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As you know, one of the most fascinating things about dating is how there’s always more than meets the eye. And what we want to happen on a date doesn’t always correspond to what REALLY happens on a date.
So, just for a second, I want you think of the date to whom you were MOST attracted upon your first meeting.
Just seeing him gave you butterflies.
Just thinking about him made you tingle.
And when you weren’t with him, all you could think about was being with him again.
That attraction is an intoxicating feeling. But what happens when you’re that intoxicated by a man?
Well, if you’re like most women, you become a little obsessive. You check your cell phone constantly to see if he called or texted.
The moment you put a man on a pedestal, he’s immediately looking down at you.
You become a little needy. You talk to your friends about HIM and share his emails and all the details of your conversations.
You become a little tongue-tied. You don’t want to say the wrong thing, so you say nothing. Or you say something that’s so dumb that you can’t believe it even came out of your own mouth.
You become a little nervous. You like him so much that you don’t want to mess things up. You’re not as easygoing or charming or relaxed when he’s around.
You become overly excited by him. You let him know that you see a future. You issue compliments and proclamations that are immensely flattering to this new man.
You become a little weak. You’re so impressed with him and so concerned with what he thinks, that you put him up on a pedestal, where you think he belongs.
This is what I call The Pedestal Principle:
“The moment you put a man on a pedestal, he’s immediately looking down at you.”
This is the unfortunate part of what it means to be intoxicated by a man.
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