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One of the most common things I hear from my clients is this: “I understand that I have to compromise on some things to be in a relationship, but how do I know WHAT I should compromise on?”
If you’ve ever asked yourself the same question, I understand.
There have been a number of times in your past when you thought you met the “right” man…and yet he turned out, like all the others, to be WRONG.
The entire time I was dating my wife, I wasn’t sure whether I was making the right decision.
I wanted to be sure in my heart.
I wanted to feel that sense of blind confidence.
I wanted to “just know” that she was the “right” person for me.
But as you know, there have been a number of times in your past when you thought you met the “right” man…and yet he turned out, like all the others, to be WRONG.
So much for “knowing”.
As a dating coach, I’m constantly working with you to refine your choices – to ensure that you don’t waste time on the wrong men, and learn to invest in the good ones.
It’s not easy. It doesn’t always come naturally. But it has some incredible rewards.
Which is why I want to tell you what REALLY matters in a man…
Yesterday, I was instant messaging an old friend on Facebook. Tami’s a delightful person whom I’ve known since early childhood – attractive, athletic, intelligent, funny, successful, and the mother of two beautiful children.
She also told me that she’s getting divorced.
Her husband cheated on her multiple times – and Tami’s rightfully furious.
She’s questioning the meaning of her entire relationship.
She’s questioning how she’s ever going to find love again in the future.
Most of all, she’s questioning her own judgment, which is the hardest thing to do when you pride yourself on being intelligent and rational.
From what little I learned about Tami and her husband, it seemed clear that she willfully ignored his selfish, narcissistic tendencies because of what came with the rest of the package – cute, smart, successful, etc.
Have you ever done the same thing? I’m betting you have. And I’m betting that you’re a lot better off without that guy than you are with him.
Which brings me to the crux of today’s post: how do you KNOW if someone is a good guy or a bad guy?
For this answer, I want to enlist another story – that of Jean-Dominique Bauby – the former editor of French Elle magazine, who, after suffering from a stroke, became completely paralyzed, except for his left eyelid.
Bauby’s story was immortalized in the movie, “The Diving Bell and the Butterfly”, but it really got me to thinking:
If you had EVERYTHING taken away from you – your body, your job, your whole self-definition – what would you be left with?
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