Comments on: I Am In Love With a Man Who Wants Me To Stay With Him While He Dates Another Woman.

By: Kate

Kate — Tue, 27 Nov 2012 02:28:04 +0000

I’ve been with a jerk for 3 years. It was totally my fault, and I’ve ended it only a while ago. I finally plucked up the courage…
It was a difficult journey, and harsh though trough words may not always be enough. Site called baggagereclaim.com & the author’s book Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl helped me a great deal on my way. Women like Terry (and me) are often afraid to deal with their own feelings. I recalled my actual first love I could never quite “digest”… Go on, face what you feel however painful or awkward it can be and good luck!

Sincerily,

Evan’s former Focus padawan

P.S. Evan, I hear you better now lol! I’ve read this story a second time without being in denial and was able to acknowledge every word here.
P.P.S. There’s still such a coaching opportunity because of us, poor Fallback souls…

By: Paragon

Paragon — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 05:43:39 +0000

This may not be what women want to hear, but physically attractive men are going to be high-risk for promiscuity, regardless of how open they are about it, simply by virtue of their options.

So, alot of women who *think* they are in an exclusive relationship with a man, are actually sharing him with their GFs – and this happens alot more than you might think.

And from my personal observations, there is no shortage of women who would accept(and thus enable) such behavior willingly rather than trade down – to a lesser guy with less options.

By: Casey

Casey — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 13:27:55 +0000

I agree with Melissa @ 36 (and got a chuckle)…..WTF…about the whole situation!

By: Josie

Josie — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 02:21:20 +0000

Melissa #2 said it best, Evan. Love reading all your articles/letters. She needs “a few gallons of self-esteem”! Classic.

By: My two cents from Philly

My two cents from Philly — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 02:23:04 +0000

Terri, run before he asks you to have a threesome with her (perhaps he already has)? He sounds like a very entitled type who thinks he can pull that off with the two of you since you are both cool with the triangle. You deserve someone who is into you and only you. You will live a life of pain with this degenerate.

By: JuJu

JuJu — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 20:02:01 +0000

When a guy begged me to stay I was flattered too until I realized what was really going on. He didn’t want me to stay so that he could love me. He wanted me to stay so that I would continue to love him.

Wow, this is deep. I never had this situation happen to me, but this should be, like, tattooed in every woman’s brain – it’s so profound and true.

By: starthrower68

starthrower68 — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 22:22:03 +0000

“While no discipline seems pleasant for the moment, in time it yields the peacable fruit of righteousness”. Sometimes the right thing to do is the thing we don’t want to do and we listen to our emotions. The pain of leaving this situation is much greater than the pain of staying in it is and will be. Hope deferred makes the heart sick.

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 18:04:12 +0000

Here is an interesting article for the OP--helps explain why we fall for people who treat us badly! Hope things are working out for you... http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beautiful-minds/201001/why-are-narcissists-initially-so-popular

By: Ronnie Ann Ryan - The Dating Coach

Ronnie Ann Ryan - The Dating Coach — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 14:50:10 +0000

I applaud your honesty Evan! You put it out there in black and white. You didn’t sugar coat anything – you made it blatantly clear so there can be no misunderstanding. That was brave and well done from one dating coach to another. I hope Terri can take in this advice and move forward in her life with some newly found self-esteem.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 20:41:57 +0000

I just keep shaking my head at the “she’s taken over most domestic duties” line.
Like its some honorary rite of passage or privilege that she no longer gets to wash his dirty underwear???? WTF????
We can only feel sorry for her to a certain extent if that is her mentality.