Comments on: I Love My Ex-Boyfriend, But He Only Calls Me When He Wants Phone Sex

By: JoJo

JoJo — Thu, 29 Nov 2012 10:21:22 +0000

thank you girls. I feel full of strength now. I am ending the same situation with my user.

By: Cathy T

Cathy T — Sat, 05 May 2012 14:30:46 +0000

Respect yourself! You are like his puppet and he’s pulling the strings when he wants to jerk off! This situation is happening because you have let him do that to you. If you decided to move on then it’s time to change your number or just ignore his calls. Think about it.

By: Jenna

Jenna — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:53:48 +0000

These guys don’t care if you cut them off anyway, they don’t care about your feelings either. They think they are so slick and smooth, well ladies, you’re better than that, stop being his doormat! Just tell yourself over and over again that you are worth much more than that. You might be emotionally unavailable as well, and he could be your safety blanket too, he’s the fall back guy too. Read more about self awareness, it’s time to think about what you want, not what he wants. Just tell him your involved with someone and it’s going good and tell him that you can’t take his calls anymore. Put your energy into loving yourself not a mirage. Honestly, doesn’t it feel like a huge waste of time? Is there something else in your life that you’re avoiding? People can be used like any other addiction as well, what are you escaping from? Think about it.

By: Tammy

Tammy — Mon, 15 Aug 2011 11:41:12 +0000

Just told my ex where to get off, I am worth more than his sexual advances

By: Kayla

Kayla — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 16:44:31 +0000

I googled this right after I got off the phone with my ex who’s always calling me up for phone sex! I didn’t give in this time, and after reading this, I’m glad I ignored his advances.

While I thought I could ‘make use’ of him as well, I know it’s not easy cos I’d just end up feeling hurt & used. And yes, I always do, right after doing it.

So, ladies, who else is there to protect our dear, delicate hearts if it’s not us? :)

By: Denise

Denise — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 17:38:19 +0000

#10 Sher

I love the attitude! They can only to do us what we allow them to do. So your direction is right in regard to having a stronger boundary.

By: sher

sher — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 08:55:37 +0000

Ladies, let’s stand together and kick these cads to the curb! I mean, really, just who do these clowns think they’re dealing with anyway? I’m planning my “departure” from this kind of treatment. I deserve far better and John is lucky he’s “had” me this long…

By: sher

sher — Mon, 29 Nov 2010 08:49:30 +0000

Shari,
I am currently the sex girl for a guy I knew 25 years ago. He had a huge crush on me and I never returned to crush. I went to see him a few months into my separation from my husband and he was all over me. I was shocked, but kinda flattered, cuz I thought he was making up for lost time (gawd I sound like an idiot here lol). I thought oh, John still thinks I’m hot. Well fast forward to 9 months later and he only calls me when he wants me to come over for sex and that only turns out to be once every 5 weeks or so, sometimes longer. My divorce is nearly final, and I told myself that he’s been uncomfortable “seeing” me in public (cuz my ex is a controlling cop) so he wants to be discreet and when my divorce is final, thngs will change. Well, how hard is it to send a text or call occasionally? Sure he’ll talk to me when I call him, but it’s rarely for more than 5 minutes. Now another guy from the past is in the picture and he could be after sex too, but the difference is this new guy “Charlie” calls me and talks to me almost daily. Charlie brought me flowers and took me out to dinner and drinks when he visited from out of town. John has never given flowers, John forgot my birthday too. I think I need to kick John to the curb. So even if Charlie isn’t Mr. Right, at least he’s got the decency and manners to act like a nice guy, give me some nonsexual attention and remember my birthday. I’ve been too nice to John and he’ll never find anyone who holds a candle to me. His loss!!!!

By: Denise

Denise — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 22:53:59 +0000

The fact about men, in addition to their actions do all their talking for them as EMK mentions, is they will also take what is given them. If the woman continues to be phone sex girl, once in awhile sex girl, etc., then who is he to say no? I’m not saying that all men are bad, I’m just saying that’s how they work. The women they end up falling for are the ones that stand up to their bad behavior with their strong boundaries.

Like Shari said, if the woman understands what’s going on and can handle it, then that’s fine (although women have strong physical reactions to having sex, which they can’t control, it’s natural and hormonal). Most of us can’t though, without developing feelings for a man we’re sharing our body with.

(Also would like to add that there’s a lot of projection that goes on in on line or long distance relationships. Nothing really counts in regard to a man courting a woman until the two people are physically together. So talking on the phone for 6 months and seeing each other for 3 days means you’ve been on three dates with the man, NOT have been dating him for 6 months.)

By: wendy

wendy — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 19:49:24 +0000

shari,

I have been going through the same thing for 8 months now, plus my guy was seeing other women.
you couldn’t have put it better and what you write gives me strenght
Thanks!