This is not easy, but it’s the easiest thing you have to do.
After all, you have an idea of what proper behavior is – but due to your shaky self-esteem and your past, you end up accepting far less, just to have SOMEONE.
Guy texts you once every two weeks for a booty call? Delete his number.
Guy doesn’t want to take you out for dinner, introduce you to his friends, call you his girlfriend? Cut him loose.
Guy tells you that you’re obese or an emotional basket case? Dump him.
Will you end up getting rid of pretty much every guy in your life? Yep.
Will you be losing anything? Nope. The only thing you lose is the toxic energy that you’ve allowed to swirl around you for so many years.
Start surrounding yourself by good people. You are the company you keep.
Next, start surrounding yourself by good people. Kind women. Ones with healthy self-esteem, solid jobs, and positive relationships. That’s one of the hardest parts of being in your early 20’s – everyone’s so screwed up and finding themselves, there are few role models to be found.
Find them anyway.
You are the company you keep. Surround yourself with slackers, or druggies, or people with any sort of self-destructive tendencies, it will be doubly hard to raise yourself from that morass. You need to mirror the behaviors of good decision-makers with high self-esteem in order to break your cycle. It does not come naturally.
If you do this, you will have taken care of the external by minimizing your interaction with bad men and bad friends. Now you’re just left with yourself. And that’s going to take a lot more work.
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