1) Keep the status quo. Talk to your ex-boyfriend every day. Keep your dangerous fantasies alive. Lie to your current boyfriend. Close off the possibility for true closeness and intimacy.
2) Cut off the ex entirely because he DUMPED you. Give yourself to the man who is NOT dumping you. Watch as your relationship grows with your committed efforts. Learn the meaning of true love.
Most of us cling to our fantasies as long as we can because a piece of us dies when we let them go.
The only thing you lose when you cut off the ex is this: the fantasy that it’ll eventually work out. Most of us cling to our fantasies as long as we can because a piece of us dies when we let them go. But for you to truly move on, you HAVE to tell your ex that it was nice knowing him and best of luck in the future. Sure, he’ll beg to come back – because that’s HIS self-preservation mechanism – but you will be strong enough to resist him.
You know why?
Because you’ll be looking in the eyes of your real boyfriend – the one who wants to be with you.
I assure you, it’s a much better view.
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