He deserves someone that thinks he is the ssexiest, smartest, most attractive man ever. He is a guy that deserves in return what he is giving (which is 100% of himself)…if you can’t give it to him..then allow him the chance to find someone else who will.

I am sorry to say it like that…but it is true.

It takes Two to Tango. Otherwise you’re dancing alone. You’re not on the same page.

It’s NOT enough that this man feels big attraction for this woman.

From her comment it sounds she is much more attractive than him. Getting someone less attractive than you to get interested and attracted to you is one of the easiest, most instantaneous things to happen.

Just look at the older men out there (usually wealthy) with a woman younger and more attractive than them. Many of these sugar daddies “swear” they’re in love. They’re in lust. It’s very possible that the boyfrient of the OP is “in-lust” with her due to her being much better looking than him. Maybe she’s the most attractive woman he’s been able to date, and his being in-lust is not allowing him to see the reality of the situation, that she doesn’t like him.

Romantic relationships require sexual intercourse, kissing, making out.

You need chemistry for this. Otherwise it will feel wrong, like a chore, and maybe even disgusting later in the future.

The OP feels no chemistry for the man, eventually (maybe it’s happening already) she will try to avoid kissing, making out, and get out of having intercourse with him.

If they stay together and have children:

1. What kind of an example will be to them, a passionless couple.

2. When the OP finally denies the man physical intimacy, or ends up meeting a man she really wants to be with, the marriage will end up in divorce. The kids living in separate homes, drama with the new boyfriend/girlfriend, new step parents, and finding a new mate who will accept you with children.

About the man in this relationship:

1. He’s being kind of selfish: He must have at least some kind of idea that this woman is not inlove with him, yet he’s trying to seal the deal faster than a speeding bullet. He’s not thinking/caring about her needs as a sexual being with hormones.

2. He’s very insecure: a confident person man/woman looks for someone who wants us physically because we feel we deserve to be wanted. A confident man doesn’t settle for someone who seems so unsure of him, because he knows there’s someone else out there who will just want to rip his clothes off as soon as they get home.

3. He’s not very intellingent: he’s not thinking about what a horrible future could be waiting for them around the corner. It’s a lot more likely that a woman cheats on a man she’s not attracted to.

About this woman:

1. She’s very insecure of her thoughts and feelings: She knows in her gut that she’s not romantically attracted to this man, there’s no chemistry on her end. Yet, she has to ask everybody what action she should take when it’s all about her feelings, her attraction, whether she likes or doesn’t like this man. She already has the answer, yet her insecurity, lack of self-trust is not enough for her to say “hey, I’m not into this guy, what am I doing here? I should be out there, meeting new people because even thought I care about this man, there’s no romantic future here” This woman has self-esteem issues and believes she’s not going to find someone with whom to have a normal romantic relationship, so she sticks with the first guy that accepts her. She needs therapy, and to mature a little more.

2. She’s being selfish: In a big way she’s using him as a safety blanket. No one should be used like that. He deserves someone who is inlove with him, we all do.

3. She’s not thinking: about the future. In most cases things get more challenging, especially living together, raising children and all the stress that brings about. That’s why chemistry and liking your partner is so important, it helps us get thru it all because we feel that we’re doing it along with Ms. Mr. Right.

Trivially observed, this dynamic manifests most apparently of females in the single demographic, where the longer they stay on the shelf(or riding the carousel), the more maladapted they are likely to be to long term gains(with respect to LTRs) – and the less likely they are to ever ‘pair-off’.
 
The indications are(with rare exceptions), that they are unwilling to trade off a concern for sex in exchange for long term gains(relationship security, and correlated benefits). 
 
And the reality is, that, given female selectivity(manifest through their role as the rate limiting morph in reproductive success), the majority of females will never be able to reconcile sexual satisfaction with monogamy since most will not be  able to hold the interest of a *much* smaller population of ‘choice’ males with inexhaustable options(think Pareto’s principle, for an approximate distribution of sex – with males the ‘fatter tailed’ distribution – and you will begin to understand the dynamic behind the prevailing sexual market place in developed world populations).  
 
So, I think we can safely conclude that females who are obstinate about not trading off looks, for relationship security are not really serious about pursuing a LTR with reasonable prospects(instead of trying to land the hypothetical hunky rich guy with a BBW fetish), forgetting that a small and select population of ‘choice’ males(which greater female selectivity ensures) cannot logically ‘pair-off’ with a *much*(much!) larger population of choosy females(who all want the same small pool of men – and who are all equally unwilling to ‘settle’).
 
My sympathies to Evan, as he has quite a difficult task(at least in helping the women to realize whether or not they are *genuinely* looking for love – which will *always* entail compromises, and trade-offs(particularly in terms of male attractiveness)- or whether they are only willing to indulge an ideal, which is nowhere indicated in liklihood). 
 
It is clear, of the many female apologists that frequent this blog, that they either have no interest in LTRs, or are hopelessly maladapted to them.
 
Which, of course, begs the question of their investment in this blog(except as a medium to ply their rank apologism).