So here’s a quick and easy way of acting in your own self-interests AND acting ethically. I know the second part doesn’t matter as much to you, but I have to throw a bone to our readers, who comprise a vigilantly ethical community. Step 1: Break up with your boyfriend. I know it’s not as easy or as fun as it may sound, but it probably beats the alternative, getting married to him and secretly carrying on affairs behind his back, or, worse, having him discover your flirty emails and texts to his old friend. The good news about breaking up with your boyfriend is that you’re free to flirt with whomever you want, whether or not he’s married, engaged, living with someone, or, perhaps even single.
You’re not doing anyone any favors by trying to make either of these relationships work. Start fresh and pray that you find a guy who doesn’t learn of your tendency to want to hook up with his friends.
Step 2: Let the friend know that you’re now single. See how excited he is that his friend’s girlfriend is now officially available for the taking. I know he hasn’t returned your last two emails, but he’s probably just being shy. He’ll be thrilled at the opportunity to stab his buddy in the back and destroy that relationship for a hookup. Step 3: Pick up the pieces and get help. You’re a danger to men, you’re a danger to yourself. You’re initiating infidelity with your serious boyfriend’s friend by sending him pictures, calling him, texting him and saying that you want to be good friends with him. Let’s call a spade a spade: you’re a selfish girlfriend who’s trying to figure out the best way to lie behind your boyfriend’s back. You deserve all the bad karma that you have coming to you. Oh, and despite the highly sarcastic tone of this piece, I truly do recommend you follow Steps 1, 2, and 3. You’re not doing anyone any favors by trying to make either of these relationships work. Start fresh and pray that you find a guy who doesn’t learn of your tendency to want to hook up with his friends.
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