Comments on: What Makes a Man Attractive to Women? http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/ Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:00:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Pavlo http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-255638 Pavlo Sun, 05 Feb 2012 02:17:33 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-255638 @Meggie You mean you dumped him/ didn't give him a chance because he had a great idea and passion to build his dream home? Come on, is that the real reason? If you couldn't find a good reason to be with him at the time, either you didn't deserve him or the two of you just weren't meant for each other. Or perhaps you're too fussy, or the the type of woman who has an impossible-to-meet 'checklist' for every guy she dates. Good thing you broke it off then and not after he'd built his dream home. @Meggie
You mean you dumped him/ didn’t give him a chance because he had a great idea and passion to build his dream home?

Come on, is that the real reason?

If you couldn’t find a good reason to be with him at the time, either you didn’t deserve him or the two of you just weren’t meant for each other. Or perhaps you’re too fussy, or the the type of woman who has an impossible-to-meet ‘checklist’ for every guy she dates.

Good thing you broke it off then and not after he’d built his dream home.

]]> By: josh http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-160966 josh Fri, 17 Jun 2011 13:12:32 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-160966 Search for "How to be an attractive man" (A.Kisiel) on amazon.com   Pretty good common sense advices and tips Search for “How to be an attractive man” (A.Kisiel) on amazon.com
 
Pretty good common sense advices and tips

]]> By: sharon http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-87433 sharon Tue, 26 Oct 2010 08:11:55 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-87433 Astute observation, right on target.  I'm happy it was applied to both men and women as well Also, what I've noticed in my life, is that "passionate + proficient" men LOVE "passionate + proficient" women!  It's the quality I find unbelievably sexy and I've had men tell me is the #1 thing (aside from my smile :D) that attracts them to me. And the great thing about it is, you can't "game" it - you can't pretend to be proficient at something you're just awful at.  You can't talk your way out of something you just can not do.  What an equalizer. And if I'm honest, if I look back at the relationships that have failed and where I nose-dived it was in this area and this area alone.  My height never changed. My looks never changed. My hair never changed (okay, I did cut it. OMG! ;)) My personality, inherently, did not change. What changed was I started to lose either my passion, or get lazy doing the things I really loved - or a combination of both.  It's terribly powerful to get this on a personal level because then it's in my hands to take stock and move on, lesson learned.  I can't control the other person, what they do, or what they say.  I'm clear I'm 190% responsible for myself and my happiness. So now, I'm in a committed, exciting, fun, REAL relationship with a man who has these two qualities down pat. I can't say if we'll end up getting married, have babies etc etc. I can say he's a fantastic man who I love having in my life, around me, and inspiring me, and loving me and making me laugh! I love to get his love, all aspects of it.  In return, I give it back a hundred fold.  And this is a guy, who two years ago, I would not have really given the time of day because he didn't fit my idea of what my type was. Who knew I could be so wrong about what I thought I needed? It took a blind date for me to get out of my own way. :) Stay passionate at what you love, and what you're good at. And if you're not "good" yet, get good.  Mastery is rare in this self-indulgent, instant-gratification climate. It'll set you apart, in a good way. It certainly makes me stand up taller and enter a room confidently, not particularly caring who likes me and who doesn't.  I'm clear of the effort I've put into my own life.   Astute observation, right on target.  I’m happy it was applied to both men and women as well
Also, what I’ve noticed in my life, is that “passionate + proficient” men LOVE “passionate + proficient” women!  It’s the quality I find unbelievably sexy and I’ve had men tell me is the #1 thing (aside from my smile :D ) that attracts them to me. And the great thing about it is, you can’t “game” it – you can’t pretend to be proficient at something you’re just awful at.  You can’t talk your way out of something you just can not do.  What an equalizer.
And if I’m honest, if I look back at the relationships that have failed and where I nose-dived it was in this area and this area alone.  My height never changed. My looks never changed. My hair never changed (okay, I did cut it. OMG! ;) ) My personality, inherently, did not change. What changed was I started to lose either my passion, or get lazy doing the things I really loved – or a combination of both.  It’s terribly powerful to get this on a personal level because then it’s in my hands to take stock and move on, lesson learned.  I can’t control the other person, what they do, or what they say.  I’m clear I’m 190% responsible for myself and my happiness.
So now, I’m in a committed, exciting, fun, REAL relationship with a man who has these two qualities down pat. I can’t say if we’ll end up getting married, have babies etc etc. I can say he’s a fantastic man who I love having in my life, around me, and inspiring me, and loving me and making me laugh! I love to get his love, all aspects of it.  In return, I give it back a hundred fold.  And this is a guy, who two years ago, I would not have really given the time of day because he didn’t fit my idea of what my type was.
Who knew I could be so wrong about what I thought I needed? It took a blind date for me to get out of my own way. :)
Stay passionate at what you love, and what you’re good at. And if you’re not “good” yet, get good.  Mastery is rare in this self-indulgent, instant-gratification climate. It’ll set you apart, in a good way. It certainly makes me stand up taller and enter a room confidently, not particularly caring who likes me and who doesn’t.  I’m clear of the effort I’ve put into my own life.
 

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-27769 Anonymous Mon, 27 Apr 2009 03:12:29 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-27769 Another way to say it is in the words of Terry Pratchett: "people need fantasy to be human." This is why many women crush on rock stars, because it's the fantasy life! The reality is that a lot of the world is really soul-crushingly ordinary, and no one wants that. I've noticed that men who have something to offer, and joke or flirt with girls, they just pick up girls like flies. And women, well, lots of shy pretty women no one notices, but the outgoing lady who has something to offer (looks, intelligence, or for most men, preferably both) always has a boyfriend if she wants. I read that about 50% of the U.S. population are introverts and of course being introverted is seen as undesirable in U.S. culture, so this probably explains why the dating experts encourage people to joke and be cocky, so they don't just sit in the corner and look pretty and be lonely like many women and men do today. Another way to say it is in the words of Terry Pratchett: “people need fantasy to be human.” This is why many women crush on rock stars, because it’s the fantasy life! The reality is that a lot of the world is really soul-crushingly ordinary, and no one wants that. I’ve noticed that men who have something to offer, and joke or flirt with girls, they just pick up girls like flies. And women, well, lots of shy pretty women no one notices, but the outgoing lady who has something to offer (looks, intelligence, or for most men, preferably both) always has a boyfriend if she wants. I read that about 50% of the U.S. population are introverts and of course being introverted is seen as undesirable in U.S. culture, so this probably explains why the dating experts encourage people to joke and be cocky, so they don’t just sit in the corner and look pretty and be lonely like many women and men do today.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-27767 Anonymous Mon, 27 Apr 2009 02:43:48 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-27767 I think women and men are the same. Everyone wants to live the ritz life, be the hero, and have fun. Why would you want anything else? Would you want a man who sleeps in the basement, gets fat, and mopes about how he was born poor so there's "structural" discrimination against him, and this is why his fantasy writing career won't take off? Hell no! Or if you're a man, how would you like a woman who's cute, rich, fun, vivacious, and funny? Of course that's what everyone wants. It's just basic business sense though, to get that good deal you have to have something to offer! Being cocky is just a way of saying that you have the "ritz" going on in your life. Having humor just means you're fun. But they're just ways of faking the real deal, and it's best just to be what you want, and be your own hero, than fake it. I think Evan's advise to be passionate and proficient about something is great advise for women and men, because maybe it's not always easy to have the grand life, but that definitely puts you on the right road. In fact, I'm around a lot of rich girls, and that's one of my major turnoffs about them, they've got the trust fund mentality going on, so you know their life will just slowly rot -- many of them are proficient, but not passionate, so they're just so boring! I think women and men are the same. Everyone wants to live the ritz life, be the hero, and have fun. Why would you want anything else? Would you want a man who sleeps in the basement, gets fat, and mopes about how he was born poor so there’s “structural” discrimination against him, and this is why his fantasy writing career won’t take off? Hell no! Or if you’re a man, how would you like a woman who’s cute, rich, fun, vivacious, and funny? Of course that’s what everyone wants. It’s just basic business sense though, to get that good deal you have to have something to offer!

Being cocky is just a way of saying that you have the “ritz” going on in your life. Having humor just means you’re fun. But they’re just ways of faking the real deal, and it’s best just to be what you want, and be your own hero, than fake it. I think Evan’s advise to be passionate and proficient about something is great advise for women and men, because maybe it’s not always easy to have the grand life, but that definitely puts you on the right road. In fact, I’m around a lot of rich girls, and that’s one of my major turnoffs about them, they’ve got the trust fund mentality going on, so you know their life will just slowly rot — many of them are proficient, but not passionate, so they’re just so boring!

]]> By: Rob http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-17988 Rob Wed, 19 Nov 2008 16:42:36 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-17988 Nice post. It is so true. Ever since I followed my passion and purpose my success w women skyrocketed. You are pretty off the mark about one thing though. About 2 years ago I attended a seminar with some of the other instructors from Love Systems, The Mystery Method and RSD and there was an emphasis on following your passion and purpose. This is definitely not a new concept. In fact, it is a really old one and dating science has since gotten far more advanced. Nice post. It is so true. Ever since I followed my passion and purpose my success w women skyrocketed.

You are pretty off the mark about one thing though. About 2 years ago I attended a seminar with some of the other instructors from Love Systems, The Mystery Method and RSD and there was an emphasis on following your passion and purpose.

This is definitely not a new concept. In fact, it is a really old one and dating science has since gotten far more advanced.

]]> By: JuJu http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-13156 JuJu Wed, 27 Aug 2008 00:26:09 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-13156 Rachael and others, it's a value judgment. Which is what the post I originally replied to also stated. Rachael and others,

it’s a value judgment. Which is what the post I originally replied to also stated.

]]> By: Rachael http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-13142 Rachael Tue, 26 Aug 2008 22:53:01 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-13142 Hmm. Having taken many dance classes with my husband, I have to say that there's nothing sexier (and hence, to me, more masculine) than a man who can dance - and is willing to do so. In my opinion, of course. Your mileage may vary. (We tango. We also swing, waltz, foxtrot, cha cha, rhumba, and samba. And we're both under 40....) Hmm.

Having taken many dance classes with my husband, I have to say that there’s nothing sexier (and hence, to me, more masculine) than a man who can dance – and is willing to do so.

In my opinion, of course. Your mileage may vary.

(We tango. We also swing, waltz, foxtrot, cha cha, rhumba, and samba. And we’re both under 40….)

]]> By: JuJu http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-13133 JuJu Tue, 26 Aug 2008 21:07:31 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-13133 When he asked "like what?", I replied, "electronics, cars, weapons, anything!" And who says I can't dance? I am trained in belly dance and flamenco. When he asked “like what?”, I replied, “electronics, cars, weapons, anything!”

And who says I can’t dance? I am trained in belly dance and flamenco.

]]> By: Abdul Muhamed http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/comment-page-1/#comment-13122 Abdul Muhamed Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:25:39 +0000 http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/how-to-attract-women-like-a-rock-star-is-passion-and-skill/#comment-13122 “YET. And if you have to be so passionate about something, I’d rather it were something more masculine than a form of dance.”

He he he… Whatever. There are “masculine” dances, like capooera and forms of brakedance… Anyways, if you can’t dance, there are pepole who can…

Cheers. :)

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