Comments on: How Soon Should I Tell A Date That I’m a Virgin?

By: Florence

Florence — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 06:55:48 +0000

That’s what I needed to ear. Just got 20 not long time ago and still virgin. I will take your advise Evan when you said: ”I didn’t want to freak you out or make a big deal out of this, but I only want to have sex with someone that I’m in a committed relationship with. I’m really attracted to you, but until I’m sure that we’re going to be boyfriend/girlfriend, I have to keep saying no. How do you feel about that?”

I used to tell it right on to make things clear, because I don’t want to be attached to someone that will drop me when he’ll knows that i’m still a virgin. Anyway, thank you so much.

By: sheshe

sheshe — Sat, 13 Aug 2011 06:02:50 +0000

OMG! so I’m not the oldest living Virgin! I’m 34 year old African-American female ,my story is the same as the others but very ,very,very comlicated. when I was in school I became fast friends with a girl in college , she wasn’t raised like I was. long story short I became a mum at 25. Men dont want to get to know me because they assume I have baggage, that I have “baby daddy” issuses. so most of the time I have to block there stereotypes of me. I mean I have a child I had to have sex to have her….right? WRONG. It doesnt help that I’m pretty and that I’m a twin……she’s not a virgin.(she lost it at 25). whatvI think is funny is men say they want a women that loves her self and have class ,but the minute they find out you are a virgin its like they become weak…within two seconds. there out the door because you just became to much work, men are so use to transaction dont really want to work for it anymore , I want a man! period , and if I have to wait then so be it.

By: NotSettling

NotSettling — Thu, 07 Jul 2011 05:17:54 +0000

Hey I am 24 and still a virgin. Saved me so much heartache. These comments helped me because it seems that every guy I date who has been around will have these ominous expectations of me. I wonder what they really think about it though. In any case, at least I know I wont be hurt real bad and that my future spouse will appreciate me.

By: Bun

Bun — Sat, 26 Mar 2011 06:32:01 +0000

Many thx to this post!!
And Hely!! I have the situation,, exactly just the same one u have.. So glad knowing I’m not the only one who have this issue.

And thx Evan! Ure the best!

By: LL

LL — Thu, 20 Jan 2011 07:06:33 +0000

I’m 37 years old and I’m a virgin. I’m not embarrassed by it because it’s helped me weed out the good guys from the bad – there have been guys who’ve dropped me like a hot potato after finding out, others have laughed in my face upon hearing the “news” and teased me about it, others have broken up with me upon hearing about it. Do I miss any of them? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been propositioned by these guys who’ve tried to talk me out of my decision. Even friends have told me that I should just “get it over with” or “it’s not going to make you a bad person if you have sex”, but they’re also the ones who are complaining about having dated a guy for several years and haven’t yet gotten a wedding ring, or they’ve had to give their guy an ultimatum to get married or they’re going to break up. I don’t want that type of relationship.
I know how my heart works and if I were to have sex with guys that I date, I would be crushed and be an emotional wreck. That’s not worth it to me.
So as far as I’m concerned, I’m keeping my v-card even if I’m considered to be in the minority. I want a guy who loves and cherishes who I am…not just my “wet parts”.

By: Ladyblue

Ladyblue — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 17:29:35 +0000

Being a virgin sucks. I’m 28, still a virgin and I hate it so bad. I should have lost it when I was 20 and I have this amazing boyfriend who loved me, the only man in my entire life who has really loved me. But I was so stupid to believe that s… of waiting until getting married to pleased God. I really regret it every day. How could I be so idiot? In the first place, I’m sure that any “God” gives a damn about me.
Love isn’t real. Now I know that I have to find out someone who helps me get rid of “this”, just for me, without giving any love and of course, without expecting being loved. I know sounds sad, but life it’s hard, the world isn’t made of cotton candy.

Don’t make my mistake, if you feel like wanting to have sex, do it before all your friends get married and you are the only virgin single watching everybody having a life while you still trust in silly dreams, but without any real possibility of know what it feels like.

By: thegirl

thegirl — Thu, 13 Nov 2008 19:08:58 +0000

hey thanks for this article… it is very helpful and relieving.

By: Michael Ejercito

Michael Ejercito — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 00:30:37 +0000

My answer:

sometime between never and the end of time.

By: Yeng

Yeng — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 15:02:33 +0000

I think you dont have to be shy and worried of being a virgin because your still young . Bieng a virgin is sacred and blessed as written in the bible. Hely your husband soon deserves the first.

By: Daisy

Daisy — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:23:20 +0000

Hey I just wanted to say great advice everybody. I know men and women but mostly women that have been disappointed because of pressure that they feel to have sex with Mr. Right Now. Great advice and support for women to hear.