When Girlfriends Attack
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Generally, it happens along party lines – she keeps the friends she entered with, you do the same. If this is the way things are occurring for you, John, it’s sad, but not the least bit surprising. Even if her friends liked you, from their perspective, you hurt her and they’re going to defend her. Yes, even if it’s unfair. Yes, even if it’s irrational. Yes, even if she hurt you worse with her actions than you hurt her with your words. But then again:
Parents harbor their children who commit crimes.
Battered wives won’t press charges against their husbands.
So why should it be at all surprising when friends will be fiercely loyal, even without taking into account the full set of circumstances.
The fact is, buddy, she has their ear, she’s done the spinning, and no amount of he said/she said is going to magically curry favor with your former friends.
So chalk these people up to what they are – simple, rude, and fickle – and let them go. You can plead all you want, but you’re never going to get a fair trial.
Evan
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3 Comments »Filed Under Letting Go
smartcookie 1
This situation is textbook commitment phobe. I had the same thing happen to me, although it only lasted 4 months, minus the friend drama. Check out the book He’s Scared, She’s Scared-it’s eye-opening.
LovesAGame 2
See it from this perspective: they aren’t real friends anyway. Real friends would have listened to both sides before they abandoned you. So it’s no loss.
The good thing was that you stood up to her, albeit being drunk. Many would have crawled back to her.
So you did good.
All the best,
Eddie Corbano
Shalini 3
I all tohse people are not your real friends. It seems they just believed the lopsided story your ex- girl friend told them about how you were wrong coz I dont see where you were wrong. Any sensible person with self respect would do the same!!!
Would any of your so-called friends (if they were in your position) say to her, “Oh, how sweet of you to have pity on me and decided to let me be of some use to you!”???
She really was being selfish!! And nothing else.