Comments on: How To Guarantee A Guy Calls You After Sex

By: Jasmine

Jasmine — Sun, 05 Feb 2012 01:11:53 +0000

Adam don’t tell Mary where you live, tell me

By: A.L.

A.L. — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 20:35:06 +0000

I’m a 24 year old, single professional mother. I came across this article at just the right time. I have been seeing a man for about 3 months. At first everything was WONDERFUL. He was SOOO into me – or so it seemed. He said he wanted to be “exclusive” (only see each other) but not “official.” Within the first month, I didn’t think anything of it. Because we were just getting to know each other. After the 2 month mark, it became clear he was drifting away. I knew what it meant. I freaks out, panicked and acted extremely needy. FURTHER pushing him away.

Finally I decided I didn’t want to be used to for sex anymore. At first I thought cut him off completely. I came across this article about words vs actions. So true! Thank you, Evan!!!

So after this I realized being “used” for sex is sometimes a state of mind. I decided to use him back. We went out last Saturday, hooked up and immediately afterward, I left. He asked me to text him when I got home (I live an hour away.) … But I never did. I detached myself from the strong feelings I had and was the guy for once. And he reacted in a way he hasn’t in over a month. Texting, calling, pursuing ME. WELL… Buddy, lost his chance. But I think I’m learning about the difference between men and women. And next time, I’ll be a LOT smarter.

By: Star

Star — Thu, 12 Jan 2012 22:21:18 +0000

The dating thing is sooo hard! Just a lot of work, get your hopes up only to have them dashed. The things that have worked for me are… 1) letting a guy know that I am interested in going out with him, someone I choose, not the men who ask me out as I find those dates go nowhere as I am usually not interested in them. I choose the guys, let them know I’m interested and then go out with them, 9 times out of 10 we hit it off in some way and I enjoy the dates much more and most have ended in short relationships. 2) knowing my boundaries and not ever letting a guy cross them, if a guy is not contacting me entusiastically by telephone and consistantly about going out or getting to know me then I don’t go out with him. 3) the whole sex thing, most men will chase you for it if they like you enough and if you make them chase by not calling them (like NEVER!), don’t be available all the time, insist on dates (not just hanging out), make them work for it, don’t be all nice to them, make them work hard for at least 3 months, they want to work this hard and want to chase. and really I don’t even believe it if they say its an LTR or an exclusive thing before they have sex with you, i’ve been dumped or cheated on after sex after having all those agreements in place … never a sure a thing. best thing to do is watch his actions, don’t put up with any crap, call him on all of it, do not persue him, and if he’s making you a part of his life, meeting friends, family etc etc the more entrenched you are in his life, the better chance you have of not getting dumped after you do the deed you can fool around with him though, just keep control, no actual intercourse… if he walks before that, oh well. And discreetly date other guys on the side so you do get your needs met, we all have needs

By: Rachel

Rachel — Wed, 02 Nov 2011 12:46:43 +0000

@ no 25 I have the same problem, I have dated many guys from online as I don’t seem to meet any potential dates in real life, some of them I slept with too early and some I waited or didn’t sleep with them at all but all had the same outcome.

They all tell me how great I am and seem really into me then get scared once they feel I like them back, it’s like game over for them.

The latest guy I dated was really into me and we clicked, we eventually slept together and he went all cold on me, he said he didn’t feel we clicked in the bedroom yet he still really fancied me. To be honest I would have rather slept with him earlier to find this out, this is not the first time I have waited only for the guy to say the sex wasnt for him. Yet when I sleep with a date early on they seem to want more, but not a relationship.

I have learned that as a woman I really can’t win whatever I do.
I have given up on dating. It has not made me feel good about myself.

By: drumrdame

drumrdame — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 23:45:04 +0000

Sapphire: Thank you soooooooooooooo much for telling the Truth. It’s so true that sex b/f marriage is adultery, fornication. There is a reason why God provided these peramiters-to keep us safe. I can’t tell you how painful and long-lasting (whether you want to admit it or not women) the feelings can be after you slept with a guy and he them becomes part of your history and just a memory-negative ones.
Anyhow, it’s not easy at all to find a guy who will wait, Christian or not, but obviously it’s worth it. Yes, a relationship cannot survive on Sex. Sex does not pay the bills, it does not provide answers to problems…

By: MH

MH — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 03:15:40 +0000

I think if he is looking for sex, he will try to press his luck when he first meets you and/or talks to you. I met one man who is a player, who has enticed by one woman who made him go out of his way to find her.

I’ve made myself too available to some men and have felt hurt/used and disappointed because once they get sex, most likely they will never think of you/keep in touch with you after.

By: Katarina Phang

Katarina Phang — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 03:07:33 +0000

Anna, yes. We’ve been talking back and forth about this on the other thread.

I’m with you in regards of sex. Lighten up, it’s just sex…it won’t kill you just because you have sex because you want it (even if he disappears after that), a huge part of why we are here in the first place.

By: Anna

Anna — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 23:06:17 +0000

I personaly don’t think sex has anything to do with the guy calling you or not. If he likes you he will call wether you sleeping with him on the first date or not.

Think about it sex nowadays is easy anyone can get laid, so if it’s not you it will be someone else. So why not enjoy the experiance, as long as you have fun. What is the harm?

By: Fullmoon69

Fullmoon69 — Sat, 20 Aug 2011 15:17:35 +0000

Adam, You sound wonderful

By: yumyumfoodrecipes.com

yumyumfoodrecipes.com — Sat, 21 May 2011 02:54:46 +0000

Well there is no guarantee that after having sex, the guy would be calling you..Unless he likes you a lot and have this little feelings with you.