutcase’, or that nobody wants you. All shallow reactions, yes. But they are likely to happen. Keep that in mind.

By: nathan

nathan — Mon, 15 Oct 2012 01:15:07 +0000

i think that its awesome that you wait till you know them better before sleeping with them. if i had a chance to get to know you i would love that bc i want to find a virigin wife.

By: self controlled

self controlled — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 18:41:36 +0000

Guess what i have even been to art college, social gatherings, i’m going to my 5th university and i have met so many people yet i’m still a virgin so that just proves beautiful well i know i’m not ugly and talented women still get rejected too.

By: self controlled

self controlled — Tue, 09 Oct 2012 18:39:00 +0000

I’m a virgin as well hey Lance you are being one sided the man rejected the woman for 3 months also.
I’m 24 i never expected to still be a virgin this long especially when i am known for being someone who has alot of drive and motivation.
There are times when i feel sadness for being completely ignored and rejected by man also. I start to feel a bit silly sometimes like i have many talents why still a virgin.
In my country you can have sex at 16 so think about it i have been rejected for 8 years by men too believe me rejection can hurt like hell but it just makes you stronger and now i’m applying for a job in marketing and sales.

By: Bscsb90

Bscsb90 — Fri, 31 Aug 2012 08:14:31 +0000

I’m 21, have pink blond and red hair.. Used to be blue and black I stand out a lot of people would would not guess that I was a Sunday school teacher for 6 years but also myself a virgin.. And For a reason. Not because “i cant get any”..My best friend lost hers at 14 and I’ve lost count of how many guys she’s been with.. 40 Probably.. She now has a 1yr old. And has a different guy every week at least, and I think that is disgusting. She has tried to set me up many times and I have denied their one night stands because I will not stoop to her level. She is extremely emotionally unstable, and incapable of committing. Has been “engaged” at least 5 times and she is 1 year younger than me.. So yeh.. I love my best friend but you know?
After observing her from the side over the years… Being the “3rd wheel” countless times. I have to say I am MUCH more proud to be a virgin than to have followed the crowd and end up with a baby on my hip!! And addicted to cigarettes! Or alcohol! Or drugs and No STDs! (which don’t have to do with virginity, that’s referring to things I didn’t follow the crowd on lol) so yeh.. I have options and am loving it…

By: Blessedlife

Blessedlife — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 03:01:21 +0000

I am a virgin but no one knows because I do it humbly and for the Lord. Please believe if it was up to me I would have been scored a touchdown. Moreover, I desire to be married and enjoy myself in the near future. In the meantime I will NOT tell a man up front that I’m a virgin. I told my ex I was a virgin early in the relationship and he tried too hard to get me in his bed. As a result, it may be a turn for a guy but its not any of his business until we both like/love each other for me to share my heart.

By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 03 Apr 2012 03:37:35 +0000

Being a virgin is a very, very, sad position to be in if its involuntary due to being put through rejection time and time again. I was a virgin until the age of 28. I was ready for sex and desired a sex partner since I was 16. For what ever reason no one ever cared enough to give the freedom to express my sexuality… And believe me I tried! After a tour of duty in Afghanistan, I was going to kill myself because no woman wanted me! I was litterally going mad… The when I got back home to Arizona, a budy of mine explained to me that women dont like a man who is NEEDDY or needs their comfort. I was rejected for so long and so many times, I had no self confidence towards women. This caused me to NEED them to like me … I tried extra extra hard! I bought my dates flowers and opened the doors for them at resteraunts… Buy the third date, I would even give my dates a 18k gold bracelet just to say thanks for not dumping me sooner. Being too nice always backfired… By the fourth or fifth date they usually would want to remain “just friends”. I didnt even have a chance to make an offer to have sex… Anyway, instead of killing myself, (at the time seemed like a viable option) I opted to allow my buddy to order a call girl (prostitute) so I could have a “make believe” girlfriend… one who cared enough about me to express her love and acceptance for me. The reason I was a virgin until the over-ripe age of 28… I just wanted a woman to accept me for who I was and to give herself to me as some sign that I was humanaly worthy, based on my own merits, to recieve her love with the joy of sexual freedom. Every man wants the same… ACCEPTANCE! Some of you women think sex is a vile evil pleasure that men want inflict upon women… Some of you women are so busy protecting your virtue-closet, that you fail to understand that sex is the ultimate expession of acceptance. If dont comfort the man you love with sex, ultimately he will feel rejected… After two-weeks to a month of rejection… any man in their right mind will walk away! Who wants to live in missery and rejection? One lady stated that her boyfriend went 3 months without having sex with her… That poor soul, he put up with all that rejection and then she has the nerve to walk away from the relationship because she was too busy protecting her virtue-closet! Give me a break! Selfish women who only think of themself as the center of the universe will no see any value in sex… Being selfish and creating a “qualification list” of 1001 conditions that must be met before sexual contact is permitted…. THAT IS NOT LOVE, its more like a job interview that files every interview in the “UNQUALIFIED” section of the virtue closet! People get real and start living in the human state you were born in!